curious about a highschool jock boy?

Question

there is this boy name chris at my highschool that I think likes me,because now for 3 years, hes been hitting on me like he wants to hook up with me.but why would a boy that plays sports lift weights be gay or bi. Everytime he sees me in the hallway he try to flirt wiith me. I dont know if he is trying to set me up to admit i'm gay. One time he even ask me out out loud in the classroom but noone heard him. I thought he was joking, but I dont because he been hitting on me now going on 3 years of highschool. I gave him a note saying that I wanted to go out with him and saying if he tells someone I will kill him. He told one of his fellow jock friends and they told me what he said while he was setting next to him. When he told his fellow jock friend, he covered his face with a book where I couldnt see him. Is he shy to say okay or what. Please help me to see if he really likes me or just a friendly person looking for friendship

Answer 1

Well first, there are gay jocks. The gayest guy in my highschool graduating class (dated hot girls in high school) was a star on the football team and in wrestling. He also ran track.

But this guy sounds like he is teasing you. If he shows the notes to his buddies and stuff, he's making a joke out of you. He probably tells the other jocks that you want him. He may be secretly gay, but I'd steer clear of this, because you could end up the butt of a bad joke, or worse you could end up beaten up by a bunch of his buddies defending the honor of their team.

Answer 2

First, approach him AFTER school when he is not arround his friends.

Second, please memorize and say the following: (ahem) WHAT THE F*CK IS GOING ON WITH YOU???? I am completely baffled by your strange behavior over the last few years. It seems like you are hitting on me. Is that what is going on here?

(Glare intensely and give him a chance to be baffled - I get the feeling that a strong direct response is not what you are known for. Instead of being on the defensive, go offensive and get the upper hand. Here is where he will probably stammer out something stupid.)

Then you say: Look, if you want to go out, get to know each other, have some coffee. I know nothing about you besides that you are a jock. However if you're going to be all neurotic and weird, that is just going to piss me off.

(Glare at him now. Let him know that you are tired of his ****. Let him stammer out something else stupid.)

Finish up by saying: Obviously you need sometime to think things through. Here is my (email address or phone number or something). Call me when you figure this out. (turn and walk away, DON'T look back).

Ok, did you see what I did there? First, I was on the offensive, not defesive. Second, I was not acting all scared the he was going to out me - this gives him power - act like you don't care even if you do. Third, I put the ball in his court in the end. If he never calls, then you have your answer. Fourth, you never admitted you were gay, if he wants to mock you with this convo later, he has some pretty weak ammo and it would be easy for you to shrug off.

Answer 3

My BF's a plays rugby and is a gym freak. He's gay, but does it matter? I just know I'm lucky :) *hearts*.....ANYWAY, id say u ask ppl really close to him - preferably NOT the other jocks. Flirt with him, i mean seriously FLIRT YOUR A-SS OFF - see his reaction ;) Good Luck!

BUT!!! I dont know many jock guys (like his friend) who would be supportive of this thing.....Maybe its some horrible joke? Who knows - Now the question is if ur out or not - if u are, whats the worst that could happen if u flirt with him? If u are still in the closet, I'd say be VERY cautious - he could out u in the worst way.

Answer 4

When he tells a fellow jock friend about your note, that is a good indication he is pulling your leg -- leading you on. Even if he is a gay or bi person, that tells you he cannot be trusted. He might be using you to throw off his jock friends to his true sexual orientation.

Don't toy with him anymore. Be friendly in school but don't allow yourself to be dragged into his game. Jocks have been known to do this with girls as well, sort of acting like they like them but are just using them as a joke. They have also been known to set up guys with a phantom date or rendezvous with a girl who has no intention of meeting with them.

One would think the sports people would not have the time to be so cruel and pull such pranks, but they do such things. I believe it is sort of a "gang" mentality they have about them. Once high school ends, the gang collapses and they have to grow up.

Answer 5

try talking to him outside of school away from his friends and such.

he could be being sincere or just being an a.ss kids can be some of the most cruel people because in those years people are trying to make a name for themselves and the best way to do that is by clowning other people things of that nature.


confront him but do so with the knowledge that he may be trying to clown you. so ask him wats up but dont put all your shyt out there first. make it so you hold the cards where you hold the upper hand in the situation

Answer 6

It relies upon on the place you reside. greater beneficial cities have greater beneficial colleges, so which you will not be responsive to everyones call, smaller cities have smaller colleges the place you be responsive to each thing there is to be responsive to approximately all your classmates. i've got been to various distinctive colleges during my extreme college years. the bigger ones have greater cliques and that they are greater unique, yet they don't carry as lots impression as is being portrayed in video clips and shows. Hollywood has a tendency to magnify on that. yet they do carry some impression definite. regardless of the reality that for the main area i grew to become into interior the jock and the prosperous toddler cliques, so i could desire to be a touch biased.

Answer 7

Just because someone is gay doesn't mean they can't look after their body. As for the remarks he is making to you, perhaps he really is interested or perhaps he is just tormenting you. Who is to know. Jocks can be cruel. I would leave it.

Answer 8

So this is why the trust issue with you & your boyfriend....You are hot for the school jock...and your boyfriend is hot for the cheer leader...now we understand...

Answer 9

I would ignore him. You never know if he is setting you up to bash you with his friends. All it takes is for you to make one false move.