My partner and I were together for two and a half years, and had been married for one and a half. We'd had problems, but I love her and always had stayed in love with her. Less than a month and a half ago she decided she didn't want to be with me anymore. It's getting easier, but it can still hurt so much sometimes. How long does this last? I know it'll happen someday, but right now I can't imagine ever getting over losing her.
2006-09-03 16:34:38 · 29 answers · asked by jenjubatus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks so much, I'd expected a lot of smart-@$$ answers from people but you're all very understanding so far.
2006-09-03 16:45:29 · update #1
Psychologically, and emotionally...25 years and then some.
When you come to understand the truth of the situation in reality you will mourn, but you won;t forget, you move on, but you remember, you love again, it's not the same, but you grow up and mature and that will save your assss.
2006-09-09 03:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Losing the one you love is a very serious matter. I've known some people who have lost their health because of a broken heart. If it's true love that is lost, the effects are lasting--sometimes lifelong. Your pain will ease with time and with time you will come to accept what has happened. And one day, without warning, you may find someone and learn to love them just as much, if not more. Some things aren't meant to be. In time, you may see this for yourself. But for now, take it one day at a time. Find something to fill up your days and keep busy.
2006-09-03 17:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you allow yourself to wollow in it. I was once told the best way to get over someone is to get with someone else. Not meaning to rebound but embrace friends and pick up where you left off at with yourself. People are mean when they hurt you for whatever reason but I can promise you that when your innocent and didn't do anything to hurt that person you better believe that they will have to do right by you eventually. Ex's always come back because they thought the grass was greener on the other side. It varies. I hope this insight kinda helps you out. I've been there and done that and don't want to go back down that road because it's hard to heal yourself and move one. I know!!!
2006-09-03 16:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by kc_cuttie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that a broken heart ever does mend,, you will always think of her and "wonder what she's doing now" but it will get easier as time goes on,,, as for a time limit,,, that is a hard one because only you know your heart and if it or when it will want to move on,, or even out of the house and on with life,,,,take some time and just cry,, it helps,, then call up an old friend and go out for awhile and just be yourself,, go slow,, no need to rush things,, you have all the time in the world,,, G/L
2006-09-03 16:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by unsure 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah heartbreak, between the toughest thoughts to muster by way of. To get by way of it, you're able to desire to know it. Heartbreak will illicit the comparable thoughts as grieving. you have suffered a loss. You did not point out what got here approximately particularly, or in case you 2 are nonetheless on talking words. you won't be in a position to plow by way of heartbreak in an afternoon. you're able to desire to make the attempt you like. there's no written rule that determines how long you will sense this way, yet i'm going to assist you be responsive to with actuality that this might get greater ordinary. If this is over then you certainly could desire to stand that (it is the toughest area) do not attempt to interchange her. One great element approximately us concepts-blowing people is that factor does heal. I promise you in some unspecified time interior the destiny you're able to have the skill to think of of her and not have your coronary heart draw back on the thought. Do one element for your self on a daily basis that makes you satisfied, even interior the slightest. comprehend the sentiments you're dealing with, yet do not nurse them. The greater you stay the greater this is going to break and longer this is going to final. locate the clarification why it did not artwork out interior the 1st place, learn from it and do your maximum suitable to not repeat the comparable blunders. sturdy success to you!
2016-10-01 07:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel ur pain as i to have been through a divorce, and my husband left me.. and we had 2 children as well which only made it even harder to handle...
For each person its different.. some people can get over it sooner then others, for me i sabatoged most relationships i had with others in hopes that he would miraculously change and want to come back..and make my broken heart and broken family whole again.. I wished, i prayed, i trusted in the fact that i loved him with everything i had that he'd one day come back to us.. He treated me and our kids horribly during this time, and i made up excuses for his behavior just so i wouldnt have to admit that i was in love with a horrible man cause at one point he was such a wonderful man..
It took me almost 7 years to get over my x husband, i finally realized the person i was in love with no long exsisted, the person i was in love with wasnt any longer the same man i married the one that promised to love me forever, that promised he'd never leave me, that was a good dad to our kids, and would of never destroyed our family that way.. but he wasnt that person , he was a cold hearted evil person now, someone that didnt care about his children , didnt pay child support , that didnt come see his kids, that didnt care if me and the kids lived in the gutter.. he was mean and did all he could to destroy me.. the man i loved is dead to me, its like mourning over a husband that literally died, thats the person i loved and the person i'll probably love till the day i die, but that person doesnt exsist on this earth anymore....I hate the person that took his place.. the monster he became..
For everyone its different, some find it easy to get over after a few months or after a year.. others it takes years, i use to wonder when that day was going to come when the pain would finally go away, im still waiting for the pain to heal fully.. but the loving him the way i use to is gone... now i just mourn for a man that once was.. and i finally was able to move on with my life, and found a man that i love and is worth my love, and my commitment to him, he is a great man that i love with all my heart and soul, and a "patient" man to deal with all the emotional scars that my x husband left me with.. he's a great father to our kids.. a better father then their biological dad could ever be.. and im happy for the first time after 7 years emotional hell.. So it does get better u may have to just realize u will always love her, but not the her that she became.. but the one u married.. and just realize u may always have that in u, till the day u die.. True love is not a faucet that u can turn on and off when u want.. but with time and learning how to cope with it how ever u need to.. helps..
Good luck..
2006-09-03 16:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Time is a great healer. You will never forget, but you are moving ahead with your life. Most people have those lost loves that hurt. Keep busy and look for the future of someone else coming along soon.
2006-09-03 17:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by Rosie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she will be a distant memory at some point. Time to heal a broken heart is so individual but expect 6 months to a year. In the meantime, boogie on with your life and it'll help.
2006-09-03 16:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by doggoneit 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can get over her, You and her learned alot of things from the relationship. You and her was only supposed to be together for that reason only. It was a test. Now take what you have learned and use it for the next relationship so you would not make the same mistakes.
2006-09-03 16:58:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but there is no set time limit on how long it hurts, You just have to take each day as it comes there will be good days and there will be hard ones too. Just try to keep yourself busy on the days that hurt the most im sorry to hear about your heartbreak and i hope things start looking up for you soon...
2006-09-03 16:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋