death?? :(?

Question

Ok well reciently i just found out that my dad has cancer and has only 5months to live... My mum is so shattered and im so upset but im worried and scared and every mixed emotion you can have right now.. Im scared, my dad will be gone forever and what will happen when his gone? Will my mother need help?? My had is 50 in jan and my mum just turned 43. Im almost 21.. My dad might not see his 50th :(

How do i try to be happy everyday? Knowing when your father is going to die is sad and it makes me so mad??

Answer 1

My father just passed away recently. He was in an accident. Being happy everyday is very hard. Spend as much time with your dad as you can. Say everything that needs to be said. Do not let him go and have regrets about what you did not say to him. Tell him how much you love him, and how much he has meant to you in your life. If there are any issues in your relationship with him, clear them up, their not worth it. Your mom will need your help. She is going to need your emotional support. And she may need advice on things.
Just remember your dad is not gone yet. He may live longer than 5 months. That is just an estimate, not a promise. LIfe is so precious and so short. Take hold of what time you do have, and make the most of it.

Answer 2

So much to say .. Just let him go in peace when the time comes.. but for now spend what time you can with him. As for the future you and your mom will find a way. Do not try or pretend to be happy.. it would be harder for all. Be thankful for the 21 years you have had together. My father died when I was 4, so try living a life without a father and wandering what it would have been like to have a father. Yes you can make it on memories.....

Answer 3

You probably can't be happy every day. But this upcoming tragedy can serve as a way for you to tell your dad how much he means to you, what he's taught you, and how much you appreciate him.

Don't concentrate on the end. Try to get as much out of the time you have left with him. It's ok to cry, but also try to treasure these times. Spend time with him, just the two of you. Do things with him that mean a lot to both of you. Maybe talk to him about his childhood, younger years. Write those things down so you'll have them to relate to your future children (that way they'll have an idea of what their grandfather was like). Maybe even tape record him (or videotape him) if he's willing.

By doing these things, you may be able to temporarily take your mind off the anger you feel at being cheated out of losing him.

I'm very sorry for what you will be going through. Oh, and talk to your mom, too. She may want to share her feelings with you, but if she doesn't, don't push it.

Answer 4

death is a very hard to deal with espec ially when it's in a sentence like your fathers case first let me tell you that i'm very sympathetic for you and your family.my mom passed away when i was 19 she was only 35 with breast cancer at my age i didn't handle it well i was so angry i took it out on her do i ever regret that,if i could do it all again iwould say all the things i never got to say and make her last day's memorable my advice to you is love your family and try to make the best of the worst get the video camera out and video tape happy moments with him and if he's real sick at htis time let him know how much you love him and appreciate all he's done for you in your life being a parent is not easy.pray with him and try not to give your mom any problems this is the worst time in her life.i will keep your family in prayer sorry i hope and pray that your dad's D r. can be proven wrong a nd that your father goes into remission.

Answer 5

Being mad is normal and being sad is to be expected. The loss of a parent is devastating at best. I have lost both of my parents so I do understand loss. Your mother will need support from family and friends as you will. You and your mother can draw strength from each other by being supportive through all of this. As far as being happy EVERY day, you won't. But life does go on and you will have good days as well as bad. Trust me when I tell you that in time things will get better. Or at least you will be able to cope. You also can draw on the good times you and your father shared. Sweet memories. Good luck.

Answer 6

Hey,
This is a very hard road you are about to travel but you will survive. My father passed away last year with lung cancer. it was hard to watch him suffer, but spend as much time with him, remember all the great times you have had, and mums willbe ok b/c she has you. At least you have this time to prepare.My father in law just passed away completely unexpected just last saturday, that was much worse b/c noone was prepared for it. Losing someone you love is always hard, just remeber they are going on to a better place.

Answer 7

i am so sorry. 1. you need to pray, pray pray. just pray that everything will be ok pray that god keeps your father safe and he can watch over the family. 2. go to the hospital as much as you can and make your family do it to. to spend a lot of time with him. 3. be a little happy, i know it's very hard but just think where you dad is going to go. it's a sad time yes. but. it can also be very happy. your dad is going to be ok there and when he goes he would want you to be happy to. 4. go to church a lot. you will find going more will give you a lot of faith you need now. all in all just try to deal as well as you can. spend as much time with your dad as you can and pray. i hope i could help you. i'll pray for you.

Answer 8

You have a right to feel the way that you are feeling now, be kind to yourself, get it all out when you are on your own so you can be brave when you are with your father. You and Mum will get through this together one footstep at a time.

Answer 9

try and make the rest of the time with him grateful. tell him thanks for everything he did for you when you were a kid. even the small things like giving you a piggybak ride when you legs hurt, or kissing a booboo when fall off your scooter. tell him how much of a difference he made in your life. then live the rest of his life out. go out just you and him. hope this helps, sorry for your almost loss

Answer 10

well i was 15 when my dad died of a heart attack. i was sad for a long time ,but i thanked god for my mom. and i know that i will see my dad again one day. so you spent time with your dad while he is still here on earth and everything will be alright.