forced by mom to wear bras I don't like, how to live with this?

Question

I'm 13, my mom worries a lot about my breasts and don't want boys staring at me.I'm a C cup, so, she makes me wear bras that give much support and no see-through. I agree, but she goes overboard. The bras she makes me wear are at http://www.anita.com/de/en/0,1,104,1478,39236__products-detail.htm They have 4 rows of hooks in the back. Though hey are good quality bras, I don't like them, they are confining and hot. Not the bra a 13 yo would enjoy, right? But I have no way out. I did EVERYTHING I could for her to let me wear other bras, but she didn't back off and no one else succeeded either. She says it's for my best and is out of love. I know, but, don't like those bras. She's nice, we have a wonderful relationship and I'm afraid if I rebel or disobey our relationship can be damaged. Is it worth fighting over this bra thing? Since she wont really change her mind, how can I live with those bras? When it's hot they make me sweat Will my friends tease me If I dont rebel?

Answer 1

Trade with someone in gym class. Or, get a friend to bring a different bra to school so you can at least swap out during the school day.

Answer 2

Explain to her that to her that the bras are not comfortable. Ask to be fitted by a professional. These are found in high end stores unless you are really in a big city. Then explain to the professional what your concerns are. While support is important, at your age it also necessary for the bra to breathe and be flexible. Possibly a different fabric would help.

If that doesn't work, save your allowance and buy some different styles and sizes until you find what is comfortable for you. Remember to take your mom's concerns into consideration. Cover those nipples, think support, not cleavage.

My daughter is well endowed. She suggests using baby powder or bath powder in the areas where you usually sweat. She carries a small travel size powder with her. If she feels sweaty, she just sprinkles on some powder in the restroom. Try it, it's a cheap fix, if it works for you.
As to whether or not it worth the battle... you have to decide that yourself. There's a saying out there," Don't sweat the small stuff." On the other hand, from a mother's point of view, if the most rebellious act my daughter did was to argue about bra styles, I would count myself a lucky woman. Maybe your mother will realize that it's not worth sweating the small stuff, like what style bra you are wearing.

If all else fails, remember you have only about five years to put up with this. Once you are 18 you can order from Victoria's Secret or go bra less if you want.

Answer 3

give the bras a chance then talk to your mom. Or try and compromise with her and ask her if you paid for them then can you pick them out. Im big chested im a 38 E and I have to have mine specially made and I can tell you my bras are somewhat like the ones you are wearing, the reason is because that is what gives you enough support. I was your size when I was 13 and I wore the pretty bras and now I have to wear the other bras because I dont want saggy boobs when Im much older. Trust me the ones you are wearing are good bras. All though I did get some from Victoria secrets that are very pretty but I paid 50 dollars for each one because of the support that I needed. Good luck

Answer 4

Your mom wants to help you, it's horrible but true. She knows that if you are a C cup now, you could be bigger later. The bigger you are, the harder it is. Your back can ache from the weight of your breasts in a skimpy bra. As for the sweating, you might just want to apply extra antipersperant in key areas. My sisters are both DD and they tell me they wish they could wear pretty bra's like mine, but I'm only a B. They wear bras just like the ones you wear, because they know there isn't a better choice available to them.

Do you have a job like babysitting? Perhaps you could talk to your mom and make a deal that if you pay for it, you get to pick the bra. Don't go out and buy a whole bunch of bras because you'll need to try a few and figure out what works best for you. Chances are the ones your mom chose are the best, but you might like a good quality bra like one from Victoria's Secret. If she won't back down, then just wait, when you're out on your own she won't get to pick your underwear anymore and you can buy whatever you want.

Answer 5

For a start - don't care what your friends think.
If they truely like you, they'll help you through it.
I'm 13 too - My mum was a little restricting with my choice too. I sat her down and spoke to her.. And she gave in. I've been wearing them for quite a while now, and don't get worried - and don't believe the whole "Underwiring makes your breasts mishaped" conspriacy. Mine are fine!

Okay - Now the bra problem.
How long has your mum been acting like this?
If it's only a short while.. She still could give in like mine. If it's been months.. I guess she means business.
I know I don't understand exactally what your going through.. But the bras aren't all that bad. Quite a few girls in my year at school wear that style of bra - But I'm assuming you live in America.
If you still aren't convinced..
You could go shopping with your friends - between them and you, you'll know the right thing to get!
But do get a good quality bra, they're alot more comfty.

Good luck!
[And try not to worry about it!]

Answer 6

Been there, done that, in fifth grade (11) I was a c- cup, and I only WISH my mother had offered me such supportive bras. For one reason, if you don't start off early with really great supportive bras, if you have a large top, they can easyily develop, well for lack of a better word, saggy. Trust me, you don't want this. And if your friends make fun of you for it, asking them why in the world are they looking at what kind of bra you are wearing? That will embarass them enough to get them to stop...Just grin and bare it and you will be so thankful when you get older. Plus when you get older you will be able to wear any kind of bra you want, let your mother take care of this last part of growing up, remember you are her baby! :) Plus here's a really great website for us large chested gals, and yes the bras have four hooks, but some of them are cute too, maybe if you pass it on to your mom she might bend a little==> ladygrace.com Good Luck!!

Answer 7

I have a 13 year old daughter, and other than paying for them , I don't give much thought to what type of bra she wears! That is very strange. Also, the bra she is making you wear is one that is made for women who have had their breast removed surgically!

So, save any money you get and get yourself to the mall, one with a Victoria's Secret. By yourself some pretty, young bras and just make sure they are fully lined. Sounds like your mom doesn't want you to have a nipple accident. Good luck.

Answer 8

your individuals will tease you no count what and that they don't look to be your chum in the event that they are able to make you turn against your mom. the rationalization your mom makes you place on such bra is with the aid of breast help. Wait until you are the right age to alter your bras your self take the help on a similar time as you could. communicate to your mom and permit her understand the form you sense with regard to the bras yet save donning them for the help. you're youthful and don't might desire to break your breast down in the previous time.

Answer 9

Honey wear the bras you will appreciate it when you are older your breast wont be sagging and besides if you are in a C cup at 13 you are going to have huge breast. I wasn't in a C cup until I was like 15. You might as well get used to the good support bras now because that is what you are going to need to wear for the rest of your life. WELCOME TO WOMANHOOD!!!

Answer 10

Wear them for a little while and if you still can't get used to them sit down and talked to your Mom...explain to her that these are very un comfortable and tell her that maybe you and her can make a day out of it and go bra shopping...Make it fun and maybe she will be more willing to compromise. Also tell her that you understand her concern and that you appreciate her for caring so much.