so my bffl chose the popular kids over me. im really sad because i can't beleive that she did that to me. she always takes advantage of me and she knows im a soft person so yea, i guess i was used, but like did she pick them to become popular or what? today was the september fest and she totally ignored me after saying we were the only ones that were gonna hang out! she was too busy talking to her popular friends. she has totally changed after hanging out with them. she used to be a sweet and giving person, but after choosing to be with them she is a total urgh !!! idk what to do, should i tell her that she changed and left me to become popular with the popular kids? idk
i really need help
2006-09-03 19:22:57 · 14 answers · asked by iloveyou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
did i mention the popular kids like her? she is a total loud party animal, they like lover her! she is like the queen bee now! they treat her like they knew her since kindergarden, which they didn't cause they started liking her at the end of april..
2006-09-03 19:32:28 · update #1
She is a fake, a fraud, and insecure. She thinks this will make her somebody.
2006-09-03 19:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sad when we lose a friendship or when one changes. Your friend has decided to hang out with different people and I can see where that causes confusion and pain. Sometimes, these things happen (and it sucks). Maybe she likes all the new attention or maybe she really likes the popularity these people seem to bestow upon her. It does not seem fair at times, especially when you both had fun together. Things like this happen to most everybody at some point or another in life. Respect the friendship you had and realize she must need to do this on some level to try and find whatever it is she is looking for. Also, maybe it is a blessing in disguise.
I would look at it as you had some great times. She has moved in a different direction that she feels is good for her and you can too. It is the beginning of a new school year and you have the chance to make some wonderful new friends. Yes it can be done in any grade, age, place. Talk to new people and make plans. Some you might have fun with others you will find are not for you to hang out with and eventually you will find some people you think are pretty cool to spend time around. Maybe your old friend will tire of her new "friends" and maybe not. The point is, you know you have all the qualities of being a great friend, so go and make some new friendships and have fun!
2006-09-04 02:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens all the time. I think that when push really comes to shove... when things start to pop off and the popular crew disses her... she will come looking for you. Don't worry bout it too much, I mean you do feel like she was using you. If you feel like that now then I would suggest just finding a new friend. True friends are around because the like you for who you are, not for what you can do for them or what you can give them. Good luck in renewing this so called friendship or better yet... sparking up a new one
2006-09-04 02:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by badd_azz_redd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm........... I am sorry to hear abou this. I know its tough when your a friend does something like that. But you have to talk to her, tell her how you feel, ask her why did she ditch you to hang out with the poplular kids, but being your best friend you have to cut her some slack b/c she ur best friend. If she apologizes then you should forgive her and ask her to maybe introduce you to her "popular" friends so you can all be one group. If she doesn't say sorry then you should just say that you can't have a best friend who isn't going to respect simple things like ditching you for the popular kids, a real true best friend wouldn't do that. So good luck and I hope all works out with you and ur friend.
2006-09-04 02:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by |katt| 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to my friend!
I don't want to use names so I'll say amy and ana!
My friend amy and ana was suppose to be in my class but they switched me 2 a different class room so amy and ana became friends!I hung out with both of them but then ana started getting on my nerves like she would act tottally different and hang out with amy so its like they left me behind but really amy didn't want 2 hang out wit ana cuz ana as doing the same thing to her but with a different person.So me and amy became buddy buddy and left ana behind so then ana would talk to us and we were cool but whenever ana wanted she would leave us to hang wit other ppl but when she was alone she would hang out wit us so she was using us.
Me and amy haven't talked to ana the whole summer cuz its not that we want to be mean but if she would be that mean to use us then she's not really a friend.My advice is that if she would ditch u then she's not really a friend so just don't tell her nothing cuz u telling her she's hurting u would make her feel better than u.just find a new friend and when she realizes that ur good without her then she'll end up feeling like a loser instead of a popular winner.
2006-09-04 02:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by secret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way to resolve this problem is to spread rumers about her. A good one is say she had an abortion over the summer and see how the popular crowd reacts to that one.
2006-09-04 02:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by Dr_Phil_is_dead 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
shes a dumbassssss forget about her she wasnt really ur friend get new friends and dont get friends like her and if she aplogises because the popular people started to ignore say i am not forgiving u u chose them over me!!
2006-09-04 02:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget her, drop her like a hot rock, ignore her, dont speak to her, find other friends. popular kids are a pain in the rear
2006-09-04 02:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget abt her,NOW!!! she's not half a good a friend as u(that didn't need much brains!!) she has absolutely no idea what she's missin.cheer up!!! you sound like a reaaaally sweeet person,so im sure u'll hav a lot of other friends!!!
2006-09-04 02:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her be.
Let her miss out on a great friend, she'll be the one regretting it. You don't need people like that in your life honey.
2006-09-04 02:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋