... i found out 3 different times, i stayed but then the fighting got worse, the name calling, n the agressiveness increased, he one day insulted me to the point where i got my daughter, my stuff n left... im happy because i found a great job, n im going to school. my daughter is also ok, n happy. the problem is.... now its been bout 2 weeks since i left n now he decides to try and make things up.... but basically he's saying he want to make me fall in love again and that he's horny.... i love him still but i'm emotionally drained, wat should i do? oh yeah i'm 22 and he's 23...oh yeah and if it helps he's a settle type of guy as i am a keep climbing up da ladder of life....
2006-09-03 19:03:22 · 14 answers · asked by Ms. Understood 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hold on out a bit longer, only go back later when you want to, not when he wants.
Meantime, enjoy your life with your daughter as you are doing now. See what comes up next.
2006-09-03 19:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by peanutz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Affairs, aggressiveness, insults... what else can you take? I think you already made the right move, and as you said, you and your girl are moving up. and you know what? He just can't stand it that he has no body to control any more. He is sick, if he was horny he can have another bimbo. The truth is he wants to feel powerful by controling your life and making it miserable. Leave, divorce, get all your papers in order and if necessary get a restraint order. The fact that your child is doing fine is a very good signal that she needed out from him, too.
Good luck, be strong, keep going, pray.
2006-09-03 19:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by avll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for sure he's no longer operating. Why ought to he, once you're prepared to pass out and paintings like a canines?? If he had some self-respect, he would have pronounced that once 5 years of failed businesses, that he for sure doesn't have a expertise for that, and he desires to pass out and get a interest. Any interest. He obviously does no longer opt to, and is content cloth to stay as he's, quite very quite. as long as you put up with it, he will keep on like this. And the resentment will develop and finally end up destroying your courting. you opt to inform him that he ought to contribute to the partnership. Are you doing each and every of the paintings? At place of work and residential? Or does he seem after the housekeeping, cooking, cleansing, procuring for groceries, etc? If no longer, then he's quite taking you for a vacation and making use of your love for him because the cost ticket. yet when he's asking after each and every of the - nicely, what lets evaluate "wifely" duties, then what's the concern? you've merely switched roles, it really is all. what is going to you do in case you get pregnant? And once you've somewhat one? Ask him the way you all will stay in case you quit operating to be an complete-time mom? i imagine you opt to get some solutions from him, and locate out if he's making use of you, or in case you both merely have some miscommunication.
2016-10-15 22:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by kenton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him because he'll only bring you down. You have already proven to yourself that you can make it without him. "Your in school, working and your daughter is okay. Hell, if he wants to get some *** let him go back to the skanks he's been banging. And if you feel the desire to get your freak on then go buy some toys. Don't let that imature, don't wanna do nothing loser back in your life because he's only gonna hurt you all over again. Ask yourself if he's worth it.
Let him do some growing up first, because it sounds like he still wants to play. Trust me, he will feel the loss of what he caused and pain and sorrow is what he needs to bare. If by then you feel he's grown up enough and learned a lesson to treat love with respect and dignity, has some kind of goal under his belt, direction in his life and hasn't been diagnoised with HIV, then maybe if you haven't found someone else in your life, just maybe you can rethink his love and take his *** back. AND THAT'S A BIG MAYBE, BECAUSE 3X CHEATING IS CAUSE FOR PERMANANT DISMISAL!!!!!!!
Good luck my friend:-)
2006-09-04 10:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you started with the guy when you were 15..he cheated on you as a teenager, and I am guessing as a young adult.
You are still a young adult. This is not a behavior of a responsible man or a man who wants a serious relationship, not ready to settle down and live a married life with one person.
Why put yourself through this, do you want to be like this when your 31, 41, or 51...or wait untill you are older to try and move on with your life.
Do yourself and your child a favor. If you are matured and want a real , monogamous relationship..drop him and move on..
Remember, you were 15 when you got with him, he was 16..most guys at that age want to go out, have fun, and not be "stuck" with one woman forver at this age..
and remeber, its not you..its him...
dont torture yourself for the sake of your child, your child will be happier if you are truely happy..
2006-09-03 19:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is cheating on you get out of it while you can.i was married for 8 years and the fights only get worse and she cheated more often.If you really love him do it while you both can still talk to each other and try to stay friends so the child don't get hurt!
2006-09-03 19:19:31 · answer #6 · answered by tabdaddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my honest opinion would be no because i was in the same situation and stayed because it would get better but then it went back after a year or so and continue from good to bad... i stayed for the kids and thought things were going to get better but it didn't so i finally gave up after eleven years and now sometimes i could kick myself because i should of done it sooner and still my ex hasn't changed and never will but anyhow it is honestly up to you .... follow your heart only you can make that decision but think clearly and good luck
2006-09-03 19:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were u...since u alrdy settled down with yr daughter, y not move on? By turning back u will get hurt again....a leapord never change it spots! Be wise dun fall into his nonsense la...
2006-09-03 19:07:26 · answer #8 · answered by D@ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not go back with him it will be around about with you two.
I was in this kind of situation before and after my girlfriend took me back. Two nights later the cops got called and well anyways i got convicted of domestic aggravated assault for hitting her. i made a mistake. But don't go back with the guy. Seek your local social services for advice.
2006-09-03 19:11:18 · answer #9 · answered by Osummer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep climbing,move on.You said your happy now that he's gone,stay happy.He horny let him jack off.
2006-09-03 19:11:15 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋