I have a new friend that I am concerned about. I will try to explain as best I can
This person is always leaving jobs for the flimsiest reasons. Therefore this person is always looking for a job. This person was homeless on several occasions, but has an apartment now. Just recently this person is without a job again and is in danger of being evicted if a job isn't found in time to pay the next installment of rent.
This person is always telling me that they are looking for something better and when they get it, it is not what they are looking for so they quit after a season.
My question is how do you deal with a friend who tells you something and it just doesn't seem to ring true with you? Something is wrong or missing in what they say and you just can't put your finger on it!
2006-09-03 13:39:44 · 13 answers · asked by December Princess 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I would say that if you want to keep this friend, roll with it.
I have a friend who does the exact thing you've described. My way of dealing is to just let him be who he's going to be. Does your ability to live a happy life hinge on whether or not he really wants to have a job? (I am guessing no)
Maybe this is just one of those things that you need to let go and let this person make his/her own decision. If you can't handle it, maybe you should let go of the friendship.
2006-09-03 13:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by fireweedgirl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I once had a problem with staying put in one place. I became addicted to moving. I lived in 23 different places in just a matter of a couple of years. Your friend may have a phsycological addiction to changing jobs. The reasons he/she leaves may not ring true because they're only true in your friend's mind. Some people crave change whether it's their relationships, their homes, or their jobs. Some people have real problems being stable. There's probably a term for it but I don't know what it is.
2006-09-03 20:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, come to realize, she was just lazy and making excuses. Didn't really want to work, wanted friends to feel sorry for her and help out, take care of her. Didn't work though, everyone always saw through her. She just had the stupidity to believe that being her friend, you should feel sorry for her and help pay her bills. Don't know what ever happened to her, got tired of the B.S. from her and quit hanging with her. Oh, she wasn't like this when we first became friends, just seemed to develope over time.
She never seemed to have her life on track, but, boy would she put you down for yours. Pull a holier-than-thou act better than anyone. Didn't sit well with me, don't like people like thay.
2006-09-03 20:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by creeklops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, first thing I would do is ask them what is it they are looking for and what do they want out of life? Tell them to stop running from things that they can not change. What are there goals ?Where do they want to be in life? Never quit a job until you have one lined up. Pray for this person and guide them the best you can, which I'm sure you are. Good Luck. Pam
2006-09-03 20:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Danny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a while it takes more energy to 'stay down' than it does to get better. Hopefully he/she gets tired of living in 'survival mode' and gets their act together. I have a friend like that. He tells me this and that, but doesn't do it. When he does that, I don't get down on him. I just tell him this: In life, it doesn't matter what you say. What really matters is what you do. Don't tell me what you are going to do...show me what you've done.
2006-09-03 20:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by ThatguyPete 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just isn't suited for standard jobs he might have to do something odd like pearl diving or creative artist to enjoy life while most people can be modestly happy with a white collar job that life just isn't for everybody
2006-09-03 20:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by dachshund_lord 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thiink u should just give up.this person doesn't need help they need attention and pampering.you could get that from your parent's.maybe there just giving u a hint that they want u to carry them.is impossible to not like anything they are just to lay back if u ask me.
2006-09-03 21:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by bettyboop8323 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you leave this person alone because it seems that they have some problems that you cant figure out and thats a bad thing,leave them alone.
2006-09-03 20:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by Donut Forget About Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wherever your friend works, i dout he'll like the job, not to many people work for someone they like or having while working so tell him or her not to give up
2006-09-03 20:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by Richard S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the dead beat
2006-09-03 20:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋