Im trying to come out and i really want to but my parents really are against homosexuals plz help
2006-09-03 18:17:31 · 13 answers · asked by Bobandy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I wish I could. Coming out is a very personal thing that one has to decide for themeself. I choose not to come out to my parents because they are highly against it and I would rather still be on speaking terms with them rather than have them know the whole me.
2006-09-03 18:31:05 · answer #1 · answered by Johnathan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but I am a lesbian.
The important question is how our parents reaction is going to effect you. No matter what, they are you parents and they do love you. My step-mother things all gays will rot in hell for enternity and we're still friends. If you are still reliant on them, and couldn't bare to go through the drama of having a rocky relationship then coming out isn't a good idea. Its best that if you are mentally prepared to come right out and tell them in a mature fashion.
Warning:
The 'its just a phase' everyone says it, just smile and nodd. Defending yourself will just cause issues.
Good luck!
I highly suggest finding a local support group. Message me if you don't know how.
2006-09-04 01:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by Aub 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think your parents will be hostile to the point of taking away your freedom or kicking you out of their home, I would wait until you're financially independent and living on your own before telling them.
If you think they'll be upset but ultimately support you, tell them. But if they have a lot of bad incorrect information about homosexuality, it may take you a while to educate them and dispel the many lies and myths that are spread about us.
There are books specifically for parents of gay teens in the process of coming out. Maybe buy one and give it to them when and if you tell them. That's what I did.
Here's one: Coming Out to Parents: A Two-Way Survival Guide
http://www.amazon.com/Coming-Out-Parents-Survival-Lesbians/dp/0829809570/sr=8-14/qid=1157348379/ref=sr_1_14/102-9769258-4533763?ie=UTF8&s=books
Below are some great resource links. Be sure to check them out.
Good Luck!
2006-09-04 01:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick St. Bernard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could somehow help you, but coming out is basically a personal thing. Everyone has their own reactions and whatnot. But just remember in the end that your parents will still love you no matter what. Being gay will not stop that.
2006-09-04 03:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on your situations. Are u financially independent? can you afford to alienated your parents and be able to survive for awhile? how extreme do u think they would react? would they kick you out of the house? do u have other siblings you can trust and get your support? or any other friends who will support you in the even if your family disowned you?
2006-09-04 09:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't come out to them, if they r against it, first try to change their attitude toward homosexuality.
2006-09-07 22:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by suhedreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not easy to advise you on such a general statement.........
it all has to do with the way you relate to your parents...
and 1st, do come out to the closest friends. it's good to have a back up
take it step by step, don't rush, or u will not be prepared
2006-09-04 14:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know your family better than anyone. Weigh your need for honesty with the risks of honesty. Only you can decide.
2006-09-07 07:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by Ever Learn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let nature takes its course. Your parents will learn to accept you but I do believe it is not necessary to force it through....
2006-09-04 02:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by Lenox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I came out to my parents a few days ago, and I know they're homophobic. I support you, and urge you to do it, unless you fear to get deprived from your current way of living (If they would it to you as they did to me).
Read my previous question and the one before it.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ApTQV2meoRRmVBM.Ur_E64jsy6IX?qid=20060904015856AAIRIvN
2006-09-04 05:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋