I WON'T SEE HIM VERY OFTEN WITHIN THAT PEROIOD OF TIME, PERPAHS ION SEMETER BREAKS...VHRISTMAS, SPRING BREAK OR WHATEEVRE. BUT SINCE DON'T YOU PEOPLE THINK ON YEAR AND 6 MONTHS IS REALLY A LONG AND INCREDIBLE TIME TO BE APART??? WE HAVE BEEN 2-GETHER FOR 4 YEARS!!! ;)
2006-09-03 17:56:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no, b/c i seen people that waited four to five years to see or talk to their loved ones b/c they are not there with b/c they have to serve their country. its not long before you know it, a year and a half is finished. just keep writing him , talking to him, etc.
2006-09-03 18:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by nephi_91185 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. A lot of guys in seminary are married.
2. Being married to someone in school (when you aren't) is very hard. You would be supporting him, but he would be mostly thinking about passing his classes and not pay attention to you.
I know because my husband went to seminary to get a MA, he wanted to teach at a Christian College. The classes can be very stressful. If you were both in school you'd share the situation, but with only one of you in school, it's like one is the parent and the other is the kid. One has to be responsible and see the bills get paid, while one stays up studying and has all the money spent on them. I joked sometimes that it was like being married to an alcoholic--all the attention and money go to one person. We moved to a new state so he could go to school and we almost never saw him.
So the question is, do you want to marry him? If no, then tell him.
If yes, do you want to start off your marriage this way, or would you rather wait until things can be better? The year and a half will fly by for him, and it will help him to see you on breaks and know you love him.
2006-09-04 01:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may seem that way, but if that's what has to be done so that you two can have a better future together, then you have to do what's best. Just a question, are you afraid that by the end of that time you won't want to still be together? Obviously you are both christians, if he is with you and wants to be a pastor. So have faith in your relationship and that God will lead you along the path that he has chosen for you. If he wants you to be together, and you choose to stay commited to each other, even while apart, it will work out that way. Good luck. God bless.
2006-09-04 01:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think his time away will give you the time to think about----
1. being a pastor's wife
2. if you love him enough, to wait one year and 1/2.
3. what your heart feels like when he DOES come home.
4. Are you still going to be fond of him (love him)?
5. he will be 'on call' to his congregation 24-7, during the week.
6. are you going to make that 'commitment'?
7. is HE going to make that commitmen?.
By the way, did he ASK you to marry him, already? He may not want you to see anybody else. If that is not an OPTION AT ALL-- then, girl,,YOU LOVE HIM!!! AND YES, IT IS WORTH THE TIME IT TAKES!!!!!
2006-09-04 01:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could move out where he is going to school at and see if you can find work, school or whatever is holdnig you back from being away from him so long. If not, you both need to ask if your relationship can handle the strain of being apart that long.
2006-09-04 01:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by Optimus P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang why did you wait so long to marry?
but no
if it is for something that benefits you later on
its okay
then atleast youll want him more when you see him
so you guys can get married. and my father is a pastor. its a benefit but he has to do a lot of work i know
ps
HAPPY MARRIAGE DAY WHEN EVER THAT IS.
CONGRATS
2006-09-04 01:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by jm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not long at all...keep going strong and looking hopeful to the future!as long as you love him the time is doesn't matter which means if you don't love him even the day before marriage you have to stop it...
2006-09-04 01:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by Max 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 months to wait, an eternity to be together. Think about it that way. It is not so bad.
2006-09-04 00:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes that long to save up and really plan a great wedding.
2006-09-04 00:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by loryntoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, if you really love him, marry him. You can make it work. Actually, it could be less stress on him if you got married while he is still in school.
2006-09-04 00:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by Lita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋