I have a new friend that I am concerned about. I will try to explain as best I can
This person is always leaving jobs for the flimsiest reasons. Therefore this person is always looking for a job. This person was homeless on several occasions, but has an apartment now. Just recently this person is without a job again and is in danger of being evicted if a job isn't found in time to pay the next installment of rent.
This person is always telling me that they are looking for something better and when they get it, it is not what they are looking for so they quit after a season.
My question is how do you deal with a friend who tells you something and it just doesn't seem to ring true with you? Something is wrong or missing in what they say and you just can't put your finger on it!
2006-09-03 13:42:07 · 14 answers · asked by December Princess 4 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
when something doesnt ring true to me its usually because the person is lying, or witholding info... call them on it, if you are wanting to be helpful then try telling them the truth, as you see it, in a gentle way
2006-09-03 13:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I never had a situation like this before. But I have had a friend that was some what not happy with anything. My best advice to you is, just let that friend see for themselves. I know long talk to the friend that was up under her mother all the time. But I would always give her advice, but some times you just have to say "Keep living" because they are blind sided from there decision right now. My boyfriend is originally from Barbados, and he's been here (in America) for 12 yrs. He dresses like every rapper there is from New York. It really bothers me a lot, because he doesn't have his own identity...and he's 22. And he always says....well you from NY, you know how they we get down. But I am not really like that. But my point is, you can mention things to people, but if they don't see it, then it is not worth trying to make them see. When they really start to change, the problems that they had well start to reveal, and then they will finally know what that other person was talking about the whole
time. About the lying. Apparently, this person doesn't want you to know the whole truth, and that's why they tell you bits and parts. Just continue to be a good friend, and encourage that person.
2006-09-03 14:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have learned to shut out
falsifiyers and truth benders. Tell me who you are. I ll tell you who I am. Whats the big deal. If you lie to me you are treating me like an object. I like the ad posted by all those girls who said they want a fat wallet. good for you.In the old days it was always a big lie cause people didnt talk about stuff like that and still dont in most cases.
2006-09-03 14:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by wpepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your friend find his/her true "calling" in life or vocation?
Seriously ask them what do they like doing? Selling/sales, office work, their own business or whatever they have a passion for.
Perhaps they are just working to pay the bills and are not happy in what they do, so really just ask them, or perhaps they are depressed, and need counseling, and help from medication.
Ask these questions and they should be sincere.
2006-09-03 14:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What difference does your friend's employment status mean to you? You don't sound like you're really worried about his homelessness. You seem to be more worried about your friend living up to your standards. Why don't you try being a true friend? Ask your friend how you can help, then do it.
2006-09-03 14:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said this person is a new friend ..right ? If you are having a problem dealing with it .. and this has been going on all the time, maybe it is time to find another new friend.
2006-09-03 13:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a lost soul to me. If this person is your "friend", act like it. There seems to be no reason for that person's behavior to bother you.
Just do what a friend should do and show some support. Don't judge that which you can't know (how he/she feels).
2006-09-03 13:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do. If you can live with this person being this way then you are lucky and tolerant. If not, dump em. You will always have a problem with them and won't be doing either of you any good.
Don't give them any money!!!!
2006-09-03 14:22:39 · answer #8 · answered by icetender 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to ask what is wrong with you . ? they are either your friend or not. A friend supports no matter what . so maybe you really aren't their friend . If it where me I would walk away from that totally unhappy person that is never satisfied and doesn't even have a clue as to what they want.
2006-09-03 13:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are a drifter....a drifter always has excuses...they meet new poeple and do things in order not to show how they really are...so they pretend to be what ever for a while...they wont hold a job...they feed and live off other people...they wont keep an apartment because it takes money to do that...forget that friend...you don't wanna be tangled up with them...before you know it you'll have them sleeping on your couch and feeding them...and if you already haven't....you'll be handing over cash....DRIFTER.....drifting from here to there....
2006-09-03 21:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋