i really do like her....but imm sooooo afraid of what she will say....and not to mention that my frends and family will be upset about it
2006-09-03 17:29:19 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
You are worried about the wrong things. If you're so concerned with what other people think then you better just leave her alone, because she doesn't need the problems you're going to bring her.
2006-09-03 17:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all ignore the racist and ignorant comments from some of the other answer's their ignorance makes me sick!!!
Approach her the way you would anybody else. Yes there may be some cultural differences however people are people and they all bleed red when cut. The difference can be awesome!! Think of all that you could learn from the other. Just build up your confidence and be your self. If she shoots you down (which since you are such a hottie she would never do that (ha-ha) hold your head up and go on what one person does not have interest in 3 others will Good Luck and keep that open mind, it is a rare quality these days!!
2006-09-03 17:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by ramirezy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and be honest...ask her out for dinner or something. And at some point, you have to stop living your life based on what friends and family might think...I can guarantee no one is analyzing their decisions with YOUR preferences in mind.
And has anyone ever noticed how so many racists preface their racist statements with "I'm not racist and I even have some black friends but..." As if saying hello to a few black people when you pass them at work disqualifies you as a racist. Get a life!
2006-09-03 18:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by mikailistar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore all the racist, ignorant, close-minded comments people have posted on here first. If you really like this girl, go for it. It would help if I knew what her personality was, but definitely try and be friends with her first. After you're friends and if you still like her then tell her how you feel. If she is the girl for you, she won't care what her family and friends think because she will see past skin color.
2006-09-03 19:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by ScorpioBeauty09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce yourself first. Start slowly with confidence. Just honestly tell her you like her and from there you get started on your conversation. Breaking the ice is difficult but you gotta do it. Once you get the ice breaker out of the way you'll be smooth sailing in getting to know her.
Don't worry about your friends and family. They'll come around. They'll be quick to judge but give them time to adjust to your new relationship with a person of colour. It's your life not theirs to judge. How would they feel if you judged them on who they are seeing.
When I first met my black guy I was scared to death of what my family would think. I've always liked black guys but was too scared to meet them for fear of my family's attitude. I did get alot of strong reactions but I finally did it and I'm glad I did. This way it gave me more freedom to be with my guy. I've been with him for almost 10 years now and by the way I am oriental and older than him by 12 years.
All the best in your new romance:)
2006-09-03 17:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know everyone has probably told you this "color doesnt matter". Well it really doesnt. Ive dated people out of my ethic background. I think the reason why family would be upset about his is because back in their days, everyone was racist, it was just their way of life and how they grew up. I say give it a try. Treat her the same as you would any other girl. Good luck!
2006-09-03 17:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by conceitedwun 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most girls will give any good guy a chance. All my friends that r girls & that r black, have went out with a white boy b4 or either said they will go out with 1. So give it try & yea I agree worry about what your family will think last.
2006-09-04 05:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by native_american_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way you would approach a white girl. If the race thig is that big a deal I would leave her alone because it wont work out.
2006-09-03 17:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by Justme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should approach her the same way you would approach any girl. Love knows no color, and if you have true intentions she will see that. Race doesn't have anything to do with it. Girls can shoot you down no matter what their heritage is. As for your family, well, you have to ask yourself if your ready to pay ANY price for true love. As for your friends, I think you know the answer to that...
2006-09-03 17:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by pisces7497 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Approach her as you would any woman, respectful, and nice. The family thing will take care of itself, just as long as you accept her and she accepts you. Really, thats all that matters. I'll be rooting for ya :)
2006-09-04 13:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by Golden Scepter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋