Black girls give me problems?

Question

its not all black girls....but its a majority at my school.....im black but i tend to hang out with mosltyl white people....but all i get is mean stares....and these girls in my class talk about me all the time...looks...hair...clothes....even the way i talk.....i try to be nice.....but it gets annoying because they litterally have something to say about me ALL the Time...What should i do??

people keep on saying why my aviator looks white...i am a pretty light skinned black girl lol

haha before any problems....i didnt mean pretty in that way.....lol....got to be careful sometimes

Answer 1

LOL...Oh, if I'm not re-living my past!!! Welcome to the bandwagon...it's happened to me throughout highschool! See, I went to school in California, and hung around with mostly filipinos...well they were all filipino and I was the only black girl in the group...but anyway, I actually had one black girl ask me if I was prejudice of black people!!! and I was like, look at me, I'm black myself, so why would I be prejudice against black people! Oh, I dreaded the mornings and lunch periods because there would be a section where a group of black girls and boys would be, and everytime I would pass by them (I had to) only the black girls would say something mean and boy would they do those kind of stares that had a lot of attitude behind it, and at the beginning of the school year, use to make me feel intimidated by them, but finally, I got tired of it and once one of the girls came up to me and started acted out, I put her in check...after I did that, I never worried about trying to dress like everybody else or act like everybody else...anyway, close to the end of the school year, a black boy came up to me and volunteered to walk me to class, and he was the type of 12th grader that looked like a fully grown man, thuggish-looking, but handsome...so I said okay, and he walked me to class...at first I thought it was a prank (you know like on "never been kissed?") but he was sincere...come to find out one of the black girls who would be the "ring-leader" of the group who used to treat me bad liked him...he told her what he did and got firing hot, but he stood up for me and joked her and all her friends. At the end of the school year, another black guy (12th grader) wanted me to take a school picture with him and the rest of the "black clique" I did it because I didn't want to seem "snobbish".

Come to think about it, a black girl came up to me and asked me if I was a "skater". I didn't take any offense, because I looked at how I was dressed and how my curly hair was wild-like and told her," if that's what you want to think because no matter what I tell you, you're gonna believe what you want anyway," then I left.

Anyway, that's only one event in my life concerning being treated by black girls, which happened in the 9th grade, but I've been having problems with some black girls ever since I was in the 3rd grade! I don't have that problem anymore now that I'm in college, so what do I have to say to you?

Well, ignore those types of black girls who treat you this way, because nine times out of ten, they're really jealous of you and consider what type of black girls are treating you this way...another thing, all this stuff is going to pass, once you finish with grade school, this is suppose to happen to you to get you ready for anything out in the real world...if you can take badgering from your own race, then you can take it from any other race! This is a learning experience for you...oh, and when you graduate from grade school and there are full grown women still treating you this way, then they just have mental problems, because grown women don't act this way...at least not sane grown women =)

Keep doing what you're doing and don't change for nobody, when you ignore these girls and act like they're remarks don't phase you, they'll eventually stop and if they don't, that means they don't have anything else better to do. Whatever you do, don't be a pushover, when it's time for you to put your foot down...do it...you're gaining your respect that way and showing them that you don't take no stuff!

Oh and ignore these girls on here whose saying that you're doing something to attract negativity from those black girls...NO don't believe it, because some black girls are just mean especially when they're around their clique, they'll start trouble with you, just because...I know this for a fact!!! And, if it's a black girl saying this up here, then she's just fronting and trying to pull the wool over your eyes...don't believe it, SOME black girls are just mean!!!

Answer 2

I'm black too and in high school especially the other black girls made fun of me and were mean to me. They said I was acting white because I didn't talk like them, because of my hair, clothes, music and other things that are not important. They're just jealous in my opinion. How they treat you says more about them than it does you. Confront them about it or talk to teacher about it especially if it gets out of hand. But I can definitely relate to how you feel. I'm in college now and there is a lot of diversity where I am and that's awesome. Things will get better though.

Answer 3

You might carry yourself in a manner that makes them jealous, so they talk. I got it in high school, and so have my kids. You hang out with people who have values that are similar to yours and that you feel comfortable around, no harm there. Continue to be nice but don't ever sacrifice who you really are to try to be "down" with anyone, because in the long run, it won't work. And by the way for all the nuckleheads saying her avatar looks white; black people come in every color imaginable from snow white with blue eyes (my hubby), to blueberry black!! LOL

Answer 4

You don't have to apologize for your complexion girl! As much as I have defended black folks, I am constantly talked about and mainly because I sound more proper, and yes, I do have white friends too . Some blacks make us look bad with their loudness and sordid attitudes, I got into many fights with black negresses...lordy

Answer 5

Girls are just MEAN in high school, or whatever age you are. Girls are very insecure and jealous, and handle it by talking shi* about other people. Who cares what they say. If you just let their comments role off your back because you believe you are above their catty remarks, then YOU ARE in fact above their snobbery. Just focus on what you need to do to get to where you want to be. They'll be so busy talking about other people, and being little bi*ches, they'll never be able to catch up with you.

Answer 6

I think that if folks dont want to be around you and talk negatively about you, then thats their bag. There are going to be plenty of girls in your life, black and white, that do that, so dont paint the whole black race with one stroke of the brush.

Answer 7

u just answered ur own question...
u can hang out with whoever u want but if u only hang out with white people maybe the black girls think u are snubbing them.
seems like it, cuz if u didn't u would be asking those girls why they don't like u and trying to find out if its maybe you.
no one here can answer this for you, you have to talk to the girls themselves, only they know and if some are just stupid, stay away from them!
i'm sure they are all not stupid and u can find some black friends as well as white.

Answer 8

omg i have the same problem! i'm actually multi-racial but both my parents consider themselves african american. its sooooo annoying black girls are always like asking me"what is you?" "What is you mixed with?" I'm like ughhhhhh does it matter! Iv'e always hung out with different races. i used to only have white friends and it wasn't like i chose them on purpose but they were the easiest to get along with becuase i'm pretty shy and don't make friends easily. my parents always tell me i need to be friends with black girls but i just never feel like i fit in and they are always like jealous of me and i used to be teased a lot in like middle school. now im in high school. i guess i'm not really giving u advice-just telling you my experience but I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN THE BEST THING TO DO IS KEEP SMILING AND KNOW HOW TO FIGHT BACK IF THEY TRY TO FIGHT YOU LOL.

Answer 9

Do what you want to, be who you want to and say what you want to. Don't let anyone tell you who or what you should be.

But on that note I do have a question........why is your avatar white? And why do a lot of black girls use white or hispanic avatars? Are they ashamed or their heritage? Or are they just trying to be something/ somebody they aren't?
You do not see white girls using black avatars.

Just a thought.

Answer 10

my friend is really light-skinned as well and has dark-brown her... and everyone else in her family is darker from my complexion...which is like kelly Rowlands..to Beyonce...she's supa dupa light - she gets teased sometimes...but not hated on :\- but she doesn't really care..so w/e lol just do your thing..who cares if others stare...I get rude looks too lol b/c of my hair(so dumb) anyways so ya just hold ur ground

Answer 11

I understad where you coming from. I deal with the same stuff. And these girls were calling me a sellout and a "white woman with a tan" Just ignore them.