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My girlfriend and I are both 20 years old and we've been dating since our mid grade 12 year of highschool and its come about 2½ years now and we just went to one of her best friends wedding from high school... and it got me to thinking, i love her and she loves me but she lives in lethbridge going to the university and i work in calgary where we were both born and raised. I just don't knwo what to do or how to do it... so any advice or anything would be helpfull... thank you

2006-09-03 17:03:39 · 12 answers · asked by cflames_fan 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Hun , wait, u've made it this long, wait till she's done with college then if ur still together, then start seriously looking into getting married .. but atleast wait till she's got her degree in hand before even thinking seriously about this.. marriage is hard enough with out the extra distractions of school ect.. I personally feel people shouldnt get married till they are 25, because u will do alot of growing up after u turn 21 through 25.. if u want to get engaged fine but have a long engagement.. dont get married atelast for another 2 years. .. please trust me on this one.. atleast wait 2 years if u and her are meant to be together for the rest of ur lives the 2 years will only be a drop in the bucket compared to ur life time.. do it the right way, dont go into it with out being prepared, be a real man do what is right even if it doesnt feel good ..

2006-09-03 17:16:08 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0 0

If you both feel the same on this issue then it is the right time. It doesn't matter how long you have been together. It only matters how you both feel inside about eachother. If you are both madley in love and if you both feel that you have things in order then do it. Marriage is not a game, Sure it is fun at times, but it is hard work. You both have to willing to work 150% each to make it work. Share all the responsibilites, truely care about how eachother feels and most of all KEEP AN OPEN Communication with each other at all times and for all issues. This is vital to making it work. Only get married if you both are truely ready to spend your lives together. These vows should not be taken lightly......Good luck

2006-09-03 17:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

cflames, the longer you two wait the better as the more maturity you both have the better the odds you will have of a lasting happy marriage.......... but....... you will know its is right when you can honestly say that her word is her bond and you can honestly say that when she promise till death do you part that she really means it... you can tell by watching what she says if a promise to do this or do that can easliy be broken becuase she didnt feel like it or circumstances changed then she isnt willing to commit full to the biggest promise of all....dont be decieved by feelings as they may play a big role in marriage they are the demise of alot of them as well. look around at people saying "you have the right o be happy" or " if you feel like you dont love him" be a realist or youll be a divorced pesimist

2006-09-03 17:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by joe 4 · 0 0

that's a big commitment. if she makes you happy that is great. me personally i would wait till you are both done with school get solid jobs. you will know when the right time is. if you feel comfortable then get an engagement ring if that's to much to fast then get her a promise ring. its not like your going to get married next week. you can always if her a ring and set a date for a later time. take your time make sure this is what you want. good luck!

2006-09-03 17:24:27 · answer #4 · answered by Zoey 2 · 0 0

Marriage is serious and should not be taken lightly. You have to be sure that she's the one.You both have to sit down and ask questions like the debt between the two, any likes and dislikes if you are not living together, things that irritate you and if you have the money to get married.

2006-09-03 17:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0 0

You are both young and are apart right now. It is nice that you are thinking about it though. When the time is right, you will know and things will work out. By the way, you can always talk to her about this too, you know!! Good luck.

2006-09-03 17:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by Carlyn 2 · 0 0

Personally I think there is no hurry...get through school and just have some fun. It seems like everybody rushes into this stuff. If you are happy what's waiting sometime...when you feel like it's the right time...both of you...you will know. :)

2006-09-03 17:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by Apple Blossom 4 · 0 0

If you have to ask that question the time is not right....

When the time is right you will not have to ask the question you will just know with every fiber of your being that you have to be with this person for the rest of your life... That's how you will know....

2006-09-03 17:36:36 · answer #8 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0 0

If you have to ask honey, you are just not ready. When the time is right you WILL know, you wont have to ask anyone...you will feel warm and fuzzy and just come right out and ask her...good luck

2006-09-03 17:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by Diane 1 · 0 0

When you're in love and KNOW this is the one for you and she feels the same way about you...

2006-09-03 17:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0 0

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