Almost all of my friends are outgoing and quite 'popular'. And I'm quite cute I just lack a little confidence, what should I do?
2006-09-03 17:39:49 · 20 answers · asked by Tina 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I didnt have a boyfriend until I was 17! Dont worry your time will come. Just be yourself and see what happens!
2006-09-03 17:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by PinkHighHeels 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you need to have a boyfriend at a certain age? It's perfectly normal...I was in your shoes at 16 too. Within a year I had a steady boyfriend and had alot of fun with my friends also. There's nothing wrong with being shy either...some guys like that type of girl, and you're cute so that should be a plus as well. Just don't be a 'gullible' shy girl and let men take advantage of you etc. Shy can be from a lack of confidence, so you should try to get some in different ways such as joining something you are good at or love to do, or joining groups that have the same 'shyness' to realize your not alone and do activities with also. Have fun, be careful, and make sure you are treated with respect with any boy/man you go out with.
2006-09-04 00:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lesley P 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1/. Dont worry about rushing to get a boyfriend. He will come along when it is time.
2/. Just do things that makes you feel more confident. You know how when you first learn a sport and at first you are hesistant because you think you will fail. Then you keep doing it and become better at it till you worry less about failure and show confidence in that sport.
Same principle here. There must be goals you can set and achieve or things in your life that make you feel good and positive. Keep doing those things and if you do them enough you will find that the positive feeling and confidence will grow within you. But dont rush it...Just enjoy and let it happen.
Roy
2006-09-04 00:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by ROY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your friends spoil you teen. You're not grown yet, you still have time to plan for your life. You have better things to focus on life, not a boyfriend. School and Church are the first to worry about. You should be confident of yourself, cause you're valuable. Boyfriend is the last thing to think abt at your age. If you listen to what I tell you, after you graduate College Boys will stalk you, and you will be ready by then. Relax, girl.
2006-09-04 00:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only sixteen, you have your whole life ahead of you. Dating isn't the most important thing right now. Your education is most important. The dating thing will come in time. You never know. You need to boost your confidence. If you are a cute girl and are friendly than there is no problem. You know, I learned from experience that if you are cute, sometimes boys are afraid of cute girls. When I was in highschool the boys wouldn't date me. I found out after I did get a boyfriend that they were afraid to approach me. One of them tried to break me and my boyfriend up because he was jealous. So you hang in there and maybe put yourself out there and ask a boy. The worst they could say is no, but I have a feeling that he may just say yes.
2006-09-04 00:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by tessababyboo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please, please don't be in a hurry you have plenty of time to live your life. Your sixteen years old, not over the hill yet!! Just kidding. I was almost 19 before I had a boyfriend. No really I know you've heard this before but it's true you have to be happy with yourself, because if you are your inner light will shine through. Don't worry about being popular, just be yourself. If you find someone you want to date that's great, but you don't need a man to be a whole person. Don't rush into dating or doing things with a boyfriend just because you think you're supposed to. High School is the first chapter to many chapters in your life. You have your whole life to stress out about things in life don't do it all at once.
2006-09-04 00:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by Angy FFRTFC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My answer is: Do Nothing! Seriously! Everyone progresses at their own pace, and I am NOT being sarcastic in any way to you! Do nothing, relax, and please do NOT worry about it by comparing yourself to the others around you. Wait for the right boy to come along. It is far better to wait for the right boy, than to simply go with one that you may not like that much - just to please others and to "be one of the gang!" Everyone has their own 'time table' for emotional issues. Sixteen is NOT that old-!! I remember it -- it feels like it at the time, but - it is NOT that old-!! Please give things some time. Even one year is a relatively long time for you now. You can grow a lot emotionally during one year! Sometimes issues which seem so extremely important to you at age 16 may seem quite unimportant by the time you reach age 18. Really!! As an adult, one year may not bring all that many changes to you in your life, but - at age 16 one year can bring many changes to you - if you open yourself up to them!!
2006-09-04 00:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you should find things that you like about yourself to bolster your confidence. It's not weird that you've never had a boyfriend at your age. I didn't have one at that age either, I was 18 when I went out on my first date. Don't compare yourself to your friends, you're unique. You shouldn't feel like you have to be part of the herd.
2006-09-04 00:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by Becca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't loose sleep over it. The right guy will come along. He is probably the shy cute guy who is dying to ask you out but can't get up the nerve. Get involved in stuff and don't obsess over it. Before you know it he will show up at one of the activities you are involved in.
2006-09-04 00:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say YOU GO GIRL! Keep up the great work! What's popular isn't always good, and what's good isn't always popular, so hang in there. A good guy will notice you soon. Just continue to respect yourself, and guys will respect you too.
2006-09-04 00:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by eve 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋