Do black people really think that everything is harder for them because they are black?

Question

My friend said he had to work 10x harder to achieve what I could because he was black. He goes to Rutgers University on full scholarship because he is black..his hobbies are playstation and shining laser pointers at girls bootys...as I type this he is smoking weed and eating doritos...

Answer 1

Some do, some don't. It depends on the individual and there are LOTS of different individuals out there.

Answer 2

I think that your "suggested reasoning" for this person attending Rutgers is COMPLETELY off. White folks always think that black people get things because we are black. If I could go to school and not be smart but get there because I am black, I guarantee there would be a lot more blacks in school. Thats a cop out completely. Just because he plays playstation and shines a laser pointer doesnt mean that he doesnt do his work. He will have to work or he wont be there for very long and YES IT IS HARDER FOR US, whether you like that or not.

Answer 3

Just because he does that for fun doesn't mean that's all he does,
If he has a FULL SCHOLARSHIP then he does more than just what you said. No one gets a full scholarship by showing up and looking sweet. Not even me.

And yes I have found that I have to do my work , work harder , but I cant take a lazy approach to education and achievement ( like skipping classes, getting drunk, doing stupid crap late at night) because if I do it will affect my performance and apparently , when one black person screws up or acts crazy questions like:

"Do black people really think that everything is harder for them because they are black?"

show up. I take that $h!T seriously. If I dont have to work harder , how do I combat people who like to believe I sit on my lazy big O'l butt and do nothing, how do I combat that I am not on drugs stealing or doing something illegal, how do I make up for my fallen brethren in the system/
I do I combat people who STILL believe this is what defines Black.

I dare you, do it, type in black or African American in the search engine, you will find some of the ugliest questions about a people around.

How do I keep myself away from all these things?

I just GOT to work harder.....

Answer 4

Whites and other races cannot relate to the black experience because they don't have to deal with it. Our history is the major roadblock for black people. We are the only immigrants to the Americas to come in chains and remained denegraded throughout it's history. Our constant fight has been to overcome the negative stereotypes that have plagued us here in America.

American society has gone out of it's way to deny black oppurtunity. Segregation was law of the land in the recent past and it still lingers on inspite of a more enlightened America. Today racial discrimination is a mostly secret or undercover thing. There are no separate but equal facilities but still money or wealth, education and class are used to divide us from the dominant ( white society).

Here's another thing. Often whites or other races will take the most negative examples that they see in blacks and attribute those behaviors to all blacks. So that means that we are constantly being seen as a monolithic people...a crast obsurdity!

Answer 5

It kills me to see people make a judgment about an ENTIRE segment of the population from the one or two bad apples they have come in contact with. Although there are some blacks that will use racism and discrimination as an excuse, many other blacks are doing whatever is necessary to succeed in life. Laziness, complaining, and certainly smoking weed and eating Doritos are NOT inherent in black culture. These things sweep the board of races

Answer 6

Black people still face alot of discrimination even today. A friend of mine was telling me about being in a restaurant chatting with someone and having a perfect stranger approach him and ask if he were a doctor or lawyer. He said "no". The lady then told him that she had NEVER heard the blacks where she comes from talk as well as he does.

Answer 7

in some situations it is..."but going to school...as i see it he's already there... he's where he needs to be....so ask him why was it harder....every black person has the same rights as any other person living...those days are gone...if you think about it....black people got everything they wanted...rights to an education, rights to vote, rights to go any where they want...right to enter any school,shop,store,restaurant,club,game, that they please... So now there is no more excuses for failure....It may have been harder for him....growing up in the wrong places could be one thing...i am from down south...Louisiana to be exact...it was hard...we were told there were no more school books...we were told we lived just to ar for us to take the bus...although our neighbors were riding that bus... KKK chased us kids and had many vulgar names call tat us....so we moved....but that was 20 years ago...although there are still some hardships in certain areas...You may not know what he had to endure...but let him know...times have changed and what ever he had to, do to get where he is...he made it....
I made it...and I don't look back...no one can stop me from anything now...and black people need to see that and capitalize on it..."NO MORE EXCUSES"

Answer 8

My husband, who is white, is finding that it's actually becoming a disadvantage to be a white male where he works! Because of equal opportunity, more minorities seem to get higher priority than non minorities, even though some non minorities may be more qualified for the job. Now I'm not saying this is everywhere, but this is just what he has observed. He thinks it is an advantage for me being a black female, because I have access to benefits afforded to minorities.

Answer 9

I would have called you a racist until you said he was shooting lasers at girls' behinds and and smoking weed. Don't get it twisted, there are blacks out there who are more serious minded than your friend. All people are not the same.

Answer 10

ok he goes to rutgers? congrats boy!!! but he probably did have to work hard to get there. Most times blacks have to work more harder to get what they want. when i went to college graduated last year, i had to do a lot of sh*t to prove that i needed aid, or prove i was black enough to get a stupid minority scholarship, its ridiculous.

its just the fact that schools take u cuz ur black and they need to fill their sick quota, so he prob did have to work to get there he prob had to escape his ghetto life or escape pressure in his community to leave the "normal" life to get a better education. props to him!

Answer 11

Most of my friends are black. I am hispanic. my friends and I do not feel this way but we do notice when we are treated differently because of our skin color. For one thing we do not compare ourselves or try to compete with white people or any other race, color, creed, etc because we all accept we are all different and not everyone in this world is going to treat us fairly. When we do get treated unfairly it will be because of our skin color and sometimes it will just be out of pure evil and not have anything to do with color at all. That's life.

My late husband was white and was not so aware of these slights because he simply could not relate. Trust me, my friends and I are acutely aware of them but again, we understand them and go on. Beware, not everyone is as understanding as we are about prejudice!

Now about your friend ... maybe he's speaking of all the experiences he's had that led him to where he is today; from the womb until now! We'll just never know, will we??? If that's how he feels, you may never be able to change his mind even if you can prove he's wrong but instead of trying to prove he's wrong, why not just accept that you will never wholly understand his point of view and move on.

Be honest. Tell him you understand neither one of you will ever be able to prove he's right or wrong but that you have a hard time believing he's right. This may be the very subject that could end your friendship. This could mean war! Or like I said before, accept his point of view is different; you'll never wholly understand it and move on. It's why you should choose your battles very carefully.

I know where I stand with my friends and they know where they stand with me. We are brutally honest with each other. We're all Christian and share the exact same beliefs when it comes to God. It can be very painful to progress to a friendship like ours but we're very real with other, very honest, pray for each other and truly are a family more than just friends. Bottom line, it helps to be friends with people that have the same beliefs you do; has nothing to do with color but everything to do with your morals and ethics. From a Christian point of view the bible says to not be unequally yoked with people that do not share the same belief (i'm paraphrasing - from 2corinthians 6:14). It's scriptual but even if you're not a spiritual person, it still makes sense.