Pregnant At 16?

Question

Ok ther is this guy at my skool that is like reeeeeelllllyyy!!!!!! hot (Lol) He likes me so I decided to date him. On our first date I went to his house and we watched a movie. In the middle of the movie he said something in Italian that I couldnt understand but of course i just said yes. He started touching my butt. I told him i had to go to the bathroom. SO i went and there was no lock on the door. I was just finishing going pee and he walked in while my pants were down and i stood up and we started making out. Soon enough it turned into s.ex without condoms and now I am I 2 weeks pregnant!!! what do I do about this. Abortion, Orphanage, anything else? I dont want my family 2 know!

Answer 1

Your previous question said that you were pregnant because your ugly boyfriends brother tied you to the bed and then your boyfriend raped you while you were tied down?????

then you got all defense about "WHY WOULD I LIE ABOUT THIS??!"

silly rabbit. seriously... do you have nothing better to do other than fantasize about the many ways you want to be knocked up??

Answer 2

I had my first child at 17 and it was rough.I hid it from my mother and that wasn't a wise decision I made.Hiding it is wrong and I was scared and knew that she would be upset.I would never advise a woman to give the baby up for adoption.It can be good for some but what if the baby ended up in the wrong hands.Sure it could end up with a loving family but is it something that you may later regret.I think that it is something that you should discuss with him,a friend or even your parents.I had a rough life,lost a lot of friends and didn't get to grow as a person first and enjoy life on my own first.We are talking about a baby here that is a lot of responsibility.I won't say to get rid of it but it's your choice and you have to decide what you really want to do.P.S what a jerk to not use a condom and think of the consequences on what could happen.I can't say it's just him you had the power to say no.I been there so I can't criticize.It's to late for should've would've etc.but I wish you the best.

Answer 3

well, when i was sixteen i got pregnant and got an abortion...dont judge everyone makes mistakes..some bigger than others. I had an abortion and there isnt a day that goes by that i dont think about what i did. I didnt believe in abortions or anything like that until i was in that position and i was soo freaked out i didnt make a rash one.. reality doesnt set in until about a week after....Honestly, not only does it f.u.c.k. with your emotions cuz after awhile you realize you murdered your own flesh and blood...some poor helpless baby that was clingling to life in your body...but physically....the doctors said i wouldnt be able to have kids but i got lucky....not that i deserve a second chance but i got one..im 18 and 12 weeks also. Please...if there is one thing i could go back and redo...it would be the abortion...please dont do it...i know it seems like your parents are gonna kill you and disown you and blah blah blah...and honeslty i understand if that is your case cuz my childhood was not the best....but they will get over it...but i promise if you have an abortion...you'll never ever forgive yourself and when you decide to get pregnant if you can again....emotionally you will always have to ask yourself this question..who am i to have said that my first baby must die...but that my second may live. If you need some more help you can email me. Good luck sweetie.

Answer 4

The only way to get out of this without your family finding out is Abortion or running away. Neither of these is a good choice. If you were to have a secret abortion, you would have none of the emotional or physical support you would need and you would be plagued with guilt and sorrow for many many years to come. What you need to do is sit down and talk to your mom or dad and tell them what happened. Make sure that they know how sorry you are and that you are ashamed of your irresponsible behavior. They will help you make the decision about whether to keep this child (a hard choice, and will change your life forever both for the good and for the bad) or whether to give the baby up for adoption (also a hard choice, and will change your life forever). You also need to have this young man sit down with you and your parents and his parents if you decide to keep the baby to determine what if any role he will play in the baby's life. He will need to pay child support even if he doesn't want to be a dad.
You have the option of going "to visit an aunt" for this school year or be homeschooled if you don't want anyone outside your immediate family to know about this if you are going to go with the adoption route. There are many "camps" or "retreat" type places that will take you in while you are pregnant if you are planning to give the baby up for adoption.
You were grown up enough to have sex, so you need to be grown up enough to take responsibility for the consequences. Your parents may be mad at first, but if you share with them your fear that they will hate you for this, they will reassure you soon enough that they will always love you.
Bless you dear. Good luck

Answer 5

well what do you want ? are you ready for a baby ?could you take care of the baby I know where your coming from I got pregnant at 16 and my boyfriend left me and I was going to get an abortion because I didn't want my parents to find out and then they found out but I decided not to get it done he is now 7 and I wouldn't change a thing I am now 24 and am engaged and have 3 children and am going to college So you can still have a great life it just depends on whether you can or want to grow up real fast if you dont then consider adoption or other options just dont keep a baby your going to neglect it cant defend its self. just don't try to keep it to yourself if your keeping it you need to see the doctor right away. 12 weeks is kinda late for an abortion but its still possible just make sure whatever you decide is going to be a choice you can live with if your parents aren't understanding then talk to someone at planned parenthood for council I wish you the best of luck

Answer 6

While you're reading this I hope that you're in a relaxed state and breathing calmly. I hope that this can at least alleviate the anxiety that you are feeling right now.

When things that make our lives change happen usually our first reaction is to jerk up in a defensive position and panic. I hope that you're through with this stage and you're ready to embibe in what I have to say.

Ok you're 16 you're pregnant and your folks don't have a single clue as to what is happening. The best is to let your parents know about this. Yes, they may either get angry, cry or react negatively but let them. The shock will subside eventually and sooner they will be able to come into terms with what is happening with you. Let this situation pass through your ears for the moment.

Families are there no matter what happens to you. I hope that you remember that. But that is just the tip of the iceberg dear. There are people out there who will try to hurt you through their scorn and bitterness and one sidedness. Just let them. Theyre' trying to vent out their frustrations on you.

Just let them you know better than that. LIfe can be tougher.

But here's a thing that will really lighten up your day. You see my mom was 16 when she had me. And it was tough because she had to raise me on her own. The good thing is that today and I am 30 by the way is that she's my best friend. I realized that she has the best age right now is that because we don't treat each other as parent and child but rather as comrades. That's the good thing about having a mom with a young age. They can relate to my feelings.

Smile cause you'll be having a tough day ahead and you know it and you're prepared for it

Answer 7

(added more info) It is best if you talk to someone in confidence (a pastor, a counselor, or someone else that you feel comfortable with). Then, if not before, talk to the baby's father as he is as resonsible for this situation as you are! I wouldn't recommend an abortion for your first option until you have completely thought it through. From personal experience, that decision weighs in your mind for a LONG time. Also, contrary to popular belief, it is not too late to have an abortion. Most places will give one until you are 20 weeks, however, they are very FEW that will give one I think until 24 weeks. But in any case, if you decide that's what you're going to do, you shouldn't wait that late-it can cause more health and emotional complications than if you had it earlier. If you believe you cannot go through with an abortion, then adoption may be in your best interest. But no one can make that decision for you. Don't worry-your parents DO need to know. They can provide the best support than anyone else. When I got pregnant again, my mother was angry with me and my daughter's father, and I did think she would disown me, but she didn't and now we get along great! She and my 3-year old daughter are inseparable when they are together (My daughter's father and I planned to get married, but that didn't work out for other reasons). This, however, may not be what works for you. You have to pray or search within yourself if you're not spiritual and find out what works for you. I hope everything works out for the best, regardless of what you decide to do! If you need someone to talk to who does know what you're going through and is not talking out of their a**, you can always e-mail me. Emotional support is the most important thing you will need right now!

Answer 8

Well it's up to you. You can get an abortion at this gestation however, I personally wouldn't do it. Didn't you know you were pregnant long before this when you missed your period? Didn't you have signs like morning sickness and tender breasts?

You will have to tell your parents because soon it will be hard to hide unless you are normally a big girl anyway. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 9

How do you know you are pregnant? 2 week late could be just that late. If you are pregnant, you need to talk to someone you can trust. Planned parenthood can help, if you have access to one. They will go over your options and help you make the best decision. But if you decide to keep the pregnancy, you will have to tell your family sooner or later. This is not something you can hide.

Answer 10

well I'm sorry but your parents will have to know.

I tell you, this is why you have to be careful.

You can have an abortion, no matter what people say it's alright to do so if you think that is what you have to do.

Please treat this as a learning experience for yourself. Sex without planning or love at your age isn't good. No matter what you choose. it will hurt you for a long time.

Good luck on whatever you choose

Answer 11

12 weeks pregnant is to late for an abortion. You need to get under doctors care. As for adoption, you have to have the baby first.

Your going to have to bite the bullet and tell your parents. If you don't think you can do this yourself, talk to your minister, family friend and relative and get them to talk to your parents with you. This is going to be really hard for you, but you are going to need all the help you can get.