Trying to tell someone that he's experiencing puppy love and hasn't met his soulmate at 15 years of age.
2006-09-03 16:33:17 · 18 answers · asked by Emilie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate to do this to you, but I met my soul mate when I was 16, and she was 15. We dated for two years, and got married when I was 18 and she was 17. That was 29+ years, and five kids ago. My wife is absolutely my best friend, and definitely my soul mate.
Now,,, having said that, I consider us the exception that proves the rule. At 16, and 15 we didn't know then we would end up together forever. We went through a whole lot of s... together, but we found a way for us that made it all work. Love, devotion, trust, dedication all have to be involved for two people to make it, and the maturity to involve yourself that deeply with another to make it all happen. At 15 your friend is just starting out in life. The experiences he will have in his lifetime will mold him into a mature man someday, but not today. If by some twist of fate he should still be with the object of his current affection 2,3,5 years down the line, maybe he can claim the I told you so's then, but odds and the normal flow of life really are against this happening. And you know what? That's OK too. This is just one of the experiences in his life that will mold him into that mature young man someday. The first one's always the hardest to let go of, but it ends up being a valuable lesson in life.
2006-09-03 16:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, like robert.l above, I think my wife and I are exceptions to the rule. We were both 17 when we met and started dating, and that was 32 years ago. We went to different colleges, both dated some other people, but when we were done with school we got engaged. I wonder if we'd gotten married at 19 if we would have been mature enough to get through the hard times? We've been married 26 years now.
2006-09-04 00:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by newbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were both 16. Married at 18. Started a family at 23. Had 4 kids, 2 boys and 2 girls. Still together after 38 years. Married 36 years. Will be 37 years Sept.19th.
2006-09-04 00:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U know, funny u mention 15 yrs of age because I met my "soulmate" when I was 15, although during that time he became my best friend as I was still with someone else. Needless to say my soulmate is now my husband.
2006-09-03 23:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 31. I thought I had been in love many times over in my life, but time, age and experiences of life teach me differently and now only in retrospect I can see that those relationships were only the preverbial square peg trying to fit into the round hole. The man I am married to now is the first one that even after 3 years i still get butterflys when he walks in teh room and I feel complete. I can only suggest that a person date someone at least 2 years before they marry or have children...even one year makes a difference. You will know if it is lust or true love only over time. Good luck and take care.
2006-09-03 23:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-04 00:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by georgiapeach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-03 23:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by absolutely_fabulous_78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 19, my future husband was 20 and we married two years later. We have been married for 7 (together for 9)
You should tell him that it isn't that it is impossible at the age of 15 to have met the person you will spend your life with, BUT, at 15 he is too young to yet know for sure. This person COULD be her, BUT, only time will tell. He is 15, so he has YEARS to go before they could hope for any sort of "life" together. IF this relationship lasts through HS and college, THEN he may finally be old enough, or mature enough, to know for sure. But I'm sure he is smart enough to know that nothing is 100% certain.
Good luck - don't try to diminish his feelings, instead try to express that you understand, but also stress to him that even if she is the ONE, the road is very long before it will be time for them to act on these feelings in any sort of serious commitment.
2006-09-03 23:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by Heather L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a couple that was just married 56 years and they met when they were 13. My husband and I met when I was 23 and he was 25 and on a blind date no less. We've been married 21 years.
2006-09-03 23:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by SusieQ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married at 22 and divorced him. I didn't meet my soulmate until I was 48. And by the way....he was well worth the wait.
2006-09-04 00:27:38 · answer #10 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋