Jealousy comes from the ego. It arises when one feels possessiveness towards another. It may well be "normal" in the statistical sense of commonplace, but you will suffer if you feel it. Ego may want to 'own' another person. Genuine love wants the best for that person and is expansive. May I suggest you cultivate loyalty -- be loyal yourself (not fickle, not "fairweather friends"), and look for friends and lovers who naturally feel loyalty. Then you can allow yourself to feel safe and confident when your lover enjoys other friends of your sex, knowing that they will still be there for you in the morning.
2006-09-03 19:28:02
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answered by MBK 7
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When we are born we are instinctivly drawn to our mothers. When a sibling is born and brought into our lives, the first thing we do is act out to ensure our mothers attention still remains focused on us, not the baby. Depending on the age of the older sibling, determines reaction, but the "feeling" is also is transfered the the baby. If you have siblings, younger or older, you simply need to remember when, and you will see just how inate jealousy really is in our lives. Jealousy actually brings on the insecurity we take into adulthood. The more it is allowed to dictate our actions as children, the more insecurity it brings to adult hood and that is where the rage enters into relationships.
Jealousy can be anything, from love, attention, career, school, car, clothes, anything that a person can show to their peer's. This includes adults and it almost always goes back to infancy. Parents, and socioeconomics play a huge roll in this problem, it is not just status, if you will. Parents encourage jealousy when the respond to a childs behavior with patronizing rewards to stop their frustration at the situation.
At little jealousy can be healthy, provided it is leveled at the "thing", not the person, for competition in sports is a level of jealousy. The other football team has the last trophy, but this year we will get it back. Of course they want to win the game,but they also want to be the "kid" who "mom" loves the most. Do you see the connection?
2006-09-04 03:51:55
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answered by jv1104 3
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Well, both your suggestions are correct. Jealousy is a normal human feeling which we all experience at one time or another. If a person gets jealous often and/or intensely so, there is some type of insecurity involved.
2006-09-04 07:05:54
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answered by frenchy62 7
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Jealousy is an abnormal human emotion found in only about 100% of humans. If you have it, you need to seek professional help immediately or else you'll be severely handicapped in romantic relationships.
Set up some guidelines-
1. Don't buy a gun
2. Don't buy a knife
3. Don't buy a large hammer
4. In fact, stay away from the hardware store altogether, you freak.
An Insec Curist can give you a shot that will eradicate the root source of jealousy in your system, but I strongly recommend that you have somebody else drive you to the opffice, since somebody who makes a red light befre you could be in grave personal danger if you realize the situation.
GET HELP AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!
2006-09-03 19:21:38
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answered by dinochirus 4
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Jealousy is a completely normal feeling and yes it does arise from insecurity.
But jealousy isn't necessarily a bad thing. Jealousy helps us to figure out what we want out of life by observing others. And since people have similar needs and desires, its only natural that we want what others have. Why reinvent the wheel?
Jealousy becomes toxic when people have insatiable desires. If you see somebody with something that you want and you get it but you still aren't happy, then what you really want is superiority and not success. And since you'll always be inferior to others in some respects, superiority isn't really a reasonable goal.
2006-09-03 20:03:47
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answered by Subconsciousless 7
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Is it accepted progression in each and every relationship? i do no longer think of so. Is it in some? definite. We have been the comparable way. We had the two been cheated on in previous relationships and our previous marriages. We made a %. mutually that if issues have been getting so undesirable that we've been thinking of cheating that we'd be open and easy with one yet another in the previous it occurred. Now we've been mutually 9 years, married 7, and we've been swingers for the final 4 years. What replaced? no longer a rather good purchase, rather. We the two had team intercourse fantasies and such as you we the two won't be able to think of ever being aside. we are one yet another's soul friends, perfect friends, and confidants. we are definitely, surely in love with one yet another. we are like 2 young toddlers, consistently conserving palms, taking part in footsie below the table at eating places, kissing, etc. yet i think of it is likewise accepted to think of approximately intercourse with human beings. some would possibly no longer, yet i might guess ninety% of all human beings mentally undress somebody as properly their better half a minimum of as quickly as an afternoon. men look at porn, women human beings examine romance novels. all and sundry fantasizes. that's accepted, purely the insecure and jealous might say otherwise because of the fact they do no longer prefer to admit their better half must be thinking sexual ideas appropriate to the hottie on the income keep or the buff shape worker they observed on the instant. i think of the assumption of "one and purely" is a fairytale theory, and massive in theory yet adverse in prepare. if reality be counseled that 40% of folk are, will, or have cheated on their better half and a million of each and every one hundred twenty five married couples divorce each and every twelve months in u.s., many because of the fact of got here across infidelity, however the genuine situation is why the infidelity occurred contained in the 1st place: somebody wasn't chuffed or wasn't getting all the fulfillment they mandatory interior the marriage. So the self-righteous ones can scream monogamy and declare constancy all they like, yet we statistically 40% of those answering your question and claiming monogamy have, will, or are cheating at this very 2nd of their relationship. Lifelong sexual monogamy isn't organic in people. it rather is actuality. some have come to grips with it and can separate love from intercourse and have their soul mate and their fanatics too.
2016-09-30 07:58:49
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answered by ? 4
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Jealousy is a normal human emotional response.
insecurities are also normal human emotions.
paranoia and overly emotional jealousy are dysfunctional.
2006-09-03 19:16:12
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answered by anonymoususer987876 3
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Yes and yes. It's a completely normal feeling but it stems from insecurity.
2006-09-03 19:12:03
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answered by Princess Leia 4
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I would say "Yes" to both questions.
Everyone, myself included, has experienced jealousy at one time or another. It does, indeed stem from our insecurities. I think it's just in our emotional make-up.
However, it can be very destructive if we allow ourselves to dwell on it. It will slowly consume us from within if we allow it.
2006-09-03 19:19:30
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answered by WillyC 5
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I believe that both emotions (jealousy and insecurity) are based on fear.
beneath jealously is fear, perhaps fear or loss (perhaps loss of control) or separation.
insecurity is fear that may be based on lack of awareness of the self, but may also be based on fear of lack of control.
At the root of both is a lack of love.
2006-09-03 20:10:46
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answered by Sociallyinquisitive 3
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