you could even see her naked and you don't feel a thing
2006-09-03 19:34:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage goes in cycles. That "in love" feeling is not forever. Marriage is primarily a commitment based on honesty and trust and unconditional love. But the lust and the light-hearted "on top of the world" feeling will come and go.
Try a second honeymoon. Do some sort of couples therapy book to discover new, wonderful things about each other. Set aside special time for just the two of you.. no kids, no phone. Start a new hobby together. Just try something new.
2006-09-03 19:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by pandasage1221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably because u two have become so comfortable with each other to the point of taking each other for granted. If u want to change the way the situation has turned out, u both need to get out of the routine u have fallen into and do something different. If seeing her naked does nothing for u anymore, it's probably because u have become so used to this that it doesn't have any effect on u anymore.
I don't know if I'm making sense here but thankfully we're still not at this stage of marriage and hopefully my husband and I can learn from this and not fall into the same trap. Good luck.
2006-09-03 19:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I wouldn't say that. Even after yrs of marriage I'm sure my husband doesn't feel like we are brother and sister. You must work on keeping things exciting. Get some good books on the subject or just use your imagination.
2006-09-03 19:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't know. Didn't stay with anyone that long. My brother and his wife have been together 12 1/2 years married 10 and still act like honeymooners.
2006-09-03 19:38:34 · answer #4 · answered by CuervoBMed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like to me your trying to garner the whole "you have the right to be happy crownd" and " do what makes you happy" your in here trying to validate your reasons for leaving her becuase you dont "FEEL" in love David at what point did you quit loving your wife and showing her and lusting after her and doing everthing to prove to her how much you where happy??? im guessing you either like watching porn or looking at magazines and dreaming of other women. becuase its only been seven years and either you only married her out of convinience or you have had affairs all along, i bet your wife doesnt even see it coming does she. so david how are you going to break this womans heart???? just flat out say you want a divorce.? maybe cheat on her and make it obviouse? how about start an arguemnent and when she bites on it and fights back your going to make her feel like its her fualt??? why not just tell her the truth that you lied when you said forsake all others and that your a low life that your promises dont mean squat. YEAH YEAH YEAH i know David you didnt say anything about divorce or cheating and you wont admit to it but you know im right.
2006-09-03 19:45:53 · answer #5 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well iv'e been married 42 yrs sex just gets old after a while with the same old person you need spice in your life get a baby sitter and go to a motel some night . but have him pick you up at what ever place you like hi whats your sign can i buy you a drink be hard to pick up to start then ease up. have fun do this once every month something new go out to dinner at a nice place go dancing. snuggle up to him whisper naughty thing to him. it's over for me i'm 67 but good luck to boyhof you dale
2006-09-03 19:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by dalecollins64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone of us go through every stages in life and in relationship.. maybe it's time to rekindle the fire that made you husband and wife in the first place.. just remember unless you both go through this stage successfully you wont find what lies ahead.. try to work things out coz for sure there's an underlying and unresolve issue and that's the reason why this is happening.. effective communication will be helpful and of course why dont you guys try something new and see what will happen.. rekindle the fire that's all you have to do!
2006-09-03 19:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by keiCh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you have gotten to know eachother in a way that brothers and sisters would... Talk passionalty and tell eachother your strongest feeling, tell her you think shes sexy and talk sexy to her.....
Make love and tell her you love her.. feel her up and down like a wife look at her as a girlfriend/wife not as just a friend..
Make strong passionate love alll the time.
Good luck
2006-09-03 19:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well................Ive been married eight years and don't feel that way about my husband but all in all nothing in this life is easy or even close to perfect and I think it is supposed to be that way. I also question the way society has marriage set up. I don't think we are supposed to find one person and make them the Alpha and Omega of your entire life. Monogamy is not natural so I question the meaning behind that alot. I don't have all the answers but I think and question everything and marriage is one of them.
2006-09-03 19:40:15 · answer #9 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 10 years of married life, I can definitely tell you that, it's the behaviour of each other tht makes one to be turned off, unless one has lost the physique and is out of shape.Men do crvae for sex & want experimentation! Same thing happened with me after 2 years b/c of her very trim figure & her behaviour with my relatives.
2006-09-03 19:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋