Me and my bf had always had each others password to our yahoo messenger but tonight when i came home i noticed he had been on .So i was going to get on under his name just to check things out .But he has changed his password when i asked why he was like whats the big deal.I have caught him doing wrong in the past. Should i think hes doing something wrong?Should i turst him?
2006-09-03 17:35:33 · 16 answers · asked by april_mcmillan2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i don't trust him b/c of things that happen in the past some with girls an ex and other things we been together for 4 years and I'm trying so hard to trust him to make things work but no matter how hard i try something is always hitting me in the face
2006-09-03 17:54:03 · update #1
It sounds ike he's hiding something to me and if he's done it to you before you know he is. My b/f and I have no secrets and we share our passwords to if he changes his or creates a new screen name he's in the dog house and will be out the door as soon as I figure it all out. Yes I have had it done to me in the past and yes we broke up. I printed some of the stuff I found and gave it to the ex for proof of what I found going on.
2006-09-03 18:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Passwords...there should be a limit I think on how much you share with a loved on. ATM pins, keys to your house or apartment, a bed. Stuff like that i can see sharing. Passwords to yahoo messenger? I think that is kind of pushing it. When you share EVERYTHING, it just leads to trust issues when one of you want a little privacy. That could be the case here, but I do not know you so I really can not say.
As for 'doing wrong in the past', I believe that a zebra can not change their stripes as much as a person can change their person traits. If he is known for 'doing wrong' in the past, then he could keep doing it until he can find something to replace that need. If not then it will keep happening. Like when someone goes to rehab. When they are rehabilitated, the person usually finds something else to do to fulfill their time and not think about it. After a while, the urge becomes a distant memory. It's the same with any other craving.
Now as if you should trust him, the only one(s) that can answer that is you, him and maybe anyone that knows him as well as you do...
2006-09-03 17:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by Optimus P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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Obviosuly you DO NOT trust him, and you have not trusted him for a long time.
This is not healthy. I know you have deep feelings for this guy, but lack of trust is a relationship killer.
You did not say WHAT you caught him doing wrong in the past. So I can not comment on that.
What I do know is that a man that is happy, and is having fun in a relationship with a woman, and falls in-love with her, will not desire to play around with relationships with other women at any level.
You need to find out if you and your bf have LOVE or just lust. Are you best-friends, can you talk about this? Can you tell him that you don't want him to go on Yahoo and talk to girls, because those girls are out to tease guys, and don't care if the guy has a girlfriend, and
you are setting your boundaries, simply,
he should not go on Yahoo and talk to other girls.
If he does it anyway, then you need to be asking yourself if you really want to be in a relationship with someone that you will never be able to count on...
nor trust (obviously).
Be good to you. I wish you love
stw
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2006-09-03 17:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u have cought him out b4 then he should no u have trust issues & b willing to hand over his password with out question.I think u have a player on ur hands here. Some people say that web cheating isnt the same but I believe it hurts about the same.And the thoughts are there.....
Only u can decide where to go in this but my advice is "dont trust him untill he proves himself", which could mean ur relationship is over now.....
2006-09-03 17:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good relationship, yes I would trust him. Has he ever given you a reason not to? Besides changing his password? My husband and I have separate email address's and messengers. I know he loves me. So I never even worry about checking his email or messenger. It is called trust. You sound like you may not completely trust your man.
2006-09-03 17:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should either trust him or not. Change your password as well. These are supposed to be personal communication sites but if you are sharing and then all of a sudden he changes, then I would say he is hiding something.
2006-09-03 17:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by Big "D" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT TRUST HIM....this happend to me as well..blv me...my ex changed his password..then after three months i learned he is back with his ex..he was cheating on me..
DONT get into cliches like...he needs his space,,,,privacy and stuff...
why wud he change the password if thrs nothing to hide?
2006-09-03 17:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by roddur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont dump him say you want an adult conversation with him and talk to him tell him he can trust you or maybe he just doesnt want to have each others passwords if you fell you need to change yours kk
2006-09-03 17:51:28 · answer #8 · answered by chilipeppa94 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him you will never trust him. It won't work, trust me I know. If you don't have trust you have nothing. If you think he's doing something behind your back he probably is. Trust your gut instinct.
2006-09-03 17:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by poeticmami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a man's perspective, yes he is doing bad. In a relationship nothing should be hidden from another.
2006-09-03 17:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by Tman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋