If so, were you glad you did. Also, did your your religious beliefs play a part in your decision or did you wait because you just thought it was a smart or right thing to do?
2006-09-03 19:30:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did not wait, nor am I all that screwed up... certainly not by pre-marital sex. I don't regret it a bit.
Look, if you are mature enough to openly discuss it with your partner, you love each other, and you both agree, then go right ahead. Just be sure to use contraceptives and have sex only in a healthy, monogamous relationship. Anything else is going to be trouble.
Also, the first 24hrs after your first time seem to elicit some *MAJOR* emotions... worries about whether your partner is really the one, whether or not you are really in love, OMG, are you pregnant or WoRsE?! Relax. This is normal. I honestly believe that everyone goes through this after their first time to some degree. Discuss your feelings with your partner and don't act rashly.
Make sure that there is open communication and a loving, trusting relationship. You will be fine.
A word of caution if you are still a virgin! Sex is more than just a simple experience. It will be life changing. Some teenagers may not believe this, but one of the reasons that abstinence is pushed so hard is simply because once you have partaken in sex as an "adult right of passage" you are *NEVER* going to be able to have a loving relationship without introducing sex. There may be a few exceptions to prove the rule, but if you talk to those around you who have had sex with their partners, they will tell you that they still do... even if they've switched partners. So if you're not ready, wait.
I know that this may seem a bit schizophrenic, but all of these things occur. Hopefully, you hearing both sides will leave you more informed in your decision making.
2006-09-03 19:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by Quick2Answer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did, but I am not glad that I did. When we finally did have sex it was a hundred questions from him, "how was it for you? did you have an orgasm? How many?" and on and on and on. ANd the sex was bad and too fast and not interesting. He had all these rules about what we couldn't do... So we were limited to only about 3 things that we could do - and it was boring!
Yes, my religious beliefs did play into it. But guess what - he cheated and we ended up divorced any way - so it doesn't matter now that we waited. We still had a crappy marraige - and the fact that we waited didn't add not one benefit to our marraige.
I think if you are already committed to each other - why wait? At least before you get married you still have an escape route if things turn out bad. I wouldn't recommend it.
If you have pent up sexual desire for all those months your engaged - YOU WILL NOT THINK STRAIT and you will marry that fool just to get layed. So, you need to have your wits about you as much as possible. Don't wait.
2006-09-03 19:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I waited until I was married to have sex (I married at 25 years old). It was a good idea, I believe. It brought a level of trust to our relationship.
Religious factors played into my decision; but I also thought it was a good and right thing to do.
2006-09-03 19:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer it's: few, very few.
That doesn't mean it's correct the other way, no, those that were waiting are happier then those which didn't wait.
It wasn't a smart thing to do, it was childish...everything must be done when it's THE TIME RIGHT. Look around and find a lot of other similar answers.
We all need God, but only a few accept this and choose to obey HIM and listen to HIM for that 9()% of us are suffering!
2006-09-03 19:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by MV 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Me. Religious beliefs at the time. Was still a virgin 2 years after wedding. Not a joke.
2006-09-03 19:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by CuervoBMed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have not waited for marriage in the past, but am doing it diferent this time around. It is worth waiting for if you are w/ the right person.
2006-09-03 19:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not but in some ways I wish I had. I had a lot of good experiences, got to know some really great girls. But my wife is the only one for me now.
2006-09-03 19:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by jeff b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, i did not....
I do not classify rape or molestation but because of my past issues with these two things..I didnt wait until I got married. I wish it had been someone else that i willingly gave it to but what can i say.....
2006-09-03 19:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by crimson_tears_of_the_goddess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didnt wait but I would encourage young people to wait. I think it would be special to learn together
2006-09-04 02:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋