My wife is bent on destroying our family and refuses to get any treatment or read any books. I am willing to get the same tests/help or what ever just to get her in. Who knows, I may be the crazy one. I have read Dr Laura's books, Dr. Phil's books (I even got asked to be on the show. Because she would not go, he would not help. Boo for him.) I have even contacted Robi Ludwig (she is expensive) I have even ordered a few books online to no avail. She believes she is saving "her children" as she calls them from abuse. Don't ask, I don't get it. My three boys 6,9 &10 have a very good life with the exception of the mounting tension. I don't know who to ask for help. We have been to 3 psychologist and they just seem to make matters worse. I fear for my boys safety at this point because only a crazy woman would be so destructive to her marriage and family. Any suggestion? How and who do I see for treatment if she refuses?
2006-09-03 16:20:36 · 10 answers · asked by col. mustard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes if a person is not willing to get help there is no way to really make someone go. But if you are in fear of your children safety, get out! Their needs ultimately should be taken first and get them out of that situation to provide the stability they deserve.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-03 16:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crazy people don't know that they are crazy.
Have you tried marriage and family counseling? You don't have to force her to go to a psychologist, but maybe if you just said "counseling" she would take it better. If the counselor thought that your wife needs additional help, he/she could give a referral to other professionals. If your wife is abusing your children, then you should take action immediately - you could try calling Social Services as a first step. If she is truly acting "crazy" there may be a way to commit her involuntarily for a short period of time (just a day or two but long enough to run a psychiatric evaluation). Call the local hospital about what can be done.
2006-09-03 16:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must be very trying for you.
My first thought is....
to get down on your knees and pray. Your family needs help and protection for each and every one of you.
I'd try to get some professional help from you local church ministry or another one if you are not comfortable with that, or a professional Christian agency...or a counselor who could advise you what are some possibilities.
I am so sorry your wife is mentally ill. I pray she and your family will receive help and healing.
2006-09-03 16:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
REally if you are afraid...maybe a seperation/divorce is needed...to figure out who needs what. You can't force anybody to do anything...everybody has the same rights...so do what's best for you and your kids and hopefully things will work out in the end for you. Good luck.
2006-09-03 16:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by Apple Blossom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start documenting her behavior and file for divorce. If this situation is as bad as you say then you should have no problem getting your boys, especially if she refuses treatment. Good luck
2006-09-03 19:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really tell what she is doing. Do you have any other family that could help you out. What does the kids say about there Mom. What kinda crazy things does she do?
2006-09-03 16:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure how your wife feels about church but thats one avenue you havent wrote about as it somtimes has a relaxing effect to know somone else cares even more and somwhere you can take your worries to.... short of that i suggest you go to counseling by your self although you are not at issue as much as she you can bennifit from the assitance and tutoring they can offer for you to try at home and also it helps you as many people with mental sick spouses often do when trying to cope.....
2006-09-03 16:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you take any responsibility for her problems? Maybe you are her problem ! You are very quick to judge her, take a good look at yourself before you insult her in that
manner. What has she done that would merit such a question?
2006-09-03 16:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not described "exactally" what she does here but if its really really bad u can (being her husband) sign her into a mental hospital (If she is a threat to herself or others).
2006-09-03 17:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by Hilllbilly_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have her admitted
2006-09-03 17:10:28 · answer #10 · answered by don;t know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋