I have been talkin to this man on line for over a year now and we have fallen in love and want to meet in person to see if there is a possibility that things could go further and i am concerned about my weight. I am not fat but I am tall (5" 10) and thick about the size of Queen Latifah but with a little more hips than she has. And I am worried that he will be disappointed with me....he has seen several pictures of me but it is not like seeing someone in person. Advise welcome from men and women.
2006-09-03 16:05:13 · 25 answers · asked by exceptionallyexceptional 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First I would like to say that you sound beautiful too me! Your honesty shows through your words :)
Its normal to feel self conscious about your body shape as that is what society has done to all off us. I know I have always felt less than good enough because I don't fit into a size 5 jean!! It takes alot of self loving to fix all the damage that has been done over the years by society and the media.
If you have been talking to this man for so long, he has seen your picture, you have been honest with him, then I don't think you have anything to worry about concerning your size. Go meet him with confidence and all the loving you feel for him and he will see that, not the weight you think is a problem. Be proud of who you are and what you look like. Good luck with your future! *hugs*
2006-09-03 16:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl, let me tell u.. i know how u feel as i too have met people in the past from the internet i have very low selfesteem about myself, and i can take what i call "a good picture" that doesnt show ALL of me that i have a problem with.. but with all my worries and all my self doubts about myself, never did i have anyone say they werent happy with how i looked.. if they are that shallow to not see u through their heart and after all that u've gone through in knowing this person from a far sharing alot of intimate conversations u probably know each other like a book.. if hes any type of Real man he'll love u for everything u are inside and out.. be proud of who u are, and realize if he cant be proud of you then its his loss.. i bet after u meet and u let him know how crazy u made urself over this he is going to laugh and tell u , u were silly for thinking such a thing..
2006-09-03 16:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Since he's seen your pictures he already has an idea what u look like. Besides, there's nothing more sexy to a man than a woman who has self confidence and if he liked your personality during your correspondence then more power to you! Just be yourself and look your best and don't worry about anything else. Enjoy and I wish u luck!
P.S. A lot of men love women who have shape.
2006-09-03 16:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself ... after all he fell in love with the person you are, online dating is extremely hard because you are both having communicate more then you would face to face. Go there with confidence, and allow things naturally take their course.
I wish you luck sweetie and remember he knows what you look like already
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-03 16:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it First off if he can't appreciate a thick well rounded sistah then fu ck him.Secondly wear something that extenuation's your positives for example if you big beautiful breast then where something with a v-neck. you say you have big hips and i find that most men like a woman with nice thick hips where something form fitting around your hips.What ever you like about you the most or the thing that you seem to always get complements about bring what ever it is out in what you wear your make-up, the way you wear your hair etc... and be your wonderful self and like i said if he is not feeling you on the looks then fu ck him
2006-09-03 16:17:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you have fallen in love..... that's different than being truly loving and accepting of each other.
You need much more time in person to really know if you love each other. It would seem if you loved each other, this would not be a hidden part of your relationship. And what he he holding back from you? It seems like there are issues to be talked about and come to an understanding.
Be yourself and take your time. Get to truly know each other.
2006-09-03 16:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi....it is always awkward to meet someone for the first time.
If you can, buy yourself a cam, and talk on line using the cam. He will then truly know what you look like....and you can even stand and model for him....which could be fun....but most of all, will assure you, prior to meeting, that he does really want to meet you and likes what he sees.
He doesn't have to buy a cam to see you. Only you need one. You can connect to the cam through yahoo messenger....it works great.
I personally would never meet a person unless I have seen him on cam and definitely would want him to see what I looked like prior to us meeting.
I'm sure you have nothing to worry about, after a year talking I'm sure he cares for you a lot, but why have that kind of anxiety prior to meeting.....when a cam can solve your concerns.
Good luck and I hope it works out for the two of you.
2006-09-03 16:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_n_friendly_0000 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He has seen pictures of you and he knows the real you. At this point I don't think you have to be worried about looks. He likes you for the person you are, not your physical appearence.
2006-09-03 16:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been honest with your size and he has seen pictures of you. if after you meet and he is not attracted, he is not the one for you. He is too superficial. It seems like you have made a mental and emotional connection already. Hopefully, they will overide anything physical. Who knows, he might have lied about his height and how much money he makes.
2006-09-03 16:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by ilovegne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is just a case of butterflies and insecurities. If there is a really connection then he will devour you, if he is just shallow and was expecting something other than what you have told him then you are better off without him.
Honey it all rests on your shoulders, be confident, know that your a goddess and wow him will your essence, you will be FINE!!!!
2006-09-03 16:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by peacein 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋