i met someone soon after he moved out, and he is trying to say it will hurt me in the divorce...could that be true?
2006-09-03 16:58:31 · 21 answers · asked by foroldtimessake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it depends, are you really one of those women that have to have man no matter what? i mean seriously, why would you put yourself in that situation? do you need that much attention? after getting divorce, your gonna need to figure out who you are without him. Not get yourself into another relationship!!....have some fun...go out with the girls and if you have kids, HELLO!! big mistake...
2006-09-03 17:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by footballmom4life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are considering getting back together with your wife, don't stress. In fact, I wouldn't even mention it to the woman until several dates into your new relationship. The way I see it, there's no reason to tell people that you're still "married, but getting divorced" if there's a potential you'll never see them again. It'll scare away all your potential dates, and it's a needless hassle. I think it should be a 3rd, 4th, or 5th date discussion, and even then, approach it tactfully. "My divorce isn't quite final yet, but there's no way I'd get back with my wife. She left me, and I'm just trying to move on..." Throw in some compliments if you have to. "You were so amazing that I couldn't stand the thought of some guy sweeping you up before I had the chance," or something like that. Best of luck to you. I'm sorry about the divorce. I hope you have better luck in your relationships in the future!!!
2016-03-26 21:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have children, this could be a problem because he could ask for custody, claiming that you are a bad influence on the kids, especially if you are living with the new boyfriend or if he sleeps over when the kids are in the house. If there aren't any children involved, ask your lawyer if dating someone before the divorce is final is a good or bad idea.
2006-09-03 17:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it may not be a law that says it's bad, but yah hun i'de think about just being friends untill it's said and done,because just because you ended the marriage it doesent mean ur soon to be x feels the same way as you , just think i bet you will find a way to keep your x.looking up.because remember this, the x, at some point of your life you really had to have loved him......
2006-09-03 17:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might make you look bad and he might get more stuff in the settlement, who knows?
I think what's worse is you aren't ready to connect with someone yet. You may be on the rebound--just looking for someone so you won't be alone. Wait a while and see what you really feel like before you get committed to someone else!
2006-09-03 17:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO IT IS GOOD TO MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.YOU CAN STILL BE SAD BUT IF YOU WHERE NOT HAPPY IN YOUR MARRIGE THAN IT IS TIME TO TRY TO BE HAPPY AND IF HE IS THE ONE WHO WANTED THE DIVORCE THAN HE PROBLY HAS A NEW G\F TOO.SO GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE AND TRY TO BE HAPPY AFTER ALL HE WILL.WE ALL NEED SOME THING THAT MAKES US HAPPY IN THIS LIFE.TRUST ME I HAVE BEEN DIVORCED FOR 3 YEARS FROM A MAN THAT CHEETED ON MY A LOT AND WHEN I GOT A B\F I FELT VERY GUILTY BUT NOW I AM GETTING RE MARRIED IN NOVEMBER AND I CANT BE HAPPIER.GOOD LUCK AND BE HAPPY.
2006-09-03 17:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by spekkers2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but do not let him move in and just becareful. He can try to use it. But it would be much better till the divorce is final
2006-09-03 17:10:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd better keep things really low key. You don't want it causing you problems before the divorce is final.
2006-09-03 17:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by queenblafalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband could play the infidelity card. I really wouldn't get involved with anyone until the divorce is final.
2006-09-03 17:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OH yes it could hurt you in the divorce. I did the same thing though - just keep a downlow on it and be descrete!
2006-09-03 18:00:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋