My parents went on a trip and for a month were out. I did what I regret, joined bad crowds, was about t get in seriuos trouble (I didn't). Mom came 2 weeks ago and got to know what I did. I know I messed up, but though mom is treating me with love, she's going a bit overboard w/ my punishment. I only go out with her. Cell phone, internet and friends are controlled. although I can swim on wednesdays, fun only on weekends and with some restrictions. Shes controlling my clothes, only nice shirts over a bra (this will be forever) At night I stay home and spend quality time w/ mom, when we talk about life, right and wrong. This is not that bad, I know I was sidetracked, but such restrictions suck. And since mom wants me full of activities, I'm taking a culinary course. I complained, but mom was inflexible. I hate this course. Tthere are "homeworks", so I spend good part of my free time including saturday mornings in the course or in the kitchen wearing a cute apron, oh!. for one month more
2006-09-03 17:03:54 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My mom said she will trust me again, but I gotta be patient and accept my punishment without any rebellion. I won't rebel, But isn`t the culinary course and my cute aprons a bit too much?
2006-09-03 17:04:20 · update #1
if you do bad things your pararents will ground you like it or not,lifes hard so deal with it and it will be over before you know it
2006-09-03 17:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No doubt about it - the culinary course is severe punishment!!
As far as your parents go, you have no idea how scary it can be to watch a son or daughter even go near what could be serious trouble that could get them off track for - like - the next twenty or more years.
Your mother is trying to think up some reasonable punishment (and punishment is supposed to suck) because, as you must know, she wants to make sure you're good and away from the bad crowds and possible serious trouble. While I'm not suggesting she isn't reasonable or in control or otherwise solid, the fact is that there's a part of her that is absolutely terrified that she will lose the person you have always been (even if that's only changing your personality, but she's probably also afraid of losing you in other ways as well).
If the course is only on Saturday mornings and for another month maybe just put up with it. Isn't there a way, though, you could skip the apron thing? You may want to talk to her, too, and ask if some of those nights you could just go in your room and watch television, read or listen to music. Just ask her if now that you've talked about right and wrong as much as you have maybe you could just have some alone time (that is if you would like that) in your room or wherever in the house you like.
Maybe, too, she isn't so much thinking of this as punishment as she is thinking of steps she can take to make sure you don't get into trouble. I don't blame her for the clothes thing or the thing about who you can be in touch with or the activities thing. I do think, though, maybe she could dispense with some of the rehashing of right and wrong constantly (unless you like it) and the apron. Too bad you couldn't have taken a CPR course instead.... hang in there, keep remembering that those bad-crowd people weren't worried about whether you'd be "lost" or not and that having someone who loves you more than you can imagine and who is so afraid you'll be "lost" right now isn't such a bad thing.
You're only 13. Your mother has a long way to go when it comes to worrying about you getting involved in something that's bad for you (if not these recent bad crowds then some other thing). There's about another ten years you have to go, being able to stand up to temptations and pressures and influences etc. Your mother knows she'll be able to trust you again, but you are so young that's why she's being the way she is.
2006-09-04 01:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ahh the aprons is, but perhaps you should have asked her if you could do another course? now you may be faced with her asking you to make dinner once a week! I think most of that is good punishment but the aprons, only nice shirts, and having to talk about whats right and wrong with her EVERY weeknight is a bit much. I dont think theres much you can do about that though. It almost sounds like she has been waiting for you to get in trouble just so she could get to know you better! good luck...
2006-09-04 03:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey it sounds like she is taking it easy on you. She wants to make sure that you understand not to do it again. And you may think that you understand not to do it again but she isn't convienced. She is actually making you do stuff that you can use. Everyone needs to know how to cook. You have to learn to be strong and think for yourself. Don't think about what others want you to do. In the end if you do something that they can put on your record it will be hard for you to get a job. I know I kinda got off subject but basically what I am trying to say is that your mother loves you that's why she is spending time with you. She may feel that her lack of spending time with you is the reason why you acted out. Enjoy the time with your mother, learn how to cook and remember to keep your head in the books and your mind focused on a goal and follow your dreams!
2006-09-04 00:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Lise 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mother cares about you a great deal, and you should be thankful for that. But, you've got to work out a few compromises with your mom. See if you can join some other course provided. Explore those choices with your mom. See what you can work out.
2006-09-04 10:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by ChaiTea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez girl, you got it easy. Just suck it up and get on with it. When i used to get punished, i got really punished. I wasn't allowed to do ANYTHING AT ALL and had to be in bed by 9 pm everynight. Your punishment sounds like what my everyday life was like when i was 13. Its only a month and you never know, you may just learn something on that culinary course. At least you'll never starve!!!!
2006-09-04 00:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by lounursey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally feel that you have a great mom. You have done wrong and she is showing you the right way. Bear with her.. win her trust over and in future stay out of trouble. I am not sure if i will be as patient with my daughter as your mom is with you. Good luck...
2006-09-04 00:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You got off easy. A friend of mine had a party when his rents were out of town and he lost control and the party just went wild, the guys who ended up there started breaking stuff, stealing stuff and when he ran to the neighbor to try and get help they set fire to the house. $600,000.00 dollars worth of damage. Do you think they were a tad upset?????
I won't see him until he's 76 with all the restrictions he is on.
2006-09-04 00:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some day u will say " thank you" to u mom for all this...I did the same thing...and by the way u mom was like u but u wasn't like her yet.. so trust her, she know what she is doing...
In this wild world a little decency is well come.
take care and trust u mom... and by the way.. buy her flowers and just say " Thank you" she will know for what and she will understand and forgive you...
best regards,
shakeera
2006-09-04 01:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a great mom! It's only for another month. You are very very lucky if you ask me! She's just trying to protect you and to help you learn a lesson here~I think she deserves a pat on the back!!
2006-09-04 00:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by she_she_kay 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well you gotta deal with it that is all i gotta say you did wrong and gotta pay the consequences your going to be glad you got punished one day and thank your mom for being there and not giving up on you
2006-09-04 00:50:56 · answer #11 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋