sex obsessed?

Question

i feel like im always trying to find out more about sex.
i know its wrong. im just a teenager.

i dont know what to do..
please don't call me sick.
i just..GAHH..im always thinking about it.

help me!

Answer 1

Steph,

Being curious about sex is normal. I think there is nothing wrong with educating yourself about sex. In our society today sex is used for advertising and entertainment constantly. It's no wonder you think about it a lot.

The most important thing you need to understand about sex is that if you are not ready to handle the responsibility and emotional and physical toll it can take on you then you should not be having it at all. A lot of teens are being pressured to have sex younger and younger and I don't think there is enough attention paid to how it affects them or their health. Sex shouldn't be something you venture into blindly, but something that is revered and set aside as a valuable gift for someone you love. Please don't have sex just because you are curious. You are much too valuable to give yourself away like that.

My recommendation is that if you notice you are spending a lot of time on the internet finding out more about sex you need to turn off the computer for a bit and find something else to do. :-)

Answer 2

And you think this is wrong?

This is normal especially at your age.

You should visit a clinic if you get the chance and learn what you can from a professional one on one. I am not saying go for an examination, but, go and talk with someone whose job it is to help you out.

You could talk to a parent but that is scarier than what I am suggesting.

At any rate, you will learn a lot in time.

Just try not to experience sex before you know what it is you want to experience and what you do not.

Answer 3

it's not really wrong with what u want to know about sex, although it is thinking perverted when thinking about others sexually and that's when it's sick since you're just thinking about others as sex objects, but learning about sexual consequences and sexual issues (like abortion, contraception, abstinence vs. non-abstinence, etc) is good knowledge, but what matters is the things u do sexually and what u say sexually..talking about condoms, birth control and stuff is good, but just saying to a female that she has a tight *** is very disrespectful and perverted..just 'cause it's not wrong to talk about things doesn't mean u should engage in things, like perhaps having sex too young or having it during an inappropriate time during a relationship..really, having sex with just a spouse is really the only proper time to have sex since that's when the couple are more likely to love each other and the sex with someone u love when married is more meaningful, and anytime having sex otherwise is more of lust than love and not really being that caring or respectful about a partner, so it's good to want to know things, like how abstinence is the best thing and thinking about it is better than actually doing it at your age, or for anyone who's not married..if u want to think about sex in a less perverted way, then try to look up other interests like politics, enviornment, there's a lot of things out there to learn about and think about than just sex stuff if u put your mind to it..also, if u want to talk about sex, u can talk about it to your parents, and if they love u then they'll talk about it with u and they should since they had sex to create u, so they know about it and they had those thoughts and attractions at your age too, so u nor they should be uncomfortable about talking about it

Answer 4

ur not obsessed u just want urself to kno...be ready...its okay to think about it aslong as u dont do it (if ur not ready) sex is a big commitment u dont kno what ur getting urself in to do not fall into peer pressure or when people say that u should do nothings wrong with wanting to kno more about sex its not like a bad word its ur choice u make that desicion r u ready to b pregnant and people talk about u???.... r u ready for rumors about u being a slut??.... r u ready for boyzz asking for more when u gave them all uve got??... r u ready for some boy to leave u hanging??... when ur thinking bout sex ask urself those qustons k?
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Answer 5

totally not! as long as you're not going out having sex! I'm a teen too...I think about it sometimes. But, every teen does. I'm sure you've even heard it around school! It's totally normal...not sick! Every teen goes through it...completely normal! Like adults say...it's hormones!

Answer 6

it's your hormones.. try not to think about it though it's kinda hard for you to do but try it anyway.. do some activities that will divert your thinking about sex.. dont put yourself on situations that will tempt you to think about it, refuse to read magazines that contains sex articles or anything related to that.. but the best thing you can do is make yourself busy with activities that will challenge you physically and intellectually by that will spend less thinkin about sex.. hope that will help..=) btw, you're not sick!

Answer 7

dont worry every teen goes through this im 15 and i have a girl that i love completly and we both have had sex with eachother it is a great experience just make sure it is with someone u love!

Answer 8

hey steph
it's normal........ i think about it always.....
im just 13 & i had sex with mah girlfriend ....
and it is at this age that an urge to establish a close relationship with opp sexes develops

Answer 9

It's normal, and it will never go away. You can learn to control your thoughts and push it to the back of your brain eventually though.

Answer 10

It's obvious you know how to use the internet, so use it to look up anything you want to know. Everything about anything is on here right at your fingertips. So use it. You're not sick just growing up.