I have a new friend that I am concerned about. I will try to explain as best I can
This person is always leaving jobs for the flimsiest reasons. Therefore this person is always looking for a job. This person was homeless on several occasions, but has an apartment now. Just recently this person is without a job again and is in danger of being evicted if a job isn't found in time to pay the next installment of rent.
This person is always telling me that they are looking for something better and when they get it, it is not what they are looking for so they quit after a season.
My question is how do you deal with a friend who tells you something and it just doesn't seem to ring true with you? Something is wrong or missing in what they say and you just can't put your finger on it!
2006-09-03 13:40:58 · 12 answers · asked by December Princess 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If you are close to this person , and they value your friendship-gently suggest that perhaps some sort of counseling program would help to improve their situation. Make it clear that you are only mentioning this out of concern . Sometimes a person becomes immune to the reality of their own life situation . The average person would freak out at the possibility of ever being homeless( and do everything in their power to keep it from happening again) ; whereas, it sort of sounds like your friend seems to accept it as the norm ( since it happened more than once ) or par for the course when it happens to him . He probably has a deep need for counseling . Something is wrong alright , your friend does not see the reality of his situation. Of course , to cover up , he says he's looking for something better .He'll never find it if he can't get his head straightened out .A friend helps a friend face the facts and advise him on a "solution ".Good luck .You are a good friend to be concerned .
2006-09-03 15:12:26 · answer #1 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my friend, although he can stay for a whole year in one company. But he has been through 6 or 7 different companies for the last 14 years. I worked for only one company the 5 years I was working. Anyway, the problem lies with your friend. He/She cant be content in his/her work, or just lazy, or his/her expectation from the job is just impossible at the time. Or he /she thinks he/ she is above that work, meaning the work salary is too low and he/she deserves better. Or he/she has a "people problem" - cant get along with a lot of people. Only your friend can change his outlook in life. You should tell that friend to try to stick to the job and resign only AFTER finding a different job and not before..Meanwhile, try to be a little hard and not loan him/her money to pay for the house rent. This will make him think twice before resigning again from a job.
2006-09-03 21:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by *art blest* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These kind of people think more of their abilities than anyone else does. Many times they are not qualified for the jobs they want. When they get the jobs they can't handle them, so therefore the
boss isn't happy with their performance and complains about it.
This kind of person also thinks very highly of themselves and doesn't take kindly to criticism, so they quit yet another job. I know such a person. This has been going on for years. How many jobs they have had I can't even say, but it is never her
fault, it is always someone Else's.
2006-09-03 20:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Friends like this drain you. Break off the friendship before you end up paying their bills or letting them move in.
You were friends as long as it was give & take. After it becomes give & give. There is no longer a friendship it then becomes parenting. Adopt a child if you want to provide nurturing.
Don't waste your time on an adult.
2006-09-03 21:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by paintressa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One good way to deal with this type of person is to wish them the best & try not to worry about them. Remember it's their life to walk & no one can do it for them. They will come to terms with things in their own time & way.
Remember he is a NEW friend, not a childhood chum. Sorry but you can't save everybody all the time.
2006-09-03 20:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by ancestorhorse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
before you gets too involved with him its best to think what will he do next, by not being able to hold on to a job, he needs someone to provide for him, his food and lodging, if he has gained your sympathy and you take him in, he's set for life, buming around there's always food when he's hungry and a place to sleep all free provided by YOU!! before you know it,he'll be demanding money from you.
2006-09-03 21:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by Dreamweaver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough love.
Confront your friend and give him a slap across the face. Cut your losses and leave this "friend" to the streets with his shopping cart. He'll thank you for it. And if not, you won't have to spend time worrying about this loser.
2006-09-03 20:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by Da Brain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being able to hold down a job can be a sign of severe depression or even bi-polar disorder.
talk with your friend...find out how he or she feels.
if you see signs of depression ask them to go for help....
2006-09-03 20:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by chefzilla65 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
See I know it won't sound very friendly, but a friend that brings only worries and more worries shouldn't be a friend, I believe.
2006-09-03 20:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by Kazeed 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If this (friend) cannot see the problem then I do not think you can help them. do not let them into your inner life
2006-09-03 20:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by norsmen 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋