What should I do? What do you think? I want to SCREAM SO BAD....IM SO PISSED AT HIM! Tell me what you think.?

Question

I am going to scream! I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We have a 2 year old son. Im a stay home mom. My b/f has a temper, he shows NO enthusiasum for anything we do together. He's deaf in one ear, color blind, loss his memory. HE FREAKS OUT when I ask him a question and he didn't hear the first time. He always tells me that he doesn't know what to do with our son. I told him that he needs to spend more time with him. He doesn't unless I ASK him to go take him somewhere fun, I need the space too. But he doesn't UNLESS I ask. I shouldn't have to BABYSIT my b/f that is almost 33 years old. He doesn't know what to talk about, he doesn't know where to go for fun, again, he shows NO excitement when we both deside to go somewhere. He thinks he should spank the SH!T out of our son if our son kicks and doesn't listen. I don't really like spanking. My b/f wants to get married but I don't if it's going to be worth it. Im constantly telling him what I think and feel and he NEVER has replys

We have been through LOTS of counciling, professional help for over a year.AS A COUPLE and separatly!

WHY IS HE SO UPSET AT EVERYTHING. IS he cheating? Does he just want out? I mean, I DONT GET IT

He hates how I like to poke around while Im shopping. Hey, Im female, 26 yrs old and still LOVES to shop. He HATES it but he wants to be with me so he goes anyway, but still YELLS AT ME.

We dont agree on each others parenting.

I get upset too. He knows I tell him how I feel. He KNOWS to STAND UP, BE A MAN, BE A FATHER and HELP ME OUT ONCE IN A WHILE. Not just go to work and make the friggin money! WHATEVER.
Oh, and I like to do things around the house BY MYSELF, So I will let him know, he INSTANTLY GETS ALL MAD because He knows that Im hinting that he takes our son out and do something. He hates the town we live in. He HATES the people at his job. He HATES christmas time. WHAT IS IT WITH THIS GUY?????

He's very supportive FINACIALLY! But...uh...THATS ALL.
Oh, and I have an 8 yr old daughter from my first marriage and HE CAN'T STAND HER! HE HATES HER, HE DOESN'T like talking or playing with her. What the hell should I do. Sorry that this is so long but I am so pissed. What triggered me to ask this question was, our son was crying, he was hurt, he just wanted to lay down and be still, he was constipated and it was coming out but stretching his poor lil bum and my b/f was trying to pull it out....big NO NO...so I told him, YOU CAN'T DO THAT, YOU MIGHT TEAR HIS BUM....he THREW the damn diaper, YELLED AT ME, while our son was crying in pain and scared of whats going on, my B/F YELLS AT ME!
WTF IS UP WITH THIS JERK>

I think our love died...........2 and a half YEARS ago! Im affraid to leave.

Answer 1

Whether you are afraid to leave or not, it's time you take your daughter and son and get the heck out of there and away from your boyfriend. Hmmmm......some friend.

At the rate you two are going at it, it won't be long before someone gets hurt, and seriously. You do not need to be raising your kids in this environment. If you are feeling like this how do you think your kids feel?

They are defenseless and it is up to you to protect them from all harm, and that includes emotional as well as physical and from everyone, including your boyfriend.

If you are afraid to do it alone, call for help. Contact your local child services department, they can put you in touch with someone that will help you. I'm not sure of the number but there are help lines out there for abused and battered spouses, and yes, you are being abused. It's time to get out, before it's too late.

Good luck and God bless you.

Answer 2

I Am Messing Around With A 54 Year Old Married Man And I Am 20 Years Old. I Been Messing Around With Him Since Last September 2005. He Has A Son Who Is 20 And He Is My Friend And A Daughter Who Is 17 And His Daughter Caught Us Having Sex Once Before But She Did Not Say Nothing To Nobody Because She Has Autistic And She Has A Mind Of A 6 Year Old. This Married Man Wants To Leave His Wife And Marry Me... But I Do Not Know If He Will Leave His Wife Of 21 Years! The Sex Is Good And He Always Said I Love You To Me All The Time And I Do Not Know What To Do. But I Love Him! We Never Use Protection But He Pulls Out And Ejaculate On My Stomach! We Have Had Sex In Werid Places! Nobody Knows About This Relationship And He Plans On Getting A Divorced From His Wife When His Daughter Turns 18! He Already Asked His Wife For A Divorce But She Say Things Will Work Out And He Thinks Things Won't Work Out! This Relationship Between Me And Him Started When I Went Over There And Fixed His Computer And I Saw Porn On His Computer And Then I Ask Him About It On-Line And He Said It Was His And We Started Messing Around And Other Stuff!!!

Answer 3

You are in a tough situation! Take a good look at everything you have done to get through these issues, and ask yourself this, are you willing to accept the fact that he cannot see things the same way you do ? sometimes in a relationship one Person can see the need for change while the other one doesn't even know there is a problem . All the counseling you have done might seem like a total waste, It's not . keep it in mind that you tried to be optimistic about things. Accept the fact you have to be the bigger person and realize you have a decision to make ,keep in mind your child's physical and mental health depends on two positive people. As much as you love your B/F, you have to make changes

Answer 4

Divorce. You've suffered long enough. Sacrifice isn't a virtue, it's a vice. Counseling isn't going to help unless he wants to work on his problems. He's got so much pent up anger and is in such denial, with guilt over what he's done and depression from the strain of it all, that he could seriously hurt any or all of you. Tell him to move out, or if he's violent, then you leave and seek shelter. He still has to support you and the children, so there's no down side except the effort.

Also, I knew a man who had a step-daughter. When she was 9 he raped her on the sofa where she napped. And continued to do so until she was 12 when she met me and I stopped it by telling everyone. She told me he did it "because he hates me."

Answer 5

Ok, to be honest, I don't think those people you're talking about are racist [but I'll go read the answers now], just ignorant in their musical history. It's a common misconception that black people like rap, white people like rock stereotypes. Take deep breaths. Music would have taken a different path if whites didn't take it over, I thought it was an interesting question.

Answer 6

he neglects your oldest which he hates, he's yelling all the time, and he's hurting your baby boy. you need to get out. before something really bad happens. you don't know what can happen. How old is your girl? think of her virtue. and if your son see's your b/f act this way he'll grow up thinking that this is okay. do you want that? it'll be hard but it needs to be done ASAP. How did you 2 meet anyways?

Answer 7

Is he cheating. No I don't think he is. If he was he would be distant, withdrawn and not want to have any kind of sexual activity with you.

What should you do? I think you need to find a new place to live. It appears to me that he has lost interest in you, his son, and your duaghter. It is time to find a new mate. Maybe someone who wants to be married to you.

Answer 8

It's time for him to go,,,he has to be a part of the childs' life , but you do NOT have to live with him, and as long as you allow him to behave this way, he's going to continue to do so.He won't change., unless HE wants to , and I'm thinking he doesn't want to

Answer 9

this is an easy answer. if he can't raise his own son he is not a man. if he hates your daughter then he shouldn't be in her life. get rid of him and get yourself a man who will take care of you and your children.

Answer 10

The Doctor o...hit it on the spot! He sounds like a loser.