When you notice someone might need your help...?

Question

Do you help them?
Do you make time for them?
Do you ignore them when they tell you they don't want/need your help?
Do you ignore their need for help?

Answer 1

You start by asking about someone who "might need your help" and end by assuming they need your help.

It's one thing to offer help to someone who seems to need it. Nothing wrong with that, and much right with it -- if you are being reasonable in your perceptions.

If you offer help, and the person doesn't want it, then you should leave them alone. Trying to force help on someone who doesn't want it is exceedingly rude. It's insulting to pretend you know what they need better than they do. (You wouldn't be "ignoring them" but respecting their wishes.)

If you have some particular situation in mind, it would be better to describe it -- how could we know what's actually going on?

Remember, it's easy to be arrogant and assume you know better than other people. But you may not know everything that's going on.

Also, you may think someone who is perfectly happy with their situation needs help, when it's simply a matter of their living their lives their way.

Finally, even if you are right and they are wrong, it's counter-productive (as well as rude) to try to force them against their will. They will have every right to resent your interference.

Answer 2

That depends on the situation. If it's a case where someone is in dire need of immediate help lest something horrible happen, then yes of course I'll help. The rest is all shades of gray. You should post a hypothetical scenario and ask everyone what they would do.

Answer 3

While I assist everyone I'm able to I also draw a line when it seems a situation of enabling. If they didn't want help I'd simply let them know to call if they change their mind. Of course I'd make time for them and do whatever can be done...unless of course they never try themselves and plan to let others do it all for them. In that scenario helping them is depriving them of learning to help themselves.

Answer 4

It would depend on the situation. If someone was being attacked, then i would help. However if someone need help with a project, i would make time for them.

Answer 5

I love to use this medium to help if i can. even if it means telling someone something they don't want to hear. ignore them? how could anyone ignore pain and suffering? i offer what experience i might have and hope that it does help them. hugs

Answer 6

I intercede in as subtle a way as possible mostly. Sometimes direct talking works(mostly) but at times if its financial for example-i had a friend who owed 1000euros to someone and she was fairly stuck. She is proud and would not accept help but the mpney lender was on her back about it. I went to the money lender, paid him, and asked him to ease off her and ask only for what she can give when she can give it-which in time comes back to me.
She doesn't know this and would hate the thought of me helping her.
I make my whole life for helping-in the non helping parts of life i try to help others. In strolling down the street i try to help. We can all help in the tiniest ways which echo greatly in the souls we meet. Its a beautiful thing and i cant see how some people dont help.
There is ONE exception. People who cling to me unhealthily after i've helped them and do nothing but lean lean lean, rely rely rely. I try to have as much energy for them as i can but sometimes its best to let them go.
But should they have a REAL bad problem afterward i'm more than happy to help, as long as the price for helping isn't a life-long enslavement of my skills to help others.
How have you helped your own life?

Answer 7

I'll answer you with another question!
Why would someone iggnore someone in need?
If I know someone in need i would help him out as much as I can even if the person would tell me he doesen't want any help.
I would know if he needs help or not... God gave us the power to decide & judge what's right & wrong!

Answer 8

Do I help them? yes if they accept help
Do I make time for them? yes, unless I can't for some important reason
Do I ignore them when they tell me they dont want my help? no, not ignore, I apologize and leave them be
Do I ignore their need? no, not if I recognize the need and can help

Answer 9

I help them and make time for them

one thing wrong with our society today
no one wants to be bothered with others

Answer 10

It wouldn't matter to me, who it is. I would help immediately. No matter what color, religion, sex it is. I would be there with my cell phone and until expert help arrived, I would try real hard to help in every which way that I know.