Is it right or wrong to go out with my friends with out my husband ? when he comes along people come up and ask hey why are you leaveing your husband alone like that? I really never get to spend anytime with my friends and when I do that's what I do .. we spend 24-7 with one another and I love him very much but , why can't he just give me my time? He says I am safer when he's with me , But I'm a big girl I can take care of my self...
2006-09-03 16:23:28 · 23 answers · asked by squishie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is nothing wrong with going out with your friends every once in awhile, but you have to also keep that in mind if he decides to go out with the boys too.
2006-09-03 16:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right you are a big girl and he's just most likely insecure. Try talking to him tell him how you feel about him and how much you love him a the family you all have build together and then tell him that even though you love him and everything else you also need your girl time.And then maybe compromise by he doesn't mind you going out just not to a club or bar. Maybe you can find other places that you and your girls can go and have a good time like lunch or shopping, things like that find out for him what his biggest deal is about you going out with your friends and then try to came to some understanding.
2006-09-03 23:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay there is right and wrong to this....yes you are an individual and should be aloud your "space".....but honey how much space do you need you are married right....no offense but i am talking from experience, I loved my husband dearly but now after 12 years and 2 children we are looking at divorce...you know why?...he was the one in our relationship that needed all that "space"....I was receptive to it but some what skeptical....to find out his intentions were not originally to find someone...but guess what ...he did and ...it happened...over and over again...you see when you are married you really are becoming one and to me if one can't go why should the other....there is more power and less temptation in two individuals opposed to one out there all along with no one ( the other half) to help them resist that temptation....it really boils down to respect...yes you are a big girl but how would you feel if he was the one always wanting to get with the boys....think about it...we say we can handle things but when the tables turn we aren't so quick to agree with that persons right to all of that "space" that they claim they need...One more thing...once we are married we have to move on from our single days...you just can't hang like you use too...and that's real...you should be with your husband and other couples...dear this is just not fair to your husband...I hope this helps...
2006-09-03 23:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by latonia m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey its great that your husband says that your safer with him, it's cute, but you are a big girl and you need some time apart. If he's so concerned, then just call him every hour or so to let him know your ok. Go have fun with your friends, enjoy life.
2006-09-03 23:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question asked by both sexes in the past and for a very long time to come. I believe that if there is communication and trust between the both of you then you should have you "Girls Night Out" However, the same should be given to him as well. You know the guys "Poker Game" thing. Then there is the day or night set aside just for the both of you "Date Night" I kinda see where your hubby comes from in trying to protect you cause it's a guy thing. I feel the same towards my wife but she took care of herself long before I came along. It helps me to remind myself of that before I smother her.
2006-09-03 23:37:32 · answer #5 · answered by styngray32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't go out either i have two kids. my husband says the same thing about being safe with him i guess it depends on where you are going like to dinner or a movie should be ok. clubs maby not ok just because stuff can happen when there's drunk people out at night and since u have kids you shouldn't get your self into a possible dangerous situation. but during the day is ok i go out shopping and stuff without him all the time.just carry mace if you go out at night because there's allot of weirdos all over the place.
2006-09-03 23:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by L.A. WOMAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO OUT!!! It's one of the things that will keep your marriage strong in the long run. Party and have fun with friends. Dance, but not 1:1 with other men. Shop. Dinner. Movies. ...
My wife does girls night out about once a month and is so much happier when she does. I go out with my guy friends two or three times a month after work for happy hour.
You need it! Do it for you and for him.
2006-09-04 00:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ketel One Up 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are with him does he get quality husband / wife time? Lover time? Are his needs getting met? Not the needs the you think he needs but his needs?
All too often women mistake time with the FAMILY as time with the HUSBAND... these are two different things.
It is possible that he clings to you because he wants some undivided attention from the woman that he CHOSE to bind the rest of his life to.
To answer your question though... as long as the MARRIAGE is tended to (not just the family) then yes, it is reasonable to have time with the girls.
2006-09-03 23:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should absolutely have some "just the girls" time. Don't be excessive about it, and return the favor. Give him a guys nite out occasionally. And be very careful......his behavior is one of the classic signs of an abuser. Do not allow him to isolate you from your friends and/or family.
2006-09-03 23:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be able to go out and have some fun with your friends. Love can not last unless there is trust along with that love. If he loves you he will trust you out by yourself with your friends so you can have some time alone.
2006-09-03 23:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by littlegirls_2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋