treating her well, but i still think something is fishy. what should i do?
2006-09-03 16:36:18 · 16 answers · asked by Hilaire 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
you need to tell someone immediately. that is awful. it is bad enough when someone that old takes advantage of someone so young. but he is her coach? which means he works at her school? who knows how many girls he has done this with. tell someone IMMEDIATELY. i know your friend will be hurt and upset. but they are at such different ages, they are on two different levels. he will only end up hurting her
2006-09-03 16:38:43 · answer #1 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where does one begin with such a thing? A major violation with ethics for a teacher/coach. Plus "him" being the so called adult here!
Your friend being a student and a minor under his rule and command is way out of order for his actions.
The relationship is not only against teacher/student involvement, but a conflict of interest, age barriers and consentual relationships by law. He can and should be prosocuted as given under serveral state laws.
As her friend, and posting this question I will assume you mean to do the right thing for her best interest? If you are reluctant to tell anyone for fear of retrobution then I suggest that you do so anonymously.
Use your computer "word processor" to write a very detailed statement of what you know and leave it either in your friends home mail box, on her parents car, the coaches car/office, the school counselors office and post it in the school's paper.
If you are as concerned as your question indicates then you will choose one or all of these options.
She is only 17! Rather or not she proclaims she is "happy" and HE treats her well is not the issue here. He is not a senoir student, a class mate, nor her general age group. He represents a figure of authority, an instructor/teacher of principle and bounderies.
Your suspicions are well founded.................
Kudos for YOU, for recognising that certain levels of boundaries have been crossed.
2006-09-04 00:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anna M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your parents and/or let another teacher know ASAP. This is an ethics/moral/ ?law issue and it's likely the volleyball coach will be suspended. She has no business dating her coach. She must not watch a lot of TV, this kind of relationship never works out in the end. Don't sit there, do something... she doesn't have to know it's you!!
2006-09-03 23:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by b's wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think 25 is that old (then again I am older than that...)
Make sure that your suspicions have a solid base and are not just jealousy, since you might end up losing a friend if you are mistaken. At 17 this is probably just one of many relationships she will have, so I wouldn't worry much. Life is about getting our hearts broken many times, and learning how to heal. It is what makes us stronger and ultimately leads us to finding that one true love (if we are lucky...)
PS: Can her volleyball coach date her? Isn't that against some regulations?
2006-09-03 23:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by jouari_s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How close is she to eighteen? And why can he wait until she isn't jail bait? If she is still on high school and he is her school volleyball coach, he could and should get into BIG trouble.
You should tell your parents what is going on. They can contact the proper people to investigate the situation.
2006-09-03 23:45:53 · answer #5 · answered by DontPanic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's her coach in school he's in real trouble. You should make sure his boss knows what's up. And you'd better have evidence, because if you're wrong you could ruin his life.
If this guy and girl are really in love, have they told her folks? I wonder why not.
What you can do is to be honest with her, let her make her choices, and be there for her when she turns 18 and this jerk moves on to her younger sister.
2006-09-03 23:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny Tezca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell someone cuz she is underage and that is a crime....even if she says they are in love doesnt mean that it is true....she could be blinded by her love for him...who knows who else he has done this with. and it is ten times worse if he is her coach at school cuz that is wrong in so many ways. i bet her parents dont even know and the reason for that is cuz they would call the cops. you know what you need to do...be a friend and get her out of this mess....if she wants to go back when she is of legal age then thats her business...but for now she needs to be smarter about it. good luck hun!!!!
2006-09-03 23:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by *His_Playgirl* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that he could be arrested and lose his job for dating her. Even if she isn't aware of this, he certainly is. This is so wrong on so many levels it's unbelievable. Ask a parent/guardian what should be done
2006-09-03 23:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's sleeping with her then technically it is statutory rape because she's under age. However, unless she's expressing concern then it's really none of your business. 8 years in age difference is not going to make one bit of difference in the future.
2006-09-03 23:45:46 · answer #9 · answered by Jylsamynne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do her parents know about this? That is against all ethical rules, especially if this is school related in any way. He should be reported for this, he is not to be fraternising with players.
2006-09-03 23:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋