I love him with all my heart, there's no question about it! i know he's the one that i'm gonna spend the rest of my life with. he feels the same way too. we are both financially stable.
i know he's ready to get married, but i'm not quite ready yet. why?
2006-09-03 17:12:21 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes you are just not ready ... take your time and when the time is right for both of you - you two will know.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-03 17:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter why, the important thing is that you know...don't ignore it. There is a reason for it. Marriage is a HUGE thing and should be thought about for a long time...its nice that you love each other but ask anyone who has actually been married LOVE is NOT enough to make a marriage work. Here is some stuff to help you along in your thinking.
Consider marriage when you have been together long enough to be out of the infatuation stage. When you have discussed ALL the issues involved in life after the wedding like finances, division of household labor, children, in laws, where to live, jobs, time away with friends, sex (how much and how often) and a million other things you haven't thought of. After all of that you consider each part of the vows, and what you consider is the difficult side of them, anybody can be happy when things are going well so,
richer or poorer....still want to be with them in a shack with crackers ala peanut butter for dinner...for the fourth night in a row?
sickness and health...they develop a chronic physical or mental illness and can't get around and can't work, still want to be there?
better or worse...they are in a car accident and you have to spend the rest of your life feeding them and changing their diapers, still want to be married?
keep yourself only to him or her, can you REALLY only have sex with only that person until you die?
THIS is what marriage is, not a fairy tale where everything goes well everyday, the one guarantee you have is that things WILL go wrong. Remember, you answer all these questions after you have passed infatuation, after you know what their bad points are (yes they have some and so do you) and still consider it anyway.
If you think you are up for all of this then maybe you should think about it. Don't forget to consider whether they would stick by you if it was you in any or all of the above scenarios. Check out the question posted here by married people and keep in mind that all of them thought this was the thing to do and the ONE for them when they got married too! There is a book called Lies At The Altar by Dr. Robin Smith, it helps you answer all this and go in to a marriage with your eyes wide open, if you aren't willing to consider all that then what you really want is a pretty ring and a nice party and lots of attention, have them but don't make that a basis for a LIFE. Good luck!
2006-09-04 00:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because ur not, plain and simple.. dont get married till ur ready marriage is hard enough with 2 very willing participants then one willing and one not so sure.. wait till u know in ur heart its the right time for u..
2006-09-04 00:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may still have somethings to get out of your system first.Whatever it maybe don't get married until you are ready for it.You don't want to go in half hearted.Take your time and it will be worth the time.
2006-09-04 00:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its a huge commitment is all its ok to feel like that theres plenty of time to get married its very normal wait until ur ready and it will be special its only a bit of paper dont worry.
2006-09-04 00:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel that way too. Knowing that not getting married is not going to change anything except that i have to be answerable to him kind of made me sweat somtimes. My bf was the one who brought up the subject of marriage. I try to push it as far as possible. I guess we are just afraid of committment.
2006-09-04 03:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by autumn lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just can't force urself to get married. take ur time and get married when it feels right, after all, it's a big commitment.
2006-09-04 00:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are a flakey chick. No big deal to us guys. Most of you are totally flaked out. We can handle it. Take your time.
2006-09-04 00:51:34 · answer #8 · answered by InternetPosterChild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. If he loves you he will wait until you are ready.
2006-09-04 01:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe something in you mind you are not sure enough about it. Something is bothering you to take decision right now.
2006-09-04 00:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋