what if he found somone else who does love him and he,s inlove with her.
2006-09-03 16:30:22 · 23 answers · asked by jason of argonant 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I can't speak for anyone else,but as a father who loves his children I can't imagine ever leaving them for anything evan if I was misirable for the rest of my life. But all of my kids were intentional. I think that makes a big difference. I couldn't stand the thought of some other guy raising my kids. Call me old fashined but I believe a real man would stay. I'm 32
2006-09-03 16:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by s.ville 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Question 1: Does his second woman also love his kids?
Else he might find himself in a sticky situation of having 2 lives, one with the woman he loves, one with the children he loves. That would be real messy. So, since he loves his kids, he should stick with his kids, and forget about the second woman.
Question 2: Does he have problems with his wife?
As in, is there tension in the relationship, or is it just a case of 'living together by habit'? If the latter then the kids can take that, if there is tension then the kids will suffer. He should sort out the situation amicably and probably leave and is likely to have to pay for his decision. Would be much better for all parties involved.
Question 3: Was he similarly in love with his wife as he is now with his second woman?
If yes, then he should look back at what happened, and figure out what went wrong, including what he did wrong. If he is reasonably confident he will not repeat the same mistakes, then he could try anew with the second woman, else why would he damage the live of another person?
In sum:
He should leave and be with his new woman if:
1 His new woman also loves his kids
2 There is tension between him and his wife
3 He knows what he did wrong in his present relationship and will not do the same next time.
If not all 3 conditions are satisfied, then he has to weight the pros and the cons, but personally, 1 and 3 should be non-negotiable.
2006-09-04 01:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by ekonomix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man needs to work out what it is that has caused him to seek another relationship. Is he enjoying the highs of a new 'love', then he needs to remember that that changes and life may become humdrum again. Is he finding life with a family difficult? Having children changes everything, it's obviously a big responsibility, lots of stress and he needs to consider if that's what's bothering him. Could the relationship be revived if he was getting enough time to be himself or to enjoy his wife's company?
Maybe the family could have counselling whatever his decision. He needs to make sure his partner and children don't feel deserted by him even if he can no longer live with them.
2006-09-04 00:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by squigglekit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. How old are the kids.If thy're of age, sit down with them and talk to them that mom and dad wont be together as often anymore.If the kids are too young to understand or cant talk, that will be easier,cause you wont have to explain to them.But,no, its not like eveybody stays married who have kids.And you wouldnt be making the kids happy if you and the spouse argued all the time or just didnt talk cause no love there.Think about it.If kids were of age, they wouldnt want to see their parents arguing.You can still show the kids you love them by coming to see them often,and you will be happy to get out of the rlsp with your spouse.It all works out in the end.But get out of the rlsp if you're seeing someone else.And they have divorces for a reason.No one wants to be unhappy in a rlsp.
2006-09-03 23:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Peaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i don't think it is, as children pick on things, especially when things are not right between there parents,also arguements are not good in front of them, i think its better in the long run that the parents spit, and see the kids, all the time........they adjust. Children understand more than we give them credit for.good luck and hope that all with work out for your all cheers
2006-09-03 23:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough decision..
What did the mother of the children do wrong ?
If nothing and man is just looking for new conquest then
shame on him....Stay with kids...
2006-09-03 23:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to sacrifice his own feelings for the sake of the lives he has created. To do otherwise is selfish anf harmful to the children.
2006-09-04 00:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by waycyber 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is sad and dishonest to live a lie, no matter the reason. A parent has a responsiblity to teach the children to deal with problems, not to hide from them.
2006-09-03 23:35:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no mate i did for a while but it doesnt help in the long run youve got to think about the kids it aint healthy for them if you dont love your girl but most of all do what you feels wright only you can make that all important decision good look
2006-09-04 05:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by rovers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound to me like the dude is a real creep. Whatever he may feel about his wife and the woman he's cheating with, he owes his children. He owes them his allegiance, his income and his personal attention. They didn't ask to be born to an immature son of a b*tch father who thinks with his penis! Next time you see this guy, tell him to get his head out of his behind!
2006-09-03 23:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋