My boyfriend and I has sex yesterday afternoon, and he really hurt me, on accident of coarse, he forgets how big he is sometimes, and now he wants to do it tonight, whats the best way to tell him I cant, because I'm still hurt from yesterday? I dont want to make him feel bad, or to think I dont like what he does. Any suggestion? Please be serious.
2006-09-03 18:26:44 · 17 answers · asked by Marie 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
And if the pain doesn't go away, should I go to the doctor, or just let it heal with time?
2006-09-03 18:27:26 · update #1
umm ok I'm not a whore and Im sorry that you little b!tches are too inmature to answer a serious question, you dont even know me, so grow up. Thanks to all of you who are actually answering my question!
2006-09-03 18:32:54 · update #2
I know EXACTLY how you feel!! Just tell him "honey...sometimes you really forget how BIG you are and Im still hurting from last night..do you think we can take it easy tonight...just for tonight". This will get the point across and still flatter him because your taking about his member :) And as far as the doctor thing, I would give it a few days, as I said I know from personal experience. If it's really bad pain you might want to go but if your just sore it's probably cause he was too rough or whatever and your just sore, but if your bleeding or the pain is really bad I would go to the gyno :) Hope i could help!!
2006-09-03 18:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by ajnshane 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am 37 and i still have those problems . It is a part of life you will experience and then some. Hun " if he cares at all about you THE TRUTH WILL ONLY HELP. just be honest and let him know, because if you dont He might think something is wrong between youns that isnt there,". You know hwat i mean?" So just tell him hun. Yes let yourself heal in about 3 days you'll be back to normal. also start using lubercaint it helps 'I KNOW" and i dont get as sore anymore. Hey" THE BEST I FOUND WAS "ky warming solution. It's wonderful. But dont you worry , you will Heal in 3 days tops..
2006-09-04 01:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hurt you, you need to tell him. If he gets too rough during sex, you need to stop him and tell him that he needs to be more gentle with you.....and you need to make sure that you have plenty of lubrication because he may have rubbed you raw. Don't worry about hurting his feelings....worry about you ability to be able to walk without feeling like your stuff is all swollen...I'm sure you're more swollen down there because you were unable to voice your need for him to be gentle with you, then his ego will be when you tell him. Sex is supposed to be an enjoyable experience between two people...if you are hurting then you will not enjoy yourself...and if you are doing it for his benefit because you are worried about his feelings...then you need to check and recheck your priorities - you should be numeral uno unto yourself.
Seriously, say I love/like you (whatever it may be for how you feel about him) but when we had sex you really hurt me and I realize that it was unintentional, however, I am too sore to have sex with you tonight. Is there another way that I can please you (if that is what you are comfortable with) tonight? When I am feeling better - less sore, etc - we can have sex again as long as we make sure to use extra lubrication (KY has great personal lubes). Good luck. If you do not tell him how you feel or you do not feel comfortable with it, perhaps you should rethink your relationship...if you cannot be honest and open about something as intimate as sex, then perhaps you should not be having sex with him at this point.
2006-09-04 04:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by stephanieredd2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get your body VERY arroused prior to having intercourse so that your body is ready for him. You will swell down there and will be bettter able to handle it. Also, use lots of KY Jelly to make sure there is no frickion. And keep it around incase you need it later. This is from the source. I do this also. You will heal in a few days but if you don't see a doctor. Good luck!
2006-09-04 01:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that you are still in pain and you can't have intercourse tonight. if you want to, you can go down on him or masturbate him or let him fondle you a little bit. if the pain doesn't subside by tomorrow, go see your doctor. sometimes, rough sex or anything sex can result in tearing which in turn can turn to vaginitis which needs to be treated by a doctor. he/she will probably prescribe a cream to be inserted. just be honest and tell him. if he cares about you, he will understand.
2006-09-04 01:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by itskind2bcruel 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
just tell him the truth and let him know he should take it easy next time. Don't pay attention to these people who are calling you a whore, you just having sex with your boyfriend, nothing is wrong about that, they are too immature.
2006-09-04 01:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by venus11224 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth...that you got hurt the last time. What kind of hurt? Without that info I wouldn't know how to answer your other question.
2006-09-04 01:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you two commit to marriage before you wind up pregnant? If you think he hurt you before, get pregnant outside of marriage and see how hurt you'll be. At the very least, convince him to wear a condom and you protect yourself by getting a supply of the "plan B pills" if you are over 18-years old. The pain you are feeling is sending you a message. . . listen to it!
2006-09-04 02:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just be honest with him. If you start lying in order to save his feelings this early in the game, you'll be lying to him years from now and he won't really have a clue about how things are in your relationship. It's better for him to know he hurt you so he won't do it over and over and over and over and over and over for years and years.
2006-09-04 01:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight out that you're still hurtin from yesterday. And tell him that when you do have sex he needs to start being more careful.
2006-09-04 01:29:43 · answer #10 · answered by teeniey37 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋