Well heres the thing me and my boyfriend have been together for 1year and 7 months...well my issue is ever since i became pregnant things between us havent been the same i mean b4 we even found out that i was we werent so good like it started to get bad when we were together for 8months...well any ways he has been acting weird ever since i was pregnant but now im not i just had our baby and were still together and all and it just seems like im invisable to him i mean i try to think of ways to get his atention its hard ..during when i was pregnant he didnt pay any attention to me only his friends and he still does its wierd to me b.c. he never use to be like that in the beginning i mean me and him were allways i mean allways together everyone thought we were the perfect couple and we use to open up to one another but now its like he's afraid to open up to me ..i mean he goes to his friends house or something if he is in a bad mood....and plus we dont talk on the phone like we use to....
2006-09-03 16:39:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yeahHh so basicaully that gets me upset to...yeah..so i really want to know what can i do to make my boyfriend want me and want to always see me instead of his friends again??..i really need advice and plus ever since i had the baby i dont feel as atractive like i use to be b4 i was pregnant what can i do to fix that too...im soo lost and i really need advice...well thanks for all your help!...
2006-09-03 16:42:23 · update #1
and plus im suppose to have home school from the school until october..what can i do to loose weight from being pregnant ..b.c. i want to go back showing off to people and my bf that i can do it meaning i can lose weight..b.c. i want to shock my bf when i go back..b.c. right now we see eachother here and there and so i want to go back showing off..so please give me some diet tips! thanks agan :)
2006-09-03 16:46:29 · update #2
First of all you need to respect yourself. How old is this boy? I call him a boy because I real man doesn't treat the mom of his baby like that. In my opinion you two need to have a very serious talk. Express your feelings don't let him leave until you express your feeling. Also let him tell you what is bothering him.When you are stress your baby knows and it makes him or her upset. It takes two in a relationship.
2006-09-03 17:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dear, you have been dealt a healthy dose of reality. Let me guess? Your own father is not in your life. You were raised by your mother. Your boyfriend has never really been a great guy, but you hung in there with him, because you desperately crave love and affection. When you were pregnant you gained lots of weight, his attraction for you diminished. He distanced himself because he really doesn't want to be a father, didn't ask for a baby, and didn't tell you "hey honey, let's have a baby!" You thought that having his baby would make you two closer, he would love you forever, and after high school, marry you and live happily ever after. Unfortunately, you two are still in high school, he thinks like a high school boy, and now that you have had to grow up and be an adult and a mother, he doesn't want that responsibility. However, your question was, how can you lose the weight. Well, you will need to workout six day a week. During those 6 days, you will need to do 40 minutes of cardio, and 40 minutes of strength training activities. You will need to follow a clean diet, no sugar, low carbs, no sodas, no juices. Drink lots of water, whole wheat, and lean cuts of meat (boneless, skinless chicken breast for example). Also, you have to be the best mother you can be. Especially if your boyfriend doesn't come around, you may be raising this baby alone without his help. I really do wish you all the very best.
2006-09-03 16:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's not ready for a family. Should have thought before the deed was done. Pregnancy and children DOES change lives forever. It shows peoples' true character. I know from experience. I was having issues with my girl before she became pregnant and afterward it did seem like it went downhill. If it weren't for the fact that I was about to be a father, I would have left her in a heartbeat. But, again, I had a child coming and I had to make sure that the mother of my baby was taken care of. The result of hanging in there, stepping up and doing the right thing at all costs: This woman is now my wife, we now have TWO beautiful children, ages 2 and 4 months and are a happy, close-knit family. Have faith, and be patient. Hang in there and God will bless you as well.
2006-09-03 17:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by Tiberius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the relationship was bad then u should've either stopped sleeping w/him or started have protected sex.. a child doesn't always make a relationship better, raising a child can actually cause strain on a relationship.. u just added another problem onto the problems that ur already having...
u need to speak to him and let him know how u feel, ask him why he's being distant and let him know that u and him can't continue like this.. u have a child to raise now and that should be priority #1... if he's stressing u and won't shape up then move on and worry bout ur baby...
2006-09-03 16:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously not ready for a "family". It hurts that he is the father of your child, yet not behaving in a responsible manner. You should not spend energy on trying to change him. You should focus on what's best for you and your baby now, and as much as it hurts, he may not be what's best for you.
2006-09-03 16:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately there are many of us men that do not have good intentions with women...But when we love with all our hearts give everything for that person we are willing to look after them, even when we made a mistake...he realizes he made a mistake and now he does not want to take responsability over his actions...pardon me, what a coward!!
2006-09-03 16:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by enamorado 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that we have a baby we made it so we have to take care of it an tell him do u want to be with me or not bec u are acting strange
2006-09-03 16:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by lilmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋