She is divorced and gets $1900 a month child support AND 30% of her ex-husbands bonuses which average another $1200 a month. She constantly gives in and buys her boy and girl (age 12, 13) anything they want,, they whine they want a pool cuz the neighbors have one, she gets them one. They want to watch TV in the bathroom, she lets them string extension cord into the bathroom across the floor and the boy trips and TV falls and smashes, luckily NOT into the tub! She buys the girl a new TV, a plasma TV!! They do not do chores. She does not make her daughter who NEEDS a bra, wear a bra or shave her underarms!! Her son stole money from her purse and sisters drawer to buy levels on internet computer games, $600 and he was not punished and still plays World of Warcraft online until 2 a.m. She constantly wants MORE $ from her ex for all the stuff the kids need, school supplies, clothes, etc. (isn't that what Child support is earmarked for??)
2006-09-03 15:57:19 · 18 answers · asked by strawbarryblondee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The dad is in the picture and divorced her due to her never disciplining the kids or setting limits or being consistent. He does NOT allow the kids to pull the "Gimmee" crap when they are with him. So they will say they "don't want to go to dad's" cuz he wont give in and so she wont make them go on his designated weekends/nights.
2006-09-03 16:26:52 · update #1
Wow a guilty mother is what we have here.. a mother who feels so guilty for her children being the product of a divorced marriage that shes trying to compensate by giving them everything that they want to try and fill the void of living in a divorced family..
This is not good what she's doing, she is teaching them nothing about responsibility, and making them into very materialistic people, eventually when they get older she's going to wonder why her children are running all over her, how come they cant hold a job, running with the wrong crowds, end up doing drugs, and partying instead of going to school.. because its the "in thing" to do .. and she'll ask her self a million times where did she go wrong and she'll find the x husband to blame and expect him to come to the rescue and fix all the damage she's caused because she raised irresponsible children.. i know this cause my mother did this to my younger half brother..and he quit school, got hooked on drugs, at 16 he got a car bought for him and took off acrossed country.. he's had alotttttttt of speeding tickets, he's had to go to court for drugs, and he's 24 and he just moved back in with my mother, and the times he tried living on his own he came close to eviction several times and his father or my mother would bail him out every time.. he was given everything, at one point she handed him the c/s money to do with as he wished..
She will reap what she sews later trust me, no good can come of this.. its one thing to want to give ur kids the world its another not to back it up with responsiblility, and making them save for things and work for things in life.. she's spoiling them and they are actting like spoiled little brats..
2006-09-03 16:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our children will be programmed by how we are as parents. Those children unfortunately do not live in a positive reality. They are craving structure and guidance NOT a best friend. Tell her to go to www.CenterForEmpowerment.com it will teach her the tools to be a better person, parent, and live a positive life. She is obviously over indulging because she does not have a positive opinion about herself.
2006-09-03 16:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by Giselle G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spoiled spoiled spoiled and when they grow up she will have her hands full with a bratty children she needs help but she wont becuase she is buying her children trying to compensate for the lack of parenting she is doing and posibly trying to get the kids to love her more then the ex husband
2006-09-03 16:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support is for the child's needs,yes it's good to be able to buy all kinds of thing for your kids,but I think Mom is buying to keep the kids out of her hair,because she is not making sure of her kids hygiene.
2006-09-03 16:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad....the kids are NOT going to ever be able to deal with reality & will be holding their hands out for more & more until the parents are dead. The mom will be saying "what is wrong with them I gave them everything"...yet, that is exactly what IS wrong with them.
Sounds like they need Dr. Phil ;-)
2006-09-03 16:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering who is asking the question and knows all this information. Are you dating the father of these children?
2006-09-03 16:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you give a child everything they will never be able to provide for themselves. Its alot like respect if you dont give it you wont get it.
2006-09-03 16:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by burtonsgrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just want to make up of the lacking of father love to her children..
2006-09-03 16:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people think that doing that for their kids is great parenting, go figure.
2006-09-03 16:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like guilt to me. Too much guilt and maybe a little show off to the ex?
2006-09-03 16:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by mscarlybobarlysmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋