Im going to a new school and this other girl is going too, but we're not that close really... so im not planning to hang with her that much if i make more friends... HOLYYY S*** IM SOOO SCAREDD!!!!!! i know NOBODY at the school except for her and she is meeting someone at school on the first day... im sooooo scared there going to think im a loser..Im so scared the fact that she is soo chatty and she aready has someone when im going to be a loner!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WDF SOULD I DO??? how do i make more friends on the first day so i dont have to sit alone in the cafeteria**?? what should i do?? hang with her and her friend or find new ones.. because in my old school people said she was a bad person. please answer mee?? how do i make friends? what do i do? im a very shy person and i dont know what to say... please help me. im going to highschool gr 9. thanks soooo muchh.. thnxthnxthnxthnxthnxthnx thnx thnx soooo muchh!!! IM SOOO SCARED!!!!!
2006-09-03 15:42:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Relax. Smile. Go to your classes, pay attention, apply yourself, ask questions, answer questions asked to you... just put one foot in front of the other. Don't latch on to anyone just because you're lacking in the self-confidence department. You'll do great. You always do.
2006-09-03 15:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by rocken_heimer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are about to go to a new school then think about it..you can make a new reputation for yourself. If she is a bad person, then you cant use her to help you, she will wind up putting the same label on you and more than likely try to use you because she will think you need her. Gather some courage, watch people in your first class and pick one that, as far as you can tell, is nice. Just concentrate on that one person, after class ask her/him where your next class is, and then pick something about the teacher that you liked or disliked and start a conversation. Small talk is a great way to break the ice. After that, if you have picked a nice person, they will pick up on how ice you are and they wont leave you alone. You will have a seat at lunch and someone to talk to. Just be careful not to throw yourself on them and totally take up thier time. If you sit with them at lunch, make small talk with thier freinds also, dont pose a threat as to split up thier group. Just work with it, be nice and you will make freinds. Good luck sweetie.
2006-09-03 22:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by codynmeg1165 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look around. find someone who looks like they feel about like you do, and ask to sit with them. We moved the end of my junior year in high school to a school where everybody had been together since 7th grade (it was junior and senior high combined). I was a MAJOR outsider. LOL But I made friends because a) I was different, and b), I ended up sitting in the cafeteria at a table people had already established as "their regular table" (I got there first and was intending to sit alone). When everyone started to sit down, I simply said hi, I'm new, hope you don't mind if I sit here. They didn't. I made an entire table full of friends. :) Good luck honey. chin up!! :)
2006-09-03 22:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not hang out with someone that is a bad person. Choose your friends wisely because they will influence the path your life will take. For instance hang out with potheads, you become a pothead, hang out with the brainy students, you become brainy, hang out with cheerleaders, you become like them. My recommendation is figure out the type of life you want and chose the friends that will lead to to find that life. I don't associate with anyone from highschool anymore. So remember that most of your friends from high school won't be there later in your life but they can alter how your life will turn out. Every one feels scared when they enter into ninth grade but I promise, you will make friends and in the long run, it doesn't matter if they are popular or nerdy. Things chance once you leave highschool and when you are older, no one cares iabout your highschool years. Good luck
2006-09-03 22:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by kymberly_smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. Don't hang with other girl. You will be judged by what type of Friends you keep. Not only that,but,you may find a new Friend easier,without her hanging around her. Besides that,she will know that you just trying to use her. That can be worse than being alone.
2006-09-03 22:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared. Going to a new school may be a very good experience for you. Be confident and believe in yourself. Do what you can to make new friends. Approach people, introduce yourself, don't wait for people to approach you.
Who cares what people say about the other girl?Don't go by what others say. Who's to say you might meet this girl and end up really liking her. Find out for yourself, she just might be a very nice girl.
Does that help? :0)
2006-09-03 22:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared. Just keep cool and being a good girl. The people will know who really the good or bad sooner or later. Don't worry, and try be with some of your classmates. Talk with them about something, offer them some candy bars or something just to get your attention and feelings to you. Besides, you are not going to school just for friends, you are going to school for education, right? so focus on your studies and don't bother to think about her.
2006-09-03 22:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by whitesilk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. High schools not hat bad. Just chill with the girl untill you find someone else to hang with. If you plan on making more freinds you gottaa be outgoing people will walk all over you if your shy.
2006-09-03 22:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by B4U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could start a good conversation with someone in your first class... Maybe they'll have lunch the same time that you do... The only real way to make friends is to talk to people... although you might get lucky and someone will start talking to you... good Luck either way..
2006-09-03 22:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by secret agent lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frist of all..going to a new school is not as bad as you are making it to be.
Second you have to be cool. don't let others see how freaked you are.
Third have your own style and be calm cool and collected.
Fourth is talk to people be very out goiing. but don't force a friendship with people you just met.
Fifth be positive!!
2006-09-03 22:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by All Of the Above 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋