ok, been in a relationship for 8 months now, its been 95% great... we moved in 2gether.. ok so what would you do if you found out that ur man slept with the lady next door ,before u were 2gether and he never told u?? I asked him about all of this kind of stuff before we moved in 2gether..he always said no... now i find out he lied, and that 2 weeks after we started dating he was still calling her ..I never could figure out why this lady was so mean to me, now I guess I know.. I think he was dishonest becuz I asked him about this before...b and she lives right next door...nwould u be able to cope with this??
2006-09-03 19:14:38 · 13 answers · asked by misboss2u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You really need to talk to him. Get things straight. He lied to you. Multiple times. And not about anything little, it was big. You can't let that slid. If you want to try and work things out because you really love him, talk to him. Just talk to him. Figure out why he did what he did, ask him if he realizes it was wrong and see how he feels about what he'd do in the future. Trust is a big issue and after this whole thing if you feel you can't trust him, it's going to make your relationship a lot harder. You might have to let him go. It just depends on how your feeling. Try talking to some of your close friends, see what they think since they know more about the whole situation then i do. Hang in there.
2006-09-03 19:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by iamsamsamiam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, I would cope very well, I would move out..
If your boyfriend wants you, he will move with you, if he doesn't want to move, then I would say, he made his choice.
Eight months is nothing, and in the future, no matter what you do about this situation, GET TO KNOW SOMEONE FOR AT LEAST 2YRS BEFORE LIVING WITH THEM.
As to the broad next door. Walk up to her, tell her, in her face, that if she EVER COMES near you again, or in any form speaks to you, comes on your doorstep, you will get a restraining order against her for stalking. Then simply walk away. Do NOT RAISE YOUR VOICE, don't speak very loud, as a matter of fact, almost whisper to her, as you will be that close. Don't even touch her, her clothes, nothing.
Speaking low and 'IN THEIR FACE" is very intimidating, and gets the point across very nicely.
If she doesn't like that, I would tell you to knock her on her butt, but that would just put you in jail, so don't do that. Then you are down to her level, even though it would feel really good, don't do it.
Then go home, tell your man, your moving and if he wants, he can come with you. If he gives you any crap about moving, not moving with you, but moving, then you know where he stands.
If he wants you, he will move, that simple.
2006-09-07 17:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by jv1104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say...
"Either you and I move to a different place, or she moves to a different place, or You move out, or I move out. There is no other choice. You've shown me that I can't trust you to tell me the truth, so this is how it is. 4 choices. I will not live next to this woman knowing your past with her, and that's final. Now the choice is yours. What do you want?" Then I would listen to him with open ears, and open mind.
2006-09-03 19:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope i wouldnt once a liar always a liar and he's not ready for a real relationship see if you could work it out,everybody always says leave the person you're with try first if it doesnt work and breaking up is the last result break up
2006-09-03 19:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 07:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by lograsso 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has not told you this before its definetely an issue. in your case he lied you despite of you asking it before u settle down. so he doesnt deserve any mercy. dump him and move ahead.
or if you want to giv him a chance talk to him and move ahead.
good luck !
2006-09-03 20:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by udayy2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could not handle that. I think, sorry scratch that, I KNOW i would leave. anybody who perposly lies is not worth your time. If you can't even trust this man to speak truthfully to you how are you going to trust his actions?
2006-09-03 19:19:32 · answer #7 · answered by Tabitha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of his a**..if he would lie bout something simple like that..then he will lie bout anything....they are all liars..lol....well not all but over half..u deserve someone that has nothing to hide from u and will be real til the end..good luck girl...
2006-09-03 19:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think not. Sounds like trouble to me.
2006-09-03 19:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were u i will ask him to move house....otherwise i move on my life....
2006-09-03 19:17:13 · answer #10 · answered by D@ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋