what can i do to get my bf's attention more with out being anoying??...and how can i show him that i trust him .??..and what can i do to make my bf and i relationship better without him really noticing that iam so he thinks i changed..?
2006-09-03 20:01:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
me and my bf are 17 and have a baby..just leting ya know..
2006-09-03 20:01:57 · update #1
I suggest that the two of you spend one night a week with each other, alone. Go out, have fun, whatever it is, do it together. Also don't forget to include alone time just for you alone. You also need that time away from each other too. Use this time as reflection on yourself.
As far as getting your bf's attention, just sit down and talk to him. Tell him what your needs are. Be open-minded and compromising. Maybe there is some reason to him not being as close to you as he once was.
The fact that you two have a child together does complicate things as well and being you both are only 17 doesn't help. I think he feels trapped by his responsiblities and what he wants to do. Part of him maybe feels like he should be there for you and the kid, but another part may feel like getting out and enjoying himself with his friends, doing what they do. You also may feel insecure and unsure of what to do. You might even be thinking or feeling the same thing. Talk about it with each other. Maybe you both will realize that you both have the same needs and wants.
By allowing alone time together with each other and by yourself, will allow any stress and tension to subside and make it easier for the two of you to handle situations more calmly.
2006-09-03 20:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by Lonewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wish I knew the exact answer to this question because if I did I wouldn't have just lost my boyfriend. I am 24 and he is 26 and it seems like people are always having problems. The best advice I was given was from my mother. She said that no matter how bad it seems, you should always be yourself because if you are acting any other way than it will just get exhausting. I don't know how you are dealing with your situation while you have a child, and I assume that child is not with the current boyfriend so I just want to say hats off to you. If it seems like your boyfriend is losing interest than make him want to be interested again. Don't pay attention to him as much, have your own life, involve your attention into your child and maybe he will come around. But even if he doesn't, pay attention to your baby. You created it and it needs you more than anyone else needs you. You talk about trust like the guy doesn't trust you. Why doesn't he trust you. Maybe he is really freaked out that you already have a baby and he doesn't want to take on that kind of responsibility. Sex it up a little bit. I know I said to act like yourself but you could also do something completely out of character. Like role play in the bedroom, or take your baby to you singles mixer. I know how hard it is when it seems like your love life is faltering and the one thing that I have realized is that you have to be sure to take care of yourself and spin the situation in a way that he will be one that can't live without you. Good luck and god speed.
2006-09-04 03:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by caroline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't give near enough details for this question. There must be or have been a reason for you not to trust him. And if that's the case why would you want to show him that you trust him? Make him earn that trust. There are a lot of little things you can do to improve your relationship, but why don't you want him to notice? And the biggest question is why do you want him to think that you have changed? I hope you don't mean that you are changing who you really are for him. He should love you just the way you are. It sounds like the two of you have a lot of issues. It's hard being that young and having a baby. My advise to you would be for both of you to go to counseling. A counselor would listen to all your problems and tell you how to handle everything. Good luck.
2006-09-04 03:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by Vicm0322 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you could use some couples counseling. It seems like communication between the two of you is a problem. You have to make the extra step for the baby's sake.
2006-09-04 03:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Johnny Tezca 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could kidnap him for the day, just the two of you and get someone to take care of the kid. Just a suggestion.
2006-09-04 03:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by dimkaluv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do the best thing you can do to show everything is alright and getting better. wow, you have a baby already... thats nice.. take care of your little angel okey?
2006-09-04 04:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by Skydom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him, do small stuff for him that you would like, make himfeel special in way u think would make u feel special !
2006-09-04 03:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act like a friend and don't act like a wife. Give him space and freedom.
2006-09-04 04:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by rabb b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
em...well act theres alot u can do but dun do it too offen or else he really mite find u annoying .....mayb u could cook for him or give little surprises.....
as for trust that kinda hard to explain....mayb if he wanted to do s'thing or go out wif his frenz.....try not too question him too much...(guys dun like tat)
well ask him in wat way u have chg than mayb do a little adjustments here and there....
GD Luck !!!
2006-09-04 03:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by SexyPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him !!!!! this is the best way to draw men's attention.
2006-09-04 03:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by Richi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋