my fiance has 3 other children I didn't want any from the start and made it clear and still she had mine. Do I resent her and the child?
2006-09-03 19:59:45 · 17 answers · asked by joey_wender 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Her maybe but never the child. She might not have wanted loose you. She might have insecure. She might have even felt like trying to trap you. But none of these reason's are good enough for you to ignore or disown your flesh and blood. Remember the woman might be stupid. But God is not and there might be a reason the child was given to you. Love him or her with your whole heart. Teach him or her right from wrong. Just imagine your child could be the next president, or a Martin Luther King, or a Alan Jackson, or a Katie Couric, or a bum on the street. And if you don't give him or her a father figuer that is where he or she could wind-up. Good luck and remember support the baby even if you don't want the woman. You could always sue to custady. Might even win to if she is as unstable as you have made her out to be. But at least you will get visitation rights. Maybe even 50/50. And there is nothing any cooler that an single man with a baby.
2006-09-03 20:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should NEVER resent any child. If you didnt want any kids then you should have took better precautions to prevent a pregnancy. You need to love your baby and be there for the child regardless and never resent the baby. The baby did not ask to come into this world. You and her had sex you need to be an adult and handle the responsibility of being a father.
2006-09-03 20:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by deadly_rose_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. If you didn't want a child, you should've been using protection. In no way is it the child's fault. If you're going to resent anyone, it should be yourself. How could you even question resenting your own flesh & blood? Regardless of whether you wanted a child or not, that's your blood.
2006-09-03 20:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by Becca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant love something that belongs to both of you , then you don't love her . She cared enough to take care of a situation , now she has a tie that binds, doesn't matter if you stay together or not. Your old enough for an adult action you need to be old enough for an adult responsibility . i think your being selfish and if you didn't want this you should have kept it in your pants or used birth control , your wishes no longer matter what does is the life you created and your fiance seen that . take care of your baby and stop whining
2006-09-03 20:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kitten,Doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to have a kid so you can't blame her for having YOUR kid. If you didn't want kids, why didn't you use protection? That's like cursing the knife because you cut yourself!!!!
Love that child and love her regardless of whether the pregnacy was intended or not. Things happen for a reason. It is how we handle the situations that make them a blessing or a curse. If you are to blame her, then you share 50% of the blame!!!!
2006-09-03 20:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lonewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So nd her made love and created a child together ..but decided you don't want one..If you didn't want a chilld you should have a vasectomy..It would take care of that problem..How can you resent your own flesh and blood...or her ..You say you love her ..Do you love your child or is he just a mistake
2006-09-03 20:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMFG NO! You don't know half of the s**t she had to go through to bring that child into the world. You should be mature and talk to her. Sit her down when she seems calm and collected and talk to her. Tell her you have acknowledged the work she has done to bring the child into the world and you want to talk about your concerns. NEVER leave her in the dust. Look at my info and look at how messed up I am. My mom was left with three kids because the father didn't want us. Don't do that to her. Just be a mature adult and tell her your concerns and worries. Good Luck. Get back to me with how it went.
2006-09-03 20:07:04 · answer #7 · answered by sugarpiggy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
properly, i think of i might stay. He legitimately did no longer understand with regard to the youngster. that's a very diverse tale than him mendacity to you approximately it, or attempting to conceal it up. it fairly is probable the main compelling element. different than that, you will possibly desire to comprehend which you will have some involvement with the two the toddlers and the mothers, to 3 quantity. i might take a small step back and supply him some room to be certain how he desires to handle this. It might desire to be devastating for him. He might desire to be certain what sort of place he desires to have in this youngster's existence. in basic terms be there, like a supportive buddy, and probably each little thing will artwork out.
2016-11-06 09:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by shea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think so. If you knew from the start that you didn't want any children you should have gotten a vasectomy.
I suggest you go get one done now to prevent from this happening again. It's a one day thing. Really quick.
2006-09-05 12:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Resent your wife don't blame the child and if you didn't want children then why did you do it?
2006-09-03 20:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋