My guy friend won't talk to me because his g/f gets pissed off...?

Question

We've been friends for 3 years. He's been dating the same girl off and on for 3 years. She barely gives him the time of day and last night, she totally flipped. I called him twice for directions, and texted him, a few times in a few hours. Supposedly 2 calls in 3 months is a lot... Last night he told me we can't talk or hang out anymore because he has a g/f. Any suggestions?

i don't want to steal him, he's not my type. and i do respect his relationship...

he's kinda sorta whipped, and his g/f won't talk to me.

Answer 1

You know what...If he said that to you then respect his wishes because obviously his girl gave him an ultimatum and he chose her...Or she was there when he told you that and he will sneak and call you later, but either way, he doesn't see his friendship with you as being important enough to take a stand against his girlfriend.
I dated a guy once who I told him that I didn't want one of his female friends to call and he told me he told her not to call anymore so when she would still call, I would answer the phone and hang up on her after telling her not to call. One day, I had a face to face convo with her because I saw that she was at his house. He had told me that even though he told her not to call, she refused to listen. Well turns out he was just a big liar because he never told her that!!
But since your friend did tell you, I say don't call him anymore because he obviously doesn't cherish your friendship.

Answer 2

Sure, GET A FRIEND! Sometimes we give people labels that make us feel comfortable. And why not it's all about our comfort, right? Wrong,we should be OK with being a little uncomfortable If it can bring us true comfort later. Because when you do this. You start to convert the actions of these people into these very labels. Ask yourself this question, and answer honestly.
If he where truley your friend, why did you only call twice for the month? Then second, ask yourself if there was ever a real friendship how could he walk away that easy? God sends us the message in many ways. It is up to us to recieve it. Don't be in a rush to make or label someone your friend. That is a title that should be earned not given.Because a real friend would have handled this differently. Wish you luck in your search.

Answer 3

ummm... well I am a guy and I myself have had to go through the very same thing... you see, and if you could hear the Alabama accent as talk, we are men and we love women. It is shallow I know but deep down we are primitive. We need food shelter and protection. We need SEX. I know we are a more civilized culture than we were when caveman was president but this is how it is. When she leaves him.. and she will he will call you and apologize and now that I have told you this you need to make the unconscious conscience and tell him what will happen and then he will deny it of course but then when it happens he will know you were right. If you can except this, be his friend. If you can't don't call him anymore for the mere fact that they call this being !@##$ WHIPPED and if it works out you will not have to make a decision cause she still won't let him talk to you.

Answer 4

Sounds like she lacks self esteem and maybe she sees you as a threat in the relationship. Maybe right now just take a step back and let your friend know you are there for him and will always be a friend. But he needs to know that his gf really needs to learn to trust him a little more.

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

Answer 5

Well... I understand that you are upset but I think you should just respect his decision and not talk to him.. I know you may not want to but you should just take it as a compliment since it means his girlfriend feels threatened by you =) lol. You can try working things out.. maybe only hang out with him when she is there too.. But if I were you I wouldn't push it and would just drop it. I'm saying this because I've been in situations like this with my boyfriend and there's times when I ask him not to talk to certain girls and he asks me not to talk to certain guys too.. If he was your boyfriend you might've gotten annoyed or jealous as well, so yeah.. Hope things work out for you, good luck =)

Answer 6

tell her it rather bothers you that she constantly clarifies to him what she asks you. tell her that it bothers you that she constantly talks approximately him. See the place that is going through fact if she rather desires to be with you she will admire the form you sense. you at the instant are not being egocentric yet you may desire to be certain in the event that they have been extra advantageous than in simple terms friends at one time. i don't think of any relationship might desire to be in keeping with somebody from the previous constantly being in touch. It has a tendency to place some hardships on the relationship. My suggestion is communicate along with her approximately it, see how she reacts to it, and if she cares approximately you she will take your emotions into attention.

Answer 7

Don't worry he will get sick of her. Friends are always there for you and he will realize it. Just give him some space and give her the rope to hang herself. If he isn't talking to you then she won't have anything to fight with him about (right) nope she will find something else to fight about and he will see her for the way she is.

Friends are forever, girlfriends are a dime a dozen.

Answer 8

Yea, your not doing anything wrong.. SHES A BITT CONTROLLING!!, If I were you I would ask him if he is happy with her. He should be able to make up his own mind weather or not to talk to you, i mean you two are just friends he doesn' t need to be told what to do.

Answer 9

My advice would be to talk to the g/f yourself and tell her that you have no intentions on dating him or taking him away from him and that he is only a friend....help her to uinderstand that you wish him and her well and no harm. Maybe she will trust you and him talking more.

Answer 10

I have the same problem, and the gf hates me. Talk to the gf and tell her you just wanna be friends. If he is gonna ditch you then screw him and get new friends.