here's the story......this woman that my boyfriend knows before he met me.......he claims that they're only friends......besides one time i go to her house to eat.....and thats about it......because she was the wife of one of his friends....by they divorce....anyway she just call our house......and my boyfriend answer...but i did'nt know who the person was......just my intuition tell me that it was her.....anyways i checked the incoming call on the phone...my boyfriend deletes it......the dumb azz call her back then soon after he left......so i hit redial .....and i saw her number come up....so im just waiting for my boyfriend to come home to confront him.....then our relationship is over.....im doing what best for me and my child....he can go to hell.....he's not going to be allowed to get access to my child....at all....as soon as i have my baby im movin to another state........and im also gonna mess him up when he comes home.....thnx u for reading .......what should i do.....
2006-09-03 16:58:20 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Good for you for not putting up with a cheater.......however......you cannot withhold access to the child......it is against parental laws unless you prove him unfit in a court and have his rights taken away. And what good would you do your baby if you cant get a decent job to support the child with an assault attached to your criminal record? I understand what you are going through .... been there , done that, but you have to remember, the baby is not born yet but you are still A MOTHER!!!! Let go of the anger and act responsible the way a PARENT is suppose to!!!!
2006-09-03 17:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by kim s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all calm down, your hormones are raging out of control and you are and will imagine all sorts of things, been there done that. First take a relaxing shower or bath and have a good cry, then sort out how to confront him. Don't accuse him of things just ask without yelling why did you delete her phone call? Listen to his answer it was probably because he knew it would upset you. Then ask him why did he call her back and go over there? Listen to the answer, stay calm, think about what he is saying to you. Sort it out in your mind and think, "does this make sense"? It is hard when another person is involved. Ask him was it harmless or was it more, remember no yelling, your an adult carrying a child and you need to stay calm for the babies sake. I am a mother of 3 and I can tell you the worst thing you can do is deny a father his rights. A child is not an object to dangle as a dog bone, think of the child first always want the best for the child even if it hurts. Swallow up the anger and possibly betrayal and think clearly. Your child deserves the best, the best you, you can give but also the best father he can have. If you two do not stay together your child still needs to know his father and the father needs to SUPPORT his child. Do nothing out of anger you will only hurt yourself and most importantly your sweet, innocent child will also be hurt. God Bless you and your child and I wish you well...
2006-09-03 17:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by joejo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would confront him, then kick him out, since you're not married the child will have your name and he is only the biological father and has no rights.
However has he cheated on you before? How long you've been together? You surround yourself with people who don't seem to be worth much. Since you got yourself pregnant from an idiot boyfriend, you need to get out of that environment and make a decent life for your child. You stick around them and you'll end up like the woman you're talking about,
Get out while you can, find someone who can look after the baby while you get a job in a year or so and make a better life for the two of you,
2006-09-03 17:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is one of the most childish things I have ever heard. First of all you don't even know what the woman was calling for, if she needed something, if she had something for him to give to her ex-husband or what. And second and most important of all, your child has nothing to do with that one way or the other. Every child deserves and needs a father and just because your BF went somewhere briefly doesn't mean he's cheating. Now if he has those tendencies then you knew before you got knocked up and the consequences are on you, not him. He's only doing what you allow him to do. But you made a baby and he has the right and the obligation to see that child and care for it. You don't get to make those decisions because he isn't being a good man. That doesn't mean he won't be a good father. Don't be naive. You sound young anyway so neither one of you need a child.
2006-09-03 17:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Southern Lady 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Too Too Negative what you should do right now is take a warm bath and calm down release some stress because being mad can cause you to loose you're baby when you're b/f gets home talk about it and set it out strait be serious and tell him how you feel and also tell him the reasons why you think he's cheating on you and another thing never deny a guy his child and think about your baby dont take away his father because every child needs a father
2006-09-03 17:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth f 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand that you are emotional but there is no reason to leave the state or keep him from his child. I know I have been typing this alot but I work at a daycare and children need THEIR father in their lives. I agree with you something seems fishy. He may be cheating. You can dump him but I wouldn't make a big confrontation, you are pregnant you have the well being of a life growing inside you to be concerned with. Stress can make you have a premature baby and that's scary. So, I suggest that you just let him know that right now this relationship is too stressful and you can't trust him and that all you want him to do is to be apart of his childs life!
Good luck sweety, and read to the baby it makes them smart!
2006-09-03 17:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Lise 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all if that is his child you can't deny him that child. BESIDES the fact it is just freaking wrong! YOur child isn't and SHOULD NEVER be a war weapon. I feel for your child at this point more than you.
Secondly be careful because PG hormones can make a person's mind wander. Be sure you know for SURE he is cheating before you go off all pyscho female on him.
I hope you are wrong and if you aren't well then, Its still ok for you to kick his *** but please don't use your child as a weapon.
2006-09-03 17:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by #3 Due December 25th!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good for you for standing up for yourself! You don't need a man like that, because you deserve someone WAY better. Remember, once a cheater always a cheater. There're no excuses. The fact that you're pregant is no excuse for him to fool around with other women. Go ahead with your plans and best of luck to you and your baby!
2006-09-03 17:03:48 · answer #8 · answered by Angelheart 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well confront and by no means feel bad for confronting him tell him how you feel if hes not cheating he will respect your fears .but if he is you dont need that in your life with a baby coming and you shouldnt mess him up it could hurt your baby just kick his azz to the curb you and your baby will be fine with him or without him
2006-09-03 17:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by ladypixie2 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats not best for your child, no father is never best for a child, try sitting and talking to him if you find that does not work talk to some one who can better hope you like church or something not the internet chat room( because sometimes it does help especially if the person you asked advice from does not fully understand)
2006-09-03 17:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by cookies 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋