Your husband is terminally ill and you are complaining about him not being able to perform and you have "crush" on your boss......
And nobody understand how you feels! You are stuck between your responsibilities, the needs in your life and to act between what you think(brain) and how you feel (heart).
2006-09-03 14:53:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're not a sick woman. Lonely,depressed,vulnerable.But not sick.
All you need is to feel like a woman again for a little while.Have someone hold you.Make you feel desirable so you can escape the tension?
Please do not act on your feelings toward your boss at this point.If it goes somewhere and your husband dies you'll be ate up with guilt the rest of your life.
And if your boss does'nt return your feelings you'll be so embarrassed adding much to what's already on your plate.
I guess the only answer is to take care of your needs yourself .You'll feel better and won't have made a fool of yourself at work.
2006-09-03 15:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you affraid of taking responsibilities and so as you cant commit anything in life togather with your husband, becoz of his situation?
Try putting yourself in he's situation and he sit's in you position, what would you feel/expect if he were SICK MAN, where wife is terminally ill and he's complaining about you not being able to perform, and he had a crush with he's lady boss..
I'm just curious, how would you re-act instead..?
I think you're self minded and selfish person.
2006-09-03 17:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, my mom went through this, What kept her going was something she heard from my grandmother after a short coma during a nursing home stay. Grandma said "I couldn't answer him, but I knew every time my son was sitting by my side, and i understood how much of a sacrifice it was missing time from his family to be here". It made her realize that even though he was not all there, he knew how muc she loved him and how hard it was for her. He appreciated every act of kindness she did for him. Think about it, and if you have an interest in the boss, save it until your husband is gone, he deserves that much respect. So do your marriage vows, they said until death us do part, not until you become impotent!
2006-09-03 15:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be really careful about doing anything you might regret once your husband is gone..........especially with anyone who has as much influence over your future career as your boss. It's probably perfectly normal to feel as you do - have you considered getting some counselling? You are probably wanting to "escape" and "be rescued" from your current situation - which no doubt has a lot to do with your feelings about your boss.
2006-09-03 14:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by hausfrau31557 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not sick, you are overwhelmed. Get involved with a support group for caretakers. Learn to masturbate. Put some distance between you and your boss, or you won't have a boss.
Most of all, take care of yourself before you explode.
2006-09-03 15:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as u said its a normal life so obvoisly its normal to want it. but now i think u r talking of pysically. u want to have sex with ur boss. as long as ur husband is alive u r cheating on him. and god forbid if any thing goes wrong between u and ur boss even ur life at work will be hell. so u will be going from one hell to another. get a vibrator for now. if u looking for a friend then find some one who is not ur boss or co worker so u can atleast get away from routine of work and taking care of hubby. best of luck
2006-09-03 15:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is terminally ill, consider practicing patience. Try to make his passing easier for him, as you will have plenty of time afterwards. In the meantime, consider therapy, either individually or couple's counselling.
2006-09-03 15:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by zandyandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of illness does he have??? You should wait it out and then if you feel as though you cannot live like this then maybe you split up and have his parnets take care of him. How long has he been sick??? I would just wait and pray. You will have the answer soon enough.
2006-09-03 15:36:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mind the world. You are human, with needs. As long as you don't step on others' rights, you may do what you feel is needed to satisfy your needs. Some people might want to impose their morality on you, ignore them.
2006-09-03 15:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by berkut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a sex toy ,,involve your husband..you will feel horrible if you act on this crush ,,i can understand you have needs
but cant they wait..then you can go on with life with a clear conscience...
2006-09-03 15:06:57 · answer #10 · answered by heartzz_ablaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋