That is doing everything she can to break up a marriage. I would appreciate ANY help.
2006-09-03 15:48:41 · 12 answers · asked by linluv2001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is trying to break up our marriage. There is no money involved.
2006-09-03 16:04:59 · update #1
No she has her own home
2006-09-03 16:07:16 · update #2
First off who's marriage, ur marriage or her own.. can u give alittle more specifics?
Ok now that ive read ur added details i know where to go with my answer..
Im a child of a divorced couple, im a step daughter, and im a step mother so i think i may have a good grasp on all view points..
Your step daughter is still young although shes an adult and playing house herself u know just as well as i know she isnt actually an "ADULT" yet..
She sees u as someone that has stolen her fathers affections from her, even though shes grown and gone on with her own life, these are things she's probably harbored within her since u first came into the picture however long ago..
I hated my step mother for years but i was also young , and stupid and a minor when she came into my life... but after alot of time and patience on my step mothers part, today i love her just as much as i do my biological mom, and i call her MOM.. She was always there for me when i needed her even though i treated her so badly... so my advice to u, is to be smarter then the child.. dont do anything wrong, but use ur brain to fight off her ignorance.. and always do what is Right even if u do want to smack her upside her head at times..
The problem i see is your husband.. ur husband needs to have a sit down with his daughter and let her know that in your house she will treat you , him and ur marriage with respect.. that u are a united front and that if your presence isnt welcome then neither is he, he needs to stand firmly by ur side, the only time his daughter should ever come before you is if She is in harms way then any parent would chose their child over their spouse.. but on day to day bases he needs to be the one to stand firm and treat u with the respect that you deserve and to draw a line in which she can not pass.. If your husband is a religious man point it out in the bible to him their is a part that says NO OTHER even including children, Is to ever come before your spouse.. IF he stands firm and doesnt let his childs immaturity and lack of respect come between u, u will all win.. she will see she cant destroy u, and she will eventually stop in time.. but try not to hold this against her, please remember that although shes an adult she is still thinking with child mentality, and she may need u someday and she will realize that all her stupidity was for nothing and one day appologize to u for it, if u are the bigger person, and always do what is right..
2006-09-03 15:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you and your hubby will have to agree on a strategy. If the young woman is married with a child,she should have more respect for you as a woman. she's jealous cause she's not Daddy's little girl anymore. Your husband needs to nip that in the bud right now. And I would suggest that when she comes over, say hello, be polite for a few minutes and have somewhere you have to go to give them plenty of time to visit together without you. Godloveya!
2006-09-03 23:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is trying to break upYOUR marriage by competing with your for your husband's time and attention, then tell her exactly that ,and that there is no competition. Tell her you are aware they have a close relationship. It is probably part of what you find endearing about him, tell her that too. Don't get into a back and forth on specific examples. just firmly ask her to not do whatever it is that is introducing toxicity into your marriage.
If it's talking about you behind your back. or coming over unannounced. tell her .
Tell your husband first that you intend to talk to his daughter about how her behavior impacts you. Have a dialogue with him that you need him to back you for the sake of your relationship.
That will show you where everybody stands ..
2006-09-03 22:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by earthling4luv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's marriage is she trying to break up?
Get a backbone. Your marriage comes first.
2006-09-03 22:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by YourAnswer... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whos marriage is she trying to break up??? if its her you need to explain to her what it will do to her child?/ when did she get married?? she shouldnt of got married if she was not sure. id talk with her and tell her to get with the program
2006-09-03 22:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by angel eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would do is left it alone and let her deal with her problems. she is not old eought to learn things on her own and her mistake. but at least that you are there supporting her for a while. like she can stay at your place for a little bit until she get back on her feet.
2006-09-03 22:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by jwtaz1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what I'd do with your 23 yr old step-daughter. Tee hee
2006-09-03 22:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by Andy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you had the mother to daughter kick *ss conversation yet?Let her know that your not going to put up with it.Start doing and saying the same **** that she is doing to you right back to her hubby see if she like it.Turn about is fare game.
2006-09-03 23:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. Hopefully your husband is not listening to her. She is just jealous and afraid that her inheritance will be spent.
2006-09-03 22:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by leyte6519 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your marriage is strong then it will not end, talk to you spouse about it. in the mean time ignore her
2006-09-03 23:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by susie ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋