If woman gives a man all she got and is so good to him why in the world does he want to cheat?

Question

I just don't understand why my ex husband cheated on me I worked and came straight home never went no where with out him. I just don't understand i was good as gold to him and then i get sh-- on.Just don't seem right

Answer 1

men like that are absolutly stupid to cheat on a good woman, I wish I had a "good" woman instead of the lying cheatin thing I am married to

Answer 2

He's your ex-husband now. Who initiated divorce proceedings? You or him?

Whatever the reason he had to cheat on you, it's partly your fault. You can't live with someone (especially if you're married to them!) and be so oblivious to the signs that a marriage problem has been brewing...probably for a long time before it evolved into cheating. That doesn't mean cheating is okay, though.

So, the best thing you can do now is to analyze your attitude: what did you do or stopped doing that prevented you two from communicating honestly with each other?

You may have given him all you have, all your love, but that shows you're just thinking things like a woman, not from his point of view. Did you two want the same things in life? Was he happy that you worked? Did he involve you in his long-term plans?

These and many other questions should be analyized with proper therapy; that way, you don't repeat the same mistakes and remarry just another clone of your ex-husband's persona.

Answer 3

It doesn't seem right and it hurts. I have never been married, but I know the pains of a heartache. As a man myself, I can say that we get bored...EASILY. So sometimes our minds wonder and think: 'I wonder if I can get that?' Sometimes we actually will try to see if we can & that can lead to cheating if we are sucessful or not. That is why strip clubs are so famous. It's a way for a guy to get that urge out of us & if we don't push up on the girls there, we don't end up cheating. We just come home horny what we can have and are happy with just that. I am sure alot of women do the same. Either thinking of their favorite celeb during the act or if the go to male strip clubs it can be jsut the same.

You also said that you always went everywhere with your ex. That can be another reason why he cheated. He could of felt that you was crowding him & sometimes that pushes us away. I recently have come to the conclusion that relatinoships are just comprimses. You always have to meet in the middle on everything. You might get something in your favor one day, but that is going to come back and have you lose in another. If you allow everything to be in one person's favor all the time, the scale is jsut going to tip over...

I am not sure this might of helped, but it is just the way I see it. Sometimes though, one person' point of view can shine light and allow another person to see more clearly.

Answer 4

Because some men are idiots.. i was the same way with my x husband and he did the same thing.. I use to wonder why he did what he did, wondered what i could of possibly done wrong to deserve my love for him to be treated like sh*t beneath his feet.. but ive found out that LITTLE BOYS trapped in mens bodies dont know how to live by their vows on a daily bases, they only do it when its convient for them.. Hun u could of been the most perfect wife in the world, the prettiest, sweeties, devoted wife, and he would of still cheated on u, cause little boys need the chase they need to conquer another woman, he conquered u so now he was on to the next, then the next and he will continue to do so until he grows up one day if that day ever comes.. it wasnt anything u did, u couldnt of changed anything to make it better, its in him because he is a immature little boy that has zero clue about being married and what it takes to be a REAL MAN.. thank ur lucky starts that he is gone, go find a REAL man be picky dont settle for anything less then what u want for a husband, take ur time make sure he's right make sure he has the same out look on marriage as u do, and make him prove it to u, before u take another walk down the isle, REAL MEN, GOOD MEN exsist if u look for them.. GOOD LUCK.. and u will find someone that deserves someone like u .. and will love u in return and appreciate u for who u are..

Answer 5

vawoman. your right it isnt fair and alot of people understand what your feeling. the fact that we are living in a very childish world and that people base alot more on feelins and less or respect and honoring commitments. you have heard the comments "its ok to look dont touch" or a man looking at anude magazine and people say " all guys do it" thats bullsh/t we dont all do it some of us love being married and put our wives first. women are considerd nesters they usually like to settle down and be happy and men are the hunters ( or questing) they are perpetually looking for new things to conquer. as a boy becomes a 18 or physically mature its impressed on him that he is a man but its far from the truth a man isnt an age or size its about doing what is right no matter what making his word gospel and alot of boys are not taught to be men. 50 years ago 25 year old was still considerd a boy mentally now adays a driver lisc dictates it. you got screwed by a boy in mens clothing what you do here either compounds the problem or you start fixing the problem in your life choose a real man ( you can always spot one by looking at his word, does he realy back up his word, does a promise mean somthing to him) and when you have boy teach him what is the diffrence between a boy and man teach your duaghter to only look for a man. i know the pain hurts but he may have just done you a favor and allowed you to escape and find someone you can trust.....good luck

Answer 6

Well unfortunately most people talk about how they what the perfect person, but not many are mature enough to appreciate it when they have it. It takes someone to lose a person like you 1st...then get a person that makes their life hell ,in order for them to realize what they had. And the sad part is that sometimes we groom them for somebody else to enjoy. But what really helped me was reading God's plan on what a marriage should be. Make sure you understand your role. Pray and be patient...be patient...Because too much of the wrong thing can break you.
Stay up sis.

Answer 7

My sympathies to you. I had a similar experience with my ex . Please stop beating yourself over what happened. It is not going to change anything. Many men cheat - it is something that has been happening even before we were born. In general, men are programmed to be this way. I know there are some men who will be faithful ...but they are like a needle in a haystack...really difficult to find.

.

Answer 8

ITS NOT RIGHT AND ITS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!

Please don't blame yourself. Your ex just didn't appreciate what it is he lost! Life is never fair, the ones that try so hard to do things the right way, always get $hit on. Thats the way it works. Its not fair to us but we just have to get up and get on with our lives! I'm sorry for how your $hitty ex made you feel, but keep your head up and things will work out for you eventually.

Answer 9

Cause some men are dogs!!!!!some dont know what they got? and there are women out there that prey on men just like yu had!!seems they think its an adventure to mess up somebody??weird people in this world!!betcha yur ex realizes someday what he lost!!!he will tell yu that too someday!!

Answer 10

It's nothing to do with you he wanted his cake and eat it to.You can do everything for them and he feel that he's missing out on something.Cheating is a thought first and then it becomes an action.Life isn't fair trust i know.But you have to not let what happened in that relationship ruin others.Forgive him and move on,because you will never be able to move on and be happy.