ok me and my bf have been having some issues like we argue over somthing so stupid somtimes...and i asked him what can we do to make this relationship better?...and he says idk ..im trying to make things better and he says not to worry about it put it a side for now and just focus on the baby.. well i would like to do both...i just need to know how can i make things work without being anoying and assuming things..and without seeming desparate for his attention...?well thanks for the advice!:)
2006-09-03 18:33:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just letin ya all know im 17..
2006-09-03 19:04:29 · update #1
he really needs to focus on your problems and not just the baby. seems like he is dodging the problems and using the baby as an easy way out. Why not talk while baby is sleeping or make things happen that happened before baby maybe that is what he is missing. Take his focus off baby and back to you if only for one night it is worth a try!!!Maybe an ice breaker like this will make him open up for just a little while before going off to sleep!!!
2006-09-03 18:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by goosey38 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i have no clue how old you are ?.....anyways it the way relationships are fighting and arguing over stupid things and if there is a baby involved , i suggest don't just try to work it out for the baby's cause it will never work only for certain amount of time and that it . if you really love each other sometimes there is some other things to do than talking'.....like writing things down on piece of paper about what you expect of the relationship,what you want out of it like " i like to have flowers" every once in awhile or things like that, have him do the same things, ask him to make a different kind of a meal or whatever it will be , other words. and after you do that for each other sit down and look at it and talk it through most of the time i hear that this works for people in relationship i know that it sounds crazy but hey give it a shot
2006-09-04 01:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by angel_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on the birth of your baby daughter!!!…
You might like to update your profile, because in it, you are still pregnant !!!
OK… I have read through a number of your previous questions, and what I haven’t seen is any indication of your boyfriend’s feelings toward your baby.
Is he or is he not excited about being a father???
How involved is he with the baby…
And for that matter, how involved was he with your pregnancy?
Did he show signs that he was looking forward to the baby being born?
Has he jumped at the opportunity to hold the baby in his arms?
Perhaps you need to look for ways to get him more involved…
Does he ever change the baby’s nappy?
Does he tell the baby he loves her???
It could be, that he may be a bit jealous of the baby.
Perhaps he feels that you are focusing your attention on the baby, where you used to focus it on him.
Getting him more involved with the baby will overcome that problem!
You have mentioned in a number of your previous questions that you want to ‘lose weight’ so as to make yourself more attractive to your boyfriend…
You are a beautiful mother…
That ‘beauty’ is on the inside, where it counts the most.
It is that beauty that your boyfriend should be focusing on!!!
I suggest you concentrate less on losing weight, and more on maintaining your health, because you need it for your baby.
If your boyfriend can’t accept you the way you look, then it suggests his interest in you and the baby is not what it should be!!!
From reading your previous questions, I am left wondering whether your boyfriend may perhaps consider your pregnancy and subsequent birth of the baby, to be something that he never wanted.
He perhaps needs to be reminded of his responsibility toward that beautiful baby daughter of his!
Good luck…
I sincerely hope that everything works out well for your family!!!
2006-09-04 01:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him!! itake it easy and try not argue or get on his nerves get on his good side. Do things he likes make him feel like you still love him. Do something nice for him. He'll see the change and things can go from there. just try to make the difference.
2006-09-04 01:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by babystuff6262005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT . YOU DO EVERY THING YOU CAN TO MAKE IT BETTER . TRY NOT TO ARGUE WITH HIM OR STUPID THINGS,THAT DON'T MATTER ANY WAY. MAY BE HE WILL SEE THE DIFFERENCES ,YOU ARE MAKING. AND MAY BE HE WILL TRY HARDER TO MAKE THINGS WORK.
2006-09-04 01:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by tia c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We need details on issues to give a better answer....
2006-09-04 01:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men just want the technical part of things--women want the emotional part.
It's NOT,,get me,NOT just YOUR relationship!!!!
Once in a while, when I feel insecure, I go up to my husband and say,"do you love me?'' (REAL sweet and gooshy).
Then he says yes, and I tell him "thank you and I love you, too"(really sweet and gooshy)
2006-09-04 01:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but this is why, the grown-ups in the world should band togther to make it a law not to have teenager parents.
2006-09-04 01:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by "big dogs wife" 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-09-04 01:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aight this is an easy one what i suggest it that you pray to God for him to show you a way and he will i promise!
2006-09-04 01:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋