My mom was like it's my fault for putting her into debt. She's complaining about my car payment, my orthodontist bill, and she's mad at me for gettinig really sick and having to take me to the hospital. She yelled at me for having to pay the bill. is that right?
2006-09-03 17:21:17 · 10 answers · asked by Christine S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hummmm all this and your on the computer? maybe if you did a little around the house to help she would'nt yell
2006-09-03 17:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well to begin with, how old are you? You must be at least 16 to have a car so yes that burden should be put on you. If you are old enough to have a car, you are old enough to work and pay for that car.
As for the orthodontist bill, if you are under the age of 19 or still in school, that is her responsibility.
As for getting really sick and having to pay for the hospital bill, again that is her responsibility if you are under 19 or still in school but it also depends upon what made you sick.
If you were sick due to something self inflicted eg: doing drugs or drinking, or anything stupid, then yes she should put the burden on you. You've put the burden on her but once again if you are under age or still in school, and you illness was not your fault, then it is her responsibility and she should not be mad at you for it.
I just read your other questions and some of your answers. I think by the sound of your questions that you are probably old enough to take the responsiblity for your health and your car. If you are old enough to give as you put it, (blowjobs) and to complain that your boyfriend hardly wants to have sex, then you are old enough to take some responsibility. After reading your other questions, I don't blame your mom for being upset with you.
2006-09-04 00:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not mention your age or if a father is around, these are important to answering this question. If you are under 18 it is her responsibility for your hospital bills and dentist bills but my question to you is why are you not making your own car payment? It is called learning responsibility. When my daughter was in jr. high she started babysitting and saving her money towards the day she would get a car. When in high school she worked at the local health club for a few hours each day and on weekends she worked at an upscale shop in town and saved for a car. She maintained a straight A average in school bought her own car and paid for her own insurance, we on the other hand paid for her food, shelter, clothing, and gave her lots and lots of love and in return she treated us with respect and love. Maybe you need to sit mom down and talk with her, she is probably under alot of stress and does not realize how much this is bothering you and she probably isn't aware of how her words come across. I suggest you find away to offer some sort of solution to your mom's and your's delima. Work is a good thing it helps prepare you for the future and you can take care of your car payment and gas bills. My daughter would not let us pay to get her transmission fixed when she was 17, we wanted to help but her response was it's my car, it's my responsibility. Her car set in the driveway until she saved the $900.00 she needed for repairs. Now that's a responsible and respectful teenager. Good luck with mom and God Bless your future.
2006-09-04 00:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by joejo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, child, how old ARE you? When will you start accepting responsibility for your self? You are NOT putting her into debt? The way you state and defend your case you're completely innocent; who can help getting sick, needing braces, having a car? What would life be like for you without all these things and more? You don't automatically deserve everything. Is it not understandable she's just a little 'peeved'? Kids are a huge responsibility. "They're so cute and 'cheap' when they're little"!, something you may well find out someday. Please be easier on your mom. She is doing the best she can, and I hope you are too! But enjoy it; it's a big world out here and you'll be paying for it yourself before long.
2006-09-04 00:29:59 · answer #4 · answered by Freesumpin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you're under 18, it's not right for her to get mad at you about the medical bills. If you're old enough to have a car, you should get a job and make the car payment yourself. My parents NEVER bought us cars...so it was her mistake for even agreeing to pay it for you, but if you know she's stressed about bills, you could take that on to help out.
2006-09-04 00:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kiki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sure you didn't beg for orthdonics, so she shouldn't be mad at you for that, but why is she paying YOUR car payment?
People shouldn't have children if they are going to resent taking care of them later in life, but at the same time, make sure your mom is not paying for things that should be your responsibilty, like education, rent, groceries, car etc. If you are old enough to drive a car, you are old enough to take care of yourself. Perhaps you should tell her you will help or you will pay her back when you are on your feet. Did you even offer?
2006-09-04 00:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are you? if you are over 18 and she is paying your car payments and medical bills, you may be at fault. But, I'm guessing you're not, and I sympathize. I had similar experiences when I was younger.
2006-09-04 00:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by ANTHONY A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother should have realized that raising children is not cheap, before she had you. None of this is your fault! You were just born! Don't take on your mothers crappy attitude....its not your fault. If she won't stop about it, maybe get a part time job to help your mean mom stop complaining. Good luck honey!
2006-09-04 00:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by XxbrooklynnxX 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Christine, Sounds like your mom is under a lot of stress. You already know these things are not your fault. However, we parents are human and financial stress is a hugh worry in today's world. Your mom really does love you and she is not mad at YOU just at the situation. Pray that God will give her some inner peace and wisdom on how to better to handle her confusion.
2006-09-04 00:25:40 · answer #9 · answered by LAUSDDISTRICT8MOMOFTHREE 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No it's not and she shouldn't say things like that...Thats part of being a mother taking care of you ..Don't pay attention to heron that she is mistaken
2006-09-04 00:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋