its it wrong to ask the dad who works and puts food on the table to help sometimes around the house too?
2006-09-03 19:34:59 · 14 answers · asked by baby pimp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's okay to ask for help from time to time, but if this was your agreement so that you could stay home, try not to make it a habit. I was a stay at home mom for many years and with five kids, there were days I just coudn't get it all done. When my husband came home, he'd often help me get dinner served and then played with the kids so I could clean up without having them under my feet. It was a balance. To me he was helping out greatly, others didn't think of it that way and thought I was getting the short end of the stick. I know staying home is alot of work, but it also has many rewards. If you expect him to help all the time, you are going to have to find a way to contribute to the family to put you on an equal playing field. If you don't, that's when the arguments start.
Wish you luck and hope you have as good of a hubby as I do!
2006-09-03 19:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Being a stay at home mom is one of the hardest jobs there is, plus cleaning and cooking OMG! You should definitely consider getting some kind of part time job, just enough money for you to treat yourself (this way you don't have to say "honey I am out of my Este Lauder foundation) Or to buy the kids clothes, or your husband a present. At the same time this will help you get a break and be around grown ups and have grown up interaction. While you are working leave your hubby a few chores. NEVER be afraid to ask him for help, this is as much his family as is yours. You are doing the JOB of raising your/his kids while he does the job of feeding and supporting you all. The only difference is that he gets to rest and you don't. You need a break sometimes, don't forget that!
2006-09-03 20:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by powerdiva411 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really need the help then ask. I am a stay at home mom too and my man works 60 plus hours a week so I make sure I work the same amount of hours at home and anything over that gets shared. Kids took 2 people to make so it takes 2 people to take care of them.
2006-09-03 19:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by madamesophia1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not. Because if you went out to work. You would still have to come home and maintain the house, kids, cooking etc. House work, Taking care of the kids etc should be shared 50/50. If you were working you would have to pay for a sitter and if they can make money from doing what you do on a daily for free. Why isn't what you do called working. Please we work harder than men do. We are on call 24/7. Ask for help. You need me time too.
And if he truely loves and cares he would understand that
2006-09-03 19:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly fine to ask for help. and he should be willing to do some stuff around the house. Especially things that are more difficult for you to do. As long as you put in effort around the house, and not just sitting on your butt all day, then he should help you with some things that you can't fit in. Just don't expect big things on the days that he works, have some consideration for all the time he spends doing work outside of the house.
2006-09-03 19:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer from a husband. Yes it is wrong to ask. He should help out of his own. If he does not help out of his own then you can ask him to help and he should do so. I help my wife with everything in the house. I do dishes , washing making beds etc.
Make no mistake I do have my own job so it is not as if I sit at home all day.
Kick his backside and get him to help you. Let him stay home for a week and do all that you have to do and you go out. He will change his mindset very soon.
Good luck
2006-09-03 19:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by robsnor 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do you have kids? well if yes or no, if you don't ask for help some times, things might get backed up. it's easiest to clean after 1 or 2 people but as the family grows so does the mess. and until the kids get older, you might have to ask.
2006-09-03 19:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by Harmony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong.
If he loves you and respects you he will understand and appeciate that your job is just as rough if not moreso than his and you dont get paid a red penny for it!
Any caring thoughtful and respectful husband would be honored to help keep their castle up and running.
2006-09-03 19:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need help, i' m sure...there are a lot of things to do at home...you never finish them if somebody is not helping but throwing things all around! no, it's not wrong at all to ask for help.
2006-09-03 19:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by MV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a real peach you won't always have to ask. When things pile up he should just pitch in. Mine does and I love him for it. He knows it because I make it up to him in other ways.
2006-09-03 19:39:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋