I'm bisexual but I've never come out to my family, which is a highly conservative and traditional Mexican family in terms of family/parental roles and relationships. I feel like if I were to tell them I'm bi, they'd automatically equate that with being a lesbian, yet they wouldn't understand that I love both genders equally. Has anyone had a similar experience? The closest I can come to has been with "The L Word" with Carmen's family, where the mother tells her that she'd rather have a "puta" than a "lesbiana" (meaning she'd rather have a whore/slut than a lesbian daughter). That phrase really rings close to home, because I feel like my family would become disillusioned and disappointed with me.
2006-09-03 14:10:36 · 6 answers · asked by utxicana 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
my g/f is half Mexican and half white-but more Mexican in terms of tradition.Her mother is full blooded mexican and she don't mind one bit. My g/f told her mother and her dad,and no problems here.Girl they will either love you regardless or not.
You have to live your life for you,don't do like i have for the past years and worried what people thought about me-just be yourself.
My g/f helped me come out to where i work and all,and nobody even cares.If they like u- that's it they like u!
2006-09-03 14:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what. . . first of all there is nothing wrong with lesbians and you shouldn't be afraid of the word. Second, you need to be honest with everyone, including your family--IF IT MAKES A DIFFERENCE TO YOU. There's no harm in keeping it a secret--as long as you don't go crazy trying to keep it a secret. It's ewasier to just be yourself. Would you disown your family for being a criminal, or a liar, or a cheater, or anything else for that matter? Of course not... but unfortunately your family is small minded. If you don't mind a different relationship with your family--go ahead and just tell them. Wish you luck, and God Bless!
2006-09-03 15:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by Stephen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not on your own yet, I would hold off. If they are that traditional, you could be kicked out or made to see a weird Doctor to make you straight or other stuff. There was just a guy on here a few days ago that told his family and now they are not going to continue to pay for his college education.
If you are on your own and paying your own bills and feel that you need to tell your family, just do it honestly.
I'd read up on coming out stories. Visit the pflag site, gay.com and planetout. The pflag site has some good coming out guidelines.
Good luck!
2006-09-03 14:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. With deep traditions like the kind you say your family has, I think it would be better to keep your sexual preferences to yourself. They aren't going to accept you and you will most likely make them feel like you are bringing shame down on the family.
Why can't you be a lesbian without coming right out and saying it? I'm sure they will figure it out, but it would be best not to be so in their face. Be discreet.
2006-09-03 15:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by Perplexed Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just bring your girlfriend over and let them figure it out. why actually say "oh by the way I'm bi "
they'll figure it out or not, and maybe ask you and then you can tell them.
2006-09-03 14:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to tell them anything?
2006-09-03 15:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋