I am 16 yrs old and i am (what i think is) severly depressed. my mom smokes excesive pot which makes me uncomfortable in my own home i despise drugs i was generally happy till about a yr ago, i would have never thought of suicide then, yet i was in counceling for attitude problems in school, when my councelor diagnosed me with mild depression--something called like dythimia, they thought it could potentially get worse, though. they suggested to my mother that i go on ( a low dose) of paxil. my mother said no way, and i ( who did not feel depressed or suicidal at all) rejected it and blew it off, so my mother took me out of counceling. that was a year ago, now, not a day goes by that i do not think about suicide, i cut often and sometimes go without eating for days, its like i cant control my body. even now, i can be extremly happy and yet at that same moment want to commit suicide before things get worse, i also have relationship issues commitment and seek comfort in the wrong things
2006-09-03 17:17:12 · 9 answers · asked by Annette R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Depression can actually run in families, so it's not a surprise that you are suffering the same way your mom is. BUT, you are only 16 and cannot be expected to carry her burdens as well as your own. I'm sorry that your mom would not allow you to try the low-dose of Paxil, because that or something similar could really make a positive difference for you. The fact that you said you can be extremely happy and then suicidal also suggests you might have bipolar disorder, which is also very treatable. If it gets really crazy at your home and you feel things coming undone, call 911 and tell them what you feel like doing. You and or your mother could end up on a 72hr hold at a hosipital, where they will provide therapy and medication and establish a plan for the future. Whatever you do, don't give up because there is light at the end of the tunnel. You're at the first step, which is recognition of your problem. Now you've got to seek help.
2006-09-03 17:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is on pot and suicidal. That would be enough to screw you up right there!
Do you have any other family you could go live with for the next 2 years? It would make all the difference in the world. Sometimes people are depressed because they have chemical imbalances, but sometimes they're depressed because they're life sucks. They need a new life.
I agree with your mom that the drugs wouldn't necessarily have been the answer--they would have just got you through maybe until you were able to move out, and drugs can be their own problem.
Having someone at counseling to talk to was good for you. But then the people who were helping you suggested another way to help you and your mom not only didn't accept it but took away that first helpfulness. No wonder you're unhappy.
At 16 you aren't old enough to make it on your own, but you can get away and get more of a life. Find a good church to go to. Some of the people there might be able to help you. Get a job--it'll give you something to do and somewhere to be, and help you be able to have skills so you can move out on your own in a couple years.
2006-09-04 00:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, your mom is not helping matters in the least........If I were you I would talk to a counselor on your own and tell them exactly what is going on at home........You poor dear........Please remember that suicide will not solve anything..........There are a million reasons why you should be here and by your cry for help you show me that you REALLY DO NOT WANT TO DIE.......Call your local suicide hotline and talk anonymously if you must, but DO SOMETHING to help yourself.......I wish I could hug you right now.....My oldest daughter (she's now 19) felt the same way for awhile, and it took all of the love I could give her to pull her out of it.....It WILL get better, you have made the first step in identifying that you have suicidal tendancies.........MOVE, and get some help before it's too late...........Take care, honey......
2006-09-04 00:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would definately talk to your school councelor or a trusted adult. maybe your friends parent? or a relative? im glad that you noticed somethings wrong with yourself, and you are here because you want to get help. it may sound pretty lame, but im very proud of you for that. please, go talk to someone to get professional help so that you can get better...before you do something really stupid. (remember, suicide is a permanant solution to a tempory problem) if you mother keeps denying the 'treatment' then maybe you could to the same trusted adult to get her help also. just keep pushing it and people will realize how serious you are. i wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-04 00:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, you poor girl, you really need to talk to someone,
besides me, how about a counselor at school, suicide is not the way out, it may seem so now, but it isn't.... their is nothing wrong with taking something for depression....I think you'd be surprised
how many people take it. I do It helps. All those bad thoughts Will go away, I promise....talk to that counselor your being abused dear....please get help....for yourself....I really care about
you....god bless....pray tonite....god's listening....all you gotta do is ask for help, please....god bless you darlin'
2006-09-04 00:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by Kerilyn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to seek counseling again, before it's too late. Obviously, you want help or you would not be on here. Find help now. God bless you!!!
2006-09-04 00:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by country nana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get her some help and if you feel that what she has did in past has hurt you then you need to talk with someone also or as you get older you can become that way to.but just insure your mom that she has someone that loves her very much and needs her to get better.good luck.
2006-09-04 00:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by bigmomma s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't be the first person to seek comfort in the wrong things.(About Zoloft... I think it's bad too. )
2006-09-04 00:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you might need a friend or to be inlove so you can forget about all the bad things
2006-09-04 00:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by demetri c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋